Sedona Shamanic Journey Drum Healing

The drum is a powerful tool used in shamanic journeying. The steady beat held for long periods of time can facilitate helping one reach a semi-altered state of consciousness. When we are in this relaxed state, we are able to tap into a deep knowing and communicate with Spirit. We can receive visions, messages, and feelings that may help us find answers, guidance, and direction in our lives. Learn more about shamanic journeying.

Coming to Sedona? Book your shamanic drum healing session today! Hope to see you soon! ❤ Rebekah

Happy Full Wolf Moon January 17th 2022

Happy full wolf moon tonight! 🐺 🌙 Make sure to get some moon-baithing time in to nourish your spirit. Sitting under and gazing at the moon helps to strengthen your intuition and psychic abilities. On the night of the full moon, we don’t have fire in respect of the light that the grandmother is offering us. This is a time to acknowledge all of the good that has happened in the last moon cycle (one month). Gather a circle of friends, sit in a circle and share all that you are grateful for. Also, stand and look at your moon-shadow… love them, thank them and bless them. Your shadow is a very important part of your human being. Enjoy my friends. ❤

Twenty-one Day Manifestation Mantra

This coaching exercise can help us begin to attract what we do want into our lives by showing us how to speak in more positive terms. Also, it can remind us on a daily basis to take actions to be better in alignment with what we do want. This exercise teaches us how gratitude plays a huge role in attracting what we want. When we are grateful for what we have, we attract more of what we want. We will also look at the law of least effort and of releasing attachment. Experts say that it takes 21 days to form or break a habit.

For those seeking material abundance, this exercise can also help…

In life, we tend to get exactly what we need exactly in the moment we need it. There is a sequence of events and a divine process that we must experience and understand before we can allow material abundance into our lives. When we learn to open our hearts to love, appreciation and gratitude, we will then step into the flow of material abundance that is awaiting us.

The Law of Least Effort -By Deepak Chopra
Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease…with carefreeness, harmony, and love. When we harness the forces of harmony, joy, and love, we create success and good fortune with effortless ease.
I will put the Law of Least Effort into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:

  1. I will practice acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole of the universe by fighting against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.
  2. Having accepted things as they are, I will take responsibility for my situation and for all those events that I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself.) I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and with this alertness to opportunities, I will allow myself to take this moment to transform it into a greater benefit.
  3. Today my awareness will remain established in defenselessness. I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to convince or persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open to all points of view and will not be rigidly attached to any one of them. – Deepak Chopra

“Your purpose is to grow to the point where “I am love” is at the surface of your consciousness, not buried in the dark depths.” -Deepak Chopra

San Kalpa (sahn KAL-pah) is an ancient Sanskrit sutra that means “My intentions have infinite organizing power.” When you enter a meditative state and repeat this sutra, you strengthen the power of your intentions. Here is how to use it:

Spend a few minutes in meditation, allowing your mind to settle. Now imagine that the entire universe is a vast ocean of consciousness and that your intentions are emerging from your heart, rippling out into the ocean, where they are fulfilled with effortless ease. Then speak silently to yourself, “San Kalpa.”

For every intention, whether for healing, a new relationship, wealth, or opportunity, envision the desired outcome in your mind and repeat the sutra, letting it resonate deeper and deeper within you.

Preparation: Have paper ready to do the exercise.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Complete the steps in the 21 Day Manifestation Mantra.

Items you may want to use: Journal, Gratitude Stone

The “I Wants’: Make a list of everything you want to do, be, or have. Example: I want to live in Hawaii. I want a loving relationship. I want to be wealthy and have a lot of money. If you think of something else later, it’s okay to add it to the list at any time.

Releasing the “I Wants”: Release the “I wants.” In order to release their wants, some may choose to crumble up the list and throw it away, while some choose to burn it. When we say, “I want,” what we are really saying is, “I don’t have.” If you are familiar with the law of attraction, then you know that the universe mirrors our thoughts, words and actions. What we think about, what we say, the feelings we have and the actions we take are equal to what we will attract.

Transforming the “I wants”: On a completely new piece of paper, transform each item into words of already having it. These will each be your mantras.

Example: I enjoy living in Hawaii. I have a loving relationship. I am wealthy and have a lot of money.

If that is too much for you then you could say, “I am going to live in Hawaii, “or “I can have a loving relationship” or “I am attracting wealth and money.”

1-10 Scale: On a scale of 1-10, rate where you are right now with each item on the list, 1 meaning you are far from where you want to be, and 10 meaning you are where you want to be. It is always a good idea to measure your progress anytime you start something new.

Gratitude: End your mantra with a statement of gratitude. This is a very important part of this process because gratitude is a key factor in attracting more of what you want. Each day, for the next 21 days, make sure to take a moment and feel gratitude for each thing that you already have.

Plan it: Schedule the 21 days into your calendar. You will find that if you really want to do something or go somewhere, you have to write it on your calendar. When you do this, you will start scheduling other events around it and will make it more possible to actually follow through on your goal. Set your intention and desire for what you want to get out of this exercise and let the universe handle the details.

The work: Read each mantra out loud to yourself every morning for the next 21 days. While doing this you may want to hold a gratitude stone or some sort of physical item that represents personally represents your gratitude.

Take a few minutes after reading each mantra to stop and visualize yourself as already having, being, or doing what you stated in your mantra. Remain in a place of gratitude throughout the day, accepting people, places, circumstances, and events exactly as they are.

*If you miss one day, you are encouraged to start the process over. It is important to do this for 21 days consecutive to experience your desired outcome.

Practice Non-Judgment: Let go of the habit of judging and evaluating people. Remember to also let go of judging places, circumstances, situations, and events as well. Everyone you encounter in life is doing the best that they can with the past conditioning they have had. Likewise, situations and things are exactly as they are because that is where the universe intended them to be at the present moment. Acknowledge that they are not good or bad, they simply are. All people, places, circumstances, things, etc. that are happening around you are happening because they are in line with their own paths. Each thing is a reaction to what they know. Everything that is happening right now is a result of what we have done in the past. Within every problem, there is an opportunity in disguise. Look for the positive in every moment.

Take the Right Action: Take action that supports, and is in alignment with your wants and desires. One of my favorite sayings is, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, then you will keep getting what you’ve always got.” Use the E+R=O exercise, the event plus your response to the event equals the outcome. If you don’t like the outcome you are getting, then you have to change your response to the event.

Release Attachment: Release all attachment to your desired outcome. It’s okay if what you want doesn’t happen and it’s okay if it does happen. Remain open to new possibilities and look for opportunities throughout each day. Just know that whatever happens is in perfect alignment with your true purpose in life. If something that you really want doesn’t happen, then there is a reason for it, or perhaps it is just not the right time for it to happen yet. Remember, the more you act like you don’t have something, the more you push it away.

Journal: Journal each day to record your progress. Describe your experiences and events with detail.

Review: On the 22nd day review your notes, and measure where you are now with each item using the 1-10 scale. Celebrate your success! Do something nice for yourself today to show appreciation and gratitude.

After the 21st day, something in your awareness will have changed, you may have a realization of something, or circumstances may have changed. We usually get what we need before we get what we want. Most often, we have to grow through life’s experience before we are ready for what we desire most. In other words, we have to make space for the new circumstances by removing the old.

The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements used as a coaching exercise can help reveal the source of self-limiting beliefs that can rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives into a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love by Don Miguel Ruiz.

There are thousands of agreements that you can make with yourself, with other people, with your dream of life, society, your parents, your partner, or with your children. It is important to remember that the most essential agreements are the ones you make with yourself. In these agreements, you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave. The result of this develops your personality.

The Four Agreements are:

  1. Be Impeccable with Your Word– Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid speaking against yourself or gossiping about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
  2. Don’t Take Anything Personally– Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality and their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
  3. Don’t Make Assumptions– Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
  4. Always Do Your Best– No matter what you are doing, always do your best. Even if it’s something that you may not want to do, still do your best. Avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Bonus! There is a fifth agreement that was recently released.

  1. Be skeptical, but learn to listen– By being skeptical, we don’t believe everything we hear, we don’t put our faith in lies, and when our faith is not in lies, we quickly move beyond emotional drama, victimization, and the limiting belief systems that have been programmed into us. The Fifth Agreement prepares us to return to our innate wisdom, and live our lives based on truth. The truth leads to self-mastery or a life that’s very easy to live. As messengers of truth, we are free to express ourselves and live our lives without fear, regret, or shame. This agreement is ultimately about seeing our whole reality through eyes of honest truth. The result of practicing this agreement is the complete acceptance of ourselves exactly the way we are. The reward is our eternal happiness.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper or your journal ready for this exercise.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Think about something that has been on your mind lately that you would like to resolve or get more clarity on.

Now ask yourself powerful questions related to each agreement: Take a few minutes to review each one and make notes on your insights and answers.

Be Impeccable with Your Word

In this situation, did you say something you didn’t mean?

Did you judge or blame others?

Did you judge or blame yourself?

Have you expressed words of doubt or fear in this situation? Did your opinion hurt another, or did another’s opinion hurt you?

Do you feel like you have been in integrity to yourself regarding this situation?

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Did someone else say or do something that affected you?

Have you allowed yourself to suffer because of this?

Have you limited yourself because of something someone else did?

How is your personal truth different from another?

Have you expressed your true feelings in this situation?

Don’t Make Assumptions

Was there a misunderstanding in this situation?

Did you ask for what you wanted? Did you get it?

Were you afraid to ask for what you wanted?

Did an assumption create sadness or drama for anyone in this situation?

Are you sure about what others were saying and their intention?

Did you or others make an assumption that leads to a misunderstanding?

How can you find more clarity in this situation?

Always Do Your Best

Do you feel like you are doing your best in this situation?

Could you do better? What could you do?

Are your words or actions coming from a place of love, for the highest good of all?

Did you do or say something only to expect the same thing back?

What ideas do you still have that may be stopping you from doing your best in this situation?

Is there a part of your past that you are willing to let go of to make way for your dreams?

Be skeptical, but learn to listen

Do you believe everything you have heard about this?

Have you put your faith in lies?

Has this created drama, victimization, and limiting beliefs?

What is the truth in this situation?

Have you experienced any fear, regret, or shame regarding this situation?

Can you accept the situation as it is?

Can you accept others the way they are?

Can you accept you the way you are?

Focus the session: If you had to choose one of the five agreements to work on first, which one would it be?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to create better agreements in your life? Write it down.

Reference: Don Miguel Ruiz, the Four Agreements and the Fifth Agreement. www.MiguelRuiz.com

Silence Stillness and Learning to Listen

You know the saying, “silence is golden?” The phrase is a universal guide to helping us in all areas of our life. It means it is better to be silent than to speak. This is very important information when learning a spiritual practice.

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” – Plato

7 Reasons Why Silence is Golden

1. Words are Sacred
Words are not just a sound to communicate to someone, it is a vibration that you send out to the universe. When we speak, we are not just speaking words. We are communicating with our tones and our emotional state. In Sanskrit, each word is a specific frequency. This allows the speaker to clearly communicate his intent without any confusion or vague meanings. But our modern languages leave us open for interpretation! This is due to a lack of frequency alignment and little understanding in emotions in a society ruled by reason. In spiritual matters, the word can be understood in plants, animals, and babies alike. If our words become exclusive to humans, then we will be further disconnected with nature.

2. You become Wise
When words are many, words become prone to destructive sayings. Remember the sticks and stones nursery rhyme? “Sticks and stones will break my bones. but words will never hurt me.”

We believe that words are arbitrary sounds that don’t do anything because words don’t give a blow to the physical body. Yet, why do words hurt? It is because words do hurt if it is used as a weapon. People who are ignorant of the power of words may cause harm on the mental and astral levels of the body. Science already recognizes the power of suggestions, where words can influence the behavior of the person’s mental and emotional state to cause a certain outcome.

For example, negative suggestions would tell the child, “Do Not press the giant yellow button that says “Press Me.” Most people will press the button because their curiosity got the best of them. But it is the words themselves that can travel, in strings of frequency, to the mind of the receiver. Words can inflict blows as powerful as a blow to the physical body. It doesn’t attack the physical body, but it does attack the mental, emotional and spiritual body. The more we learn to use words wisely, the better our life will become.

3. You can’t help those who don’t want to listen
A person in need of help will seek your help. A person not looking for help will filter your help as being a nuisance. Be careful of helping others without their consent, this may end up making them worse, even if the help was truly genuine. People will not be open to being helped if it isn’t asked for at that particular time. Thus, only help those who are asking for your help. Do not help others whose help is not needed. Otherwise, it will be a waste of your energy and their energy.

If you share your enthusiasm for truth, spiritual insights, or beliefs to a person who isn’t listening, they may unconsciously put you down. They will either argue with you or try and question everything you say, or try to get you to believe their point of view.

Truth is stranger than fiction, but people would rather listen to fiction that makes sense than to a truth that they can’t comprehend.

4. Silence frees us from people’s words
Silence frees us from what people think of us, how they judge us, and what they say to us. It is true that the more negative judgments people have on us, the more we feel drained from their words.

Your power comes from your belief. If that belief is weakened or crushed by other people’s disbelief and failures, then so will your power and sanity.

Be silent of your powers. Be silent of your gifts. Be silent of your practices, unless it is to someone worthy to be shared with.

By being silent with our personal practices to people who do not align with us vibrationally, it will make us much more free of needless words that do not help.

5. Spiritual things are of an unspoken nature
For us to connect, to listen to the voices of our inner being, we must be still to hear the words of Spirit. Spirit is felt and sometimes seen. By first feeling and experiencing, we will then come to know and see.

By talking and exchanging words, we come to theorize and theorizing leads to collecting intellectual knowledge, but intellectual knowledge is not the same as knowing. It can help, but it is the experience that we come to realize. The more we talk and talk and talk, the less we truly experience it. Then the spiritual things become a mere concept where people will either believe or disbelieve it and forever be in an endless loop of restlessness. But if we bring silence into the conversation, experiencing spiritual things for ourselves, then words no longer matter and we have peace within ourselves.

6. Silence brings reflection
There are some who fear the silence. When there is silence in a conversation, we fill it up with endless chatter so that it won’t get awkward. When there is silence in our environment, we turn on the television or music to fill the area with noises. In silence, we are stripped of all distractions and we are met with facing ourselves. If we are uneasy with our own silence, it is because we don’t feel secure with how we are truly feeling. Once we are at ease with silence, we find that silence welcomes reflection in ourselves, and healing comes when we can reflect within our deeper selves.

7. Listen and understand

We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” – Epictetus

Not talking means you are listening. When you are listening, you understand. There is no need to come up with something to say. There is no need to worry about whether you are a good conversationalist. And there is no need to try to make out what the person is trying to say.

Everything that you need will come to you if you are open to receiving it.

Exercise: Choose a specific time of day where you will remain completely silent or if you can, for an entire day. Let those know whom you are close to that you will be doing this. Have a pen and paper ready to let them know you are being silent for a while. Also, practice silence out in public or at work, and only speak when you absolutely have to.

Co-dependence, Independence and Interdependence

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE INDEPENDENT?

To be independent means to be free from outside control and not depending on another’s authority yet being capable of taking care of one’s self, while being willing to ask for assistance when or if needed.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE CO-DEPENDENT?

To be co-dependent means to be physically or psychologically addicted to any person or thing in an unhealthy way. Codependency is also a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s drug addiction, alcoholism, gambling addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. When codependency and addiction occur together, the two behaviors can reinforce one another. 

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE INTERDEPENDENT?

There is a difference between inter-dependency and codependency. In codependent relationships, the partners have difficulty being themselves while being in the relationship.

Often, codependent people feel that they “should” be independent. This leads to black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking: either you or totally independent, to the point of being unrelated, or you are codependent!

In fact, you cannot be both in a relationship and totally independent. The challenge is to be interdependent, recognizing that you need your partner and your partner needs you… but both of you also need to be individuals.

SYMPTOMS OF CODEPENDENCY:

People who have codependent behaviors often have the following symptoms:

  • Low self-esteem due to deeply held feelings of shame, guilt, inadequacy, and a need for perfection.
  • A need to make other people happy and a difficulty saying “no.”
  • Difficulty creating healthy boundaries and distinguishing responsibility for actions.
  • A need to control situations, people, and their own feelings.
  • Poor communication skills.
  • Obsessively thinking about other people and their own anxieties and fears.
  • Their own dependency on other people.
  • Fear of and issues with intimacy.
  • Negative and painful emotions such as depression, resentment, and despair.

LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Feeling that you’re not good enough or comparing yourself to others are signs of low self-esteem. One thing about self-esteem is that some people think highly of themselves, but it’s only a disguise — they actually feel unlovable or inadequate. Underneath, usually hidden from consciousness, are feelings of shame. Guilt and perfectionism often go along with low self-esteem. If everything is perfect, you don’t feel bad about yourself.

PEOPLE-PLEASING
It’s fine to want to please someone you care about, but codependents usually don’t think they have a choice. Saying “No” causes them anxiety. Some codependents have a hard time saying “No” to anyone. They go out of their way and sacrifice their own needs to accommodate other people.

POOR BOUNDARIES
Boundaries are sort of an imaginary line between you and others. It divides up what’s yours and somebody else’s, and that applies not only to your body, money, and belongings but also to your feelings, thoughts, and needs. That’s especially where codependents get into trouble. They have blurry or weak boundaries. They feel responsible for other people’s feelings and problems or blame their own on someone else. Some codependents have rigid boundaries. They are closed off and withdrawn, making it hard for other people to get close to them. Sometimes, people flip back and forth between having weak boundaries and having rigid ones.

A consequence of poor boundaries is that you react to everyone’s thoughts and feelings. If someone says something you disagree with, you either believe it or become defensive. You absorb their words because there’s no boundary. With a boundary, you’d realize it was just their opinion and not a reflection of you and not feel threatened by disagreements.

Another effect of poor boundaries is that if someone else has a problem, you want to help them to the point that you give up yourself. It’s natural to feel empathy and sympathy for someone, but codependents start putting other people ahead of themselves. In fact, they need to help and might feel rejected if another person doesn’t want help. Moreover, they keep trying to help and fix the other person, even when that person clearly isn’t taking their advice.

CONTROL
Control helps codependents feel safe and secure. Everyone needs some control over events in their life. You wouldn’t want to live in constant uncertainty and chaos, but for codependents, control limits their ability to take risks and share their feelings. Sometimes they have an addiction that either helps them loosen up, like alcoholism, or helps them hold their feelings down, like over-working so that they don’t feel out of control. Codependents also need to control those close to them, because they need other people to behave in a certain way to feel okay. In fact, people-pleasing and care-taking can be used to control and manipulate people. Alternatively, codependents are bossy and tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. This is a violation of someone else’s boundary.

POOR COMMUNICATION
Codependents have trouble when it comes to communicating their thoughts, feelings, and needs. Of course, if they are not aware of what they think, feel or need, this becomes a problem. Other times, they know, but they won’t own up to their truth. They’re afraid to be truthful because they don’t want to upset someone else. Instead of saying, “I don’t like that,” they might pretend that it’s okay or tell someone what to do. Communication becomes dishonest and confusing when they try to manipulate the other person out of fear.

OBSESSIVENESS
Codependents have a tendency to spend their time thinking about other people or relationships. This is caused by their dependency and anxieties and fears. They can also become obsessed when they think they’ve made or might make a “mistake.”Sometimes they can lapse into a fantasy about how they’d like things to be or about someone you love as a way to avoid the pain of the present. This is one way to stay in denial, discussed below, but it keeps them from living their life.

DEPENDENCY
Codependents need other people to like them in order to feel okay about themselves. They’re afraid of being rejected or abandoned. Others need always to be in a relationship because they feel depressed or lonely when they’re by themselves for too long. This trait makes it hard for them to end a relationship, even when the relationship is painful or abusive. They end up feeling trapped.

DENIAL
One of the problems people face in getting help for codependency is that they’re in denial about it, meaning that they don’t face their problem. Usually, they think the problem is someone else or the situation. They either keep complaining or trying to fix the other person, or go from one relationship or job to another and never own up the fact that they have a problem. Codependents also deny their feelings and needs. Often, they don’t know what they’re feeling and are instead focused on what others are feeling. The same thing goes for their needs. They pay attention to other people’s needs and not their own. They might be in denial of their need for space and autonomy. Although some codependents seem needy, others act like they’re self-sufficient when it comes to needing help. They won’t reach out and have trouble receiving. They are in denial of their vulnerability and need for love and intimacy.

INTIMACY
By this, I’m not referring to sex, although sexual dysfunction often is a reflection of an intimacy problem. I’m talking about being open and close to someone in an intimate relationship. Because of the shame and weak boundaries, you might fear that you’ll be judged, rejected, or left. On the other hand, you may fear being smothered in a relationship and losing your autonomy. You might deny your need for closeness and feel that your partner wants too much of your time; your partner complains that you’re unavailable, but he or she is denying his or her need for separateness.

EMOTIONS
Codependency creates stress and leads to painful emotions. Shame and low self-esteem create anxiety and fear about being judged, rejected or abandoned; making mistakes; being a failure; feeling trapped by being close or being alone. The other symptoms lead to feelings of anger and resentment, depression, hopelessness, and despair. When the feelings are too much, you can feel numb.

CO-DEPENDENCY AND ADDICTION:
Codependency and addiction are often closely related, as codependency was first associated with partners of alcoholics. Today, addiction is still one of the most common associations of codependency. How does this work?

People with a drug or alcohol addiction often have a range of problems stemming from their addiction. These may include:

  • Issues with work and money
  • Problems with other relationships
  • High-risk behaviors
  • A constant need for emotional support.

The codependent partner does what they can to support the addict through all of these trials and tribulations. There may be token gestures to help the addict get clean, but the addictive behavior is not resolved, and the difficult life circumstances continue.

Indeed, the codependent often helps the addict to engage in harmful behaviors, helps to clean up and cover for them. They may also provide money and other support.

Codependency is not always associated with addiction, but for those who are addicts, there is often a codependent. And, in many cases, the codependent often engages in addictive behavior themselves. It may happen that people in this situation both engage in codependent behavior. More frequently, however, one person will have more severe addiction issues, and the other will support them.

SELF EVALUATION EXERCISE

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Ask yourself the following questions…

Am I co-dependent on anyone?

Am I co-dependent on anything?

If so, what does that look like?

How do I behave?

What or whom am I giving my power away to?

How does it serve me to be co-dependent?

How can I take my power back from this situation?

Is someone else co-dependent on me?

How can I act differently toward them?

Am I dis-empowering them by contributing to their co-dependency or addiction?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to become more independent or interdependent? Write it down.

Vision Quest

A vision quest is a solo journey that takes place in nature. It is a time to step back and withdraw and remove ourselves from our personal confusion. Our inner truth emerges from stillness and retreat. This is a time when we are “seeking a vision.”

The vision quest is one of the oldest methods used by tribal people to seek direction in life. Usually, under the guidance of a medicine person, the seeker is sent to a remote location to fast and pray for several days.

The vision quest is a time for us to ask assistance from our spirit allies and ancestors so that our choices will be reinforced by their wisdom. Keep in mind when you are seeking answers that you stay open and accepting of the guidance you receive.

The Lakota Sioux word for Vision Quest is Hembleciya (ham-blay-che-ya). The word Hembleciya means “Crying for a Dream.” Sometimes this ceremony is called “going up on the hill,” because people would often go to a nearby mountain to carry out their Vision Quest.

This is a time to get guidance, clarity and direction on life’s larger questions. These are questions like…

  • Who am I?
  • What am I meant to do with my life?
  • What is my life’s mission?
  • What is my purpose in life?
  • Is it time for me to change careers?
  • What must I do with my relationship?
  • What can I do about my health?

Questions like these are often answered on a vision quest when we leave the business of our lives behind for a moment.

Even if you don’t have a burning question, it’s still a good idea to go on a vision quest to explore the depths of your soul. Your soul knows the truth and if we take the time to sit in this quietude, then the answers to all of our questions will become clear. But we first must become still to receive these messages.

Exercise: Schedule at least one day and/or one night where you will take time away from people and situations (around the full moon is best). Bring your cell phone but keep it on silent and put it away. You only have it at this point for emergencies. Create a sacred circle of stones or surround a small area with sage or cedar for protection. Simply become one with nature, be still, watch for the signs, and open your heart to receive the messages from your higher power. Try to stay awake throughout the night but if you do fall asleep, try and remember your dreams. Then you can journal about your experience.

Items to bring: Drum, sage, and any other ceremonial items that you believe may help you.

*Always let someone know where you will be and what time you intend to return.

*Bring plenty of water

The High Priestess

The origin of the High Priestess II

The High Priestess is the second Major Arcana card in traditional Tarot decks. The High Priestess is identified as the female indwelling presence of the divine. She wears plain blue robes and sits with her hands in her lap. She has a lunar crescent at her feet, and wears a horned diadem on her head, with a globe in the middle. She is seated between the white and black pillars ‘J’ and ‘B’ for Jachin and Boaz of the mystic Temple of Solomon. The veil of the Temple is behind her, it is embroidered with palm leaves (male) and pomegranates (female). The High Priestess is a card of mystery, stillness, and passivity. This card suggests that it is time to retreat and reflect upon the situation and trust your inner instincts to guide you through it. Things around you are not what they appear to be right now. The card upright represents hidden talents, Intuition, Mystery, spiritual insight, and things yet to be revealed. The card reversed represents information withheld, inner voice blocked, self-awareness has already happened, no more meditation is needed, lack of personal harmony, and secrets. She represents the element of water and her ruling planet is the moon. It is also believed that her divine counterpart would be the hierophant. The Hierophant represents tradition and commitment and is considered one of the marriage cards of the tarot. Together they represent the most powerful couple coming together yet remaining individuals.

Meaning

A time to search for one’s inner self. A time of reflection. Intuition can at times, be more powerful than logic. Answers lie deep within and require much thought and soul searching.

Knows her value and her worth

Guided by Intuition

Mysterious

Stillness

Spiritual wisdom

Higher power

Feminine divinity

Spirit Guides and Communication with the Spirit World

Spirit guides are unseen beings or “the unseens” that were assigned to us before we were born. They are there to help guide us through life and are responsible for helping us fulfill the spiritual contract we made with ourselves before we entered this body and this world.

Some guides will stay with you throughout your entire life, and others will pop in every now and again to help you with specific areas of your life. These guides exist at different levels of consciousness. Some may be ascended masters (such as Jesus) and others might be your average spirit who just happens to be a master in a certain area. Other ascended masters include Sanat Kumara, Gautama Buddha, Maitreya, Confucius, Lord Lanto (Confucius’ historical mentor), Mary (mother of Jesus), Lady Master Nada, Enoch, Kwan Yin, Saint Germain, and Kuthumi. In numerology, when you see the numbers 333, you can trust that your ascended masters are close, watching over and guiding you. When it’s time for your spirit guides to help you, they tune in to your energy and help direct you to fulfill your mission here on earth.

They may appear to have a male or female energy, though in reality, they are just pure energy. They may be spirits who have had physical incarnations in the past, or they might be spirits who have not yet taken physical form. You may be the only person they are guiding, or they may be working with other people as well.

How do our Spirit Guides help us?

Our Spirit guides always know what’s going on in your life, and when it’s time for them to guide or intervene, they will and they have several ways they can achieve this. One example is being in a hurry to get to work and a slow car pulls in front of you, then later up ahead, you watch another car hit the one in front of the car that slowed you down.

Sending Signs

Our Guides can arrange synchronicities to help alert us to something we need to see or know about. Pay close attention to synchronicities when they happen. Like looking at the clock and seeing 11:11 often or seeing things in pairs or doubles. In Native American culture, a sign could come in the form of an animal that crosses your path or the wind that blows in a particular

Intuitive Insight

Our Guides can send us glimpses of intuition which may sound like a voice in your head. “Slow down” or “Wait.” These are thoughts that appear to come out of nowhere but have important information, direction and guidance for you. With so many distractions today, it is easy to disregard your intuition, but if you can practice by paying more attention to it, then it can be a very valuable source of guidance.

Spirit Guides in the form of People

Your guides will sometimes line people up and put them in your path. Maybe you were thinking about someone and then see them later the same day. Pay attention, maybe they have a bit of information for you. Maybe they tell you about a specific book to read.

Spirit Guides in the Form of Animals

Our spirit guides may also come in the form of an animal, these are called, “Animal Spirit Guides.” Our animal spirit guides may come in physical form as well as our dreams and visions. They may show up for a moment, a season, or a lifetime. Either way, they are there to help us on our path.

Arranging Situations

Your Guides can also arrange things to happen to get you to go in the direction they want you to go. Maybe you’re running late because your car won’t start or you can’t find your phone or your keys. This could be them intervening. They have to be careful with this because you have free will and they can only arrange so much or nudge so hard. The more you can pick up on their clues, the better. Sometimes you just need to surrender to a situation even when you are frustrated.

Spirit world communication

Spirit Guides, Walking Between Worlds, and learning to Balance the Physical and Spiritual Worlds are all an important part of a spiritual practice.

What is the difference between the Spirit world and the physical world?

The Spirit world includes anything that is unseen and non-physical. This includes what we feel.

The Physical world includes anything material, animals, and anything in nature that you can see or touch including other humans. This also includes the physical pain or pleasure we may feel.

Walking between worlds

Hundreds of years ago, it would have been easier for the spiritual doctor of the tribe to live in the physical world while easily being able to communicate with the spirit world. Now, it can seem quite difficult to stay connected to the Spirit world when there is so much negativity and so many distractions all around us. These distractions include technology, mental interference from medications, radioactivity, cell phones, vehicles, money and having to get a job doing something you are not passionate about just to live a normal life according to modern society’s expectations.

The Shaman of the tribe would have spent most of their time alone, away from the rest of the tribe, talking to the spirits, studying nature, collecting herbs and practicing their medicine. That’s why they were so good at it.

Communicating with the spirits

Spirits may come to us in any form. For example, a spider just crawled across your path to a pile of sticks near the edge of a lake and begins to make a web. For some reason, it got your attention so you watch it carefully. It begins to make a large circle from branch to branch, then it starts to create a pattern that looks like spokes in a wheel. Then you notice it spiraling towards the center. Once it reaches the center, it just stops and sits there. You ask the spider, “What are you trying to show me?” Then you begin to understand that the spider specifically chose that location in the sticks and near the water. You know the reason the spider built the web is to catch food. The spider carefully takes it’s time to build the web and when it is done it just sits back and waits for its food to come to it. Then you may begin to see how this can relate to something in your life.

The spirits may come to us in the form of wind blowing through the trees or as we gaze into a fire.

Sometimes, during a soul retrieval, you may have to communicate with a “bad” spirit. Often, this isn’t a bad spirit at all but a part of the client’s subconscious that created this entity to protect them somehow. They may give it a name and a description and it may seem very real to them. If it were a “real” bad spirit or entity that has taken power over the client, then you would need to do an extraction. This is usually caused by the client giving their power away to a person or situation in which they felt powerless at the moment. One way to help your client take their power back from this situation or person is to simply say out loud, “You have no power over me.”

Sometimes you may just be open enough to see the physical manifestation of the spirit that is assisting you. These usually come in the form of a human or an animal. Sometimes even mythological creatures like a centaur, a griffin, or a dragon.

Communication with those who have already crossed over

When communicating with those who have already crossed over, on behalf of your client, you just have to trust what they are saying and relay the message to your client without changing the message in any way. Sometimes the messages are very direct and we think it might hurt the client’s feelings so we will hold back or sugarcoat the message. Don’t do this. Instead, you could let your client know that you are just the messenger or the hollow bone. Often when I am communicating with past relatives of my client, I will ask my client, “if your mother was here today, what would she tell you?” Sometimes I even act as a mediator between them. Find what works for you and trust the process.

How to connect with your Guides

Sit quietly and ask for them to present themselves to you. This may come in unexpected ways but be open and trust that they are wanting you to know that they are there. This could take some patience and practice, but over time, you will begin to develop some type of communication with them.

  1. Listen to your Intuition

That little voice that tells you to “relax” or “check your oil” or “take notice of the man in front of you” is direct communication from your guides or higher self. Try listening to your intuition and see what results you get. Many people dismiss their intuition. Do not mistake your ego for your intuition, however. If you’re hearing thoughts like, “Don’t bother saying anything to him, he’ll never go out with someone like you” then that’s your ego.

  1. Watch for signs

Ask your guides for what you want and then watch for signs that they’ve heard you. Sometimes they will show you an interesting license plate or bulletin board with a message. The signs can come in so many ways.

  1. Meditate

Sit in a quiet room or a garden and ask your guides to appear before you, sit with you, and have a conversation. In time your connection will become stronger, and the information you get will be more accurate and applicable to your life.

  1. Dream

You can set the intention before you go to sleep to see and connect with your guides in your dreams.

How do you know you’re not just making them up?

Well, you are! We are making up everything we see and experience. So just trust that they are there as a part of your story to help guide you and protect you on your life journey.

Drum to connect

Another way you can hear messages from the spirit world is by drumming a steady beat that will help you reach an altered state of consciousness. This steady rhythm will relax you enough that you can hear the messages from the spirit world. How do you know that what you are hearing is not just you making it up? Well, it is you making it up! You are making up the message, the source from which it is coming from, the voice and the way it is delivered. So then you could say that this is your own intuition speaking. Yes, it is! Once you can understand this and learn to trust it, then you can understand how communication with the spiritual world works.

How do you know when it’s really your spirit guides trying to get your attention?

You’ll know by the advice you get. Does it resonate with you? Do they appear the same way every time? Do you feel like it’s coming from them and not you? Does the advice make sense to you? If the answers to these questions are all “yes” then you are on the right track.

Staying connected

So how can we maintain our ability to communicate with the spiritual world and still find balance in living in the physical world as it is today?

One of the most important ways to stay connected is to keep our energy clear by:

Daily practice of what connects us to the spirit world.

Staying clear of negativity and anything or anyone that seems to zap your energy or take our power away.

Learn how to be fully immersed in a negative environment and still maintain our energy and personal power.

Clearing ourselves after being around negative energy.