See Be Do Get – Life Coaching Exercise to Give a new Perspective to Old Limiting Beliefs

This coaching exercise teaches us the reasons why we keep attracting events into our lives that we don’t want. It also teaches how to redirect our actions and responses to get the outcome we do want.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by asking yourself to think of something you are experiencing right now that you are not happy with.


1. See/Observe – What did you SEE, or observe during your experience? Explain your experience.

2. Be/Believe – As a result of what you’ve experienced, what do you now believe? Ask yourself how you are or act (how you BE) now as a result of what you experienced. What do you now believe?

3. Do/Action – This is the pattern that I developed because of this belief. Describe the pattern that you may have developed because of this belief. What do you DO now to reflect what you believe?

4. Get/Outcome – This is what keeps happening now because of my past experiences and the beliefs that caused me to develop. This is now what you GET, or your current outcome.


Focus the session: Now reverse the process.

5. Get/Outcome – This is what I would like to experience. Ask yourself what would you like to experience now? What would you like the outcome to be now?  This will show you how to redirect your thoughts in order to GET a new desired OUTCOME.

6. Do/Action – This is the pattern that I will develop. Ask yourself, what pattern could you develop now to get your desired outcome? What would you have to DO differently? What new ACTION will you take?

7. Be/Believe – This is what I now believe. Describe your new BELIEF. How will you BE now as a result of the new action you will take?

8. See/Observe – This is what I will experience. Ask yourself, what will you experience now as a result of the new action and belief? What will you SEE and OBSERVE now?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to create the outcome you want? Write it down.

Security and Insecurity

Do you sometimes find yourself feeling overwhelmed with self-doubt and lack of confidence? Despite your accomplishments, do you feel like you haven’t gotten ahead? Do you feel that you don’t deserve lasting love and that partners will eventually leave you? Do you stay at home, afraid to venture out and meet new people because you don’t feel you have enough to offer? Do you feel overweight, boring, stupid, guilty, or ugly? These are all examples of insecurity and can be transformed once you understand what may be causing it and what you can do to overcome it.

Insecurity is a feeling of uncertainty, lack of confidence or anxiety about yourself and may produce:

  • Fear, worry, and anxiety
  • Restlessness, fatigue, and insomnia
  • Indecisiveness
  • Avoidance of others
  • Depression

Security is the state of being free from any danger or threat and may produce:

  • Boldness and a sound mind
  • Rest, peace, and joy
  • Decisiveness
  • Love, confidence, and fellowship
  • Thanksgiving and praise

If you have insecurities in your life, it may be because you are clinging to something that can easily be taken away from you whether material or a relationship.  If you are anxious, worried or fearful, then you are most likely trusting in or holding on to something that can be taken away from you.

What causes us to become insecure?

The kind of childhood you had, past traumas, recent experiences of failure or rejection, loneliness, social anxiety, negative beliefs about yourself, perfectionism, or having a critical parent or partner can all contribute to insecurity. The following are the three most common forms of insecurity and how to cope with them.

1. Insecurity Based on Recent Failure or Rejection

Recent events in our lives can greatly affect both our mood and the way we feel about ourselves. The biggest negative contributor to happiness is the ending of a relationship, followed by the death of a spouse, losing a job, and poor health. Since unhappiness also influences your self-esteem, failure and rejection can have a major effect on your confidence.

Below are some tools you can use to overcome failure or rejection:

  1. Give yourself time to heal and adapt to the new.
  2. Get out and engage with life, following your interests and curiosity.
  3. Reach out to friends and family for distraction and comfort.
  4. Get feedback from people you trust.
  5. Persevere and keep moving towards your goals.
  6. Be willing to try a different strategy if necessary.

2. Lack of Confidence and Social Anxiety

Many of us experience a lack of confidence in social situations like parties, family gatherings, interviews, and dates. The fear of being evaluated by others can lead you to feel anxious, judged and self-conscious. As a result, you may avoid social situations, experience anxiety when you anticipate social events or feel self-conscious and uncomfortable during them. Past experiences can feed your sense of not belonging, not feeling important or interesting, or just not being good enough.

Being bullied or excluded from a group of friends in middle school or high school can continue to negatively affect your confidence as an adult. If you grew up with critical parents, or parents who pressured you to be popular and successful, you may also be overly sensitive to how others perceive you. The truth is, that most of the time, people are more focused on how they are coming across than on judging others. Those who judge and exclude are often covering up insecurities of their own and so their opinions may be less than accurate and they may value superficial attributes instead of character and integrity.

Below are some tools to transform insecurity from lack of confidence and social anxiety into security:

  1. Talk back to your inner critic. Remind yourself of all the reasons that you can be interesting and fun or would be a good friend or partner.
  2. Prepare in advance. Think of some things you can talk about like current events, movies you’ve seen, hobbies, your job, or your family.
  3. Avoiding social situations just makes things worse. So go to a party or on a date even if you’re nervous or have to go alone. Your anxiety should decrease once you get engaged with others.
  4. Set yourself a smaller goal, like talking to one new person.
  5. Deliberately try to focus on others to take the focus off of you. Become the observer and notice what other people seem to be feeling and doing. Do you notice any similarities or skills you can learn from them?

3. Insecurity Caused by Perfectionism

Some of us have very high standards for everything we do. You may want the highest grades, the best job, the perfect figure, the most beautifully decorated apartment or house, perfect kids, or the ideal partner. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always turn out exactly the way we want, even if we work extra hard. There is a piece of the outcome that is at least to some degree out of our control. Bosses may be critical, jobs may be scarce, partners may resist commitment, or you may have genes that make it difficult to be skinny. If you are constantly disappointed and blaming yourself for being anything less than perfect, you will start to feel insecure and unworthy. Beating yourself up and constantly worrying about not being good enough can lead to depression and anxiety, eating disorders, or chronic fatigue.

Below are some ways to transform perfectionism into security:

  1. Try to evaluate yourself based on how much effort you put in, rather than on the outcome, which is dependent on external factors.
  2. Think about how much of a difference it would actually make if you were to work ten times harder. Would the time and energy spent be worth it?
  3. Perfectionism is often based on all or nothing thinking, so try to find the grey areas. Is there a more compassionate or understanding way to view a situation? Are you taking your circumstances into account when you evaluate yourself? Is there something you learned or achieved even if the end result wasn’t perfect?
  4. Perfectionists often have conditional self-esteem: They like themselves when they are on top and dislike themselves when things don’t go their way. Can you learn to like yourself even when you are not doing well? Focus on inner qualities like your character, sincerity, or good values, rather than just on what grades you get, how much you get paid, or how many people like you.

Relationship Coaching for Developing Communication and Listening Skills

This exercise looks at the basic laws of relationships, communication, and listening.

Relationships play a huge part in our lives and may often be brought up in a coaching session.

Relationships are what make our world go around. Whether it’s our relationship with ourselves, others, or the planet, we are always communicating in some way.

All relationships are mirrors of our relationship with ourselves. People come into our lives for three reasons…

  1. To reflect something back to us that we admire or dislike about ourselves. When we come in contact with these people, we may feel a sense of familiarity. Pay close attention to these moments, as there is usually something of great value to learn here.
  2. To give us information that will support us on our path. This may be a stranger that you are standing next to in the bookstore as they suggest that you read a certain book.
  3. To support us on our life’s journey. People that come into our lives to support us also come in three different ways: a moment, a season, or a lifetime. People that come into our lives for a moment are usually the ones who will reflect something back to us about ourselves, or they have a bit of information or insight that they can share with us. People that come into our lives for a season may be supporting us by teaching us a lesson that will add to our growth. People that are in our lives for a lifetime, such as our spouses, your children, or our parents could be there to teach us the biggest lessons that we will learn in our lives. They are all perfectly supporting us somehow.

No matter who comes and goes in your life, all people are all there to support you in some way or another. Make sure to show your gratitude and appreciation for everyone, as this will reflect back more gratitude, appreciation, and support to you in your own life.

Good communication is important

Listening is a very important part of communication. Developing good listening skills is one of life’s most important gifts. Have you ever stopped to hear the birds chirping, the wind blowing, and the earth creating? This is just a small part of our communication with the planet. Then there are our pets; do we listen to them? There are many levels of communication, most of which don’t involve using our voice to speak. With people, most communication is based on body language. Body language speaks louder than words, just as the phrase says: actions speak louder than words.

Listening to someone does not mean to do what he or she says. It just means that you heard what they said and acknowledged them, even if you didn’t agree. There is a difference between listening with our ears and listening with our hearts. If we listen with our hearts, from our place of knowing, then we will hear what they are really trying to tell us.

Sometimes, in a tough conversation, people may not know what to say, have a hard time saying it, or just don’t say anything at all. This is where we become the listener and ask questions.

There are three places that we can come from when we are communicating with others, or making decisions.

  1. Head– From this place, we may be trying to rationalize situations, use intellect, process, analyze, and react. This is great for use in business.
  2. Heart– When we are in our hearts, we are connecting, expressing love, feeling compassion, sensitivity, and sympathy. Sometimes it can be difficult to make decisions from the heart when we are too sensitive or emotional. These emotions could get in the way so it is important to think from the heart when we are completely grounded. This is great for use with loved ones.
  3. Knowing– This feeling comes from the place just below or behind our navel, our center, our gut feeling, also called our place of “chi” or our life source. This is where we go when we are seeking answers from within. Here we can only experience the truth of all things, a knowledge of who we really are, why we are here, and how we can best serve all of humanity. From here we are able to respond to situations rather than react. It’s similar to the sense of being in the present.

Our knowing is also the place where goosebumps come from during certain situations or experiences. These are actually “Truth Bumps.” We can know, that when this happens, Spirit is present.

Exercise: Pause for a moment, count to five, take a couple of deep breaths and get centered. Then ask yourself, which one of these three places are your current thoughts and decisions coming from? By doing this exercise several times throughout your day, you may find that your thoughts and decisions will start to shift more into alignment with your wants and desires.

Clear Signs

Life is continuously providing us with messages and information. When we do not listen, then the messages become lessons. When we do not learn, the lessons become problems. When we do not address the problems, they become crises. When crises are left unresolved, they create chaos in our lives. Just imagine how life would be if we learn to live on the levels of messages and lessons.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper or your journal ready for this exercise.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Throughout your day, and as you encounter different people, even your family that you see every day, look for what each person may have to offer you, or what you may have to offer to them. If someone is asking you for some guidance, look at how it may be serving you to help them. Recognize what category they fall into.

Answer the questions below. Take a few minutes on each one and explain your insight and answers. There is an example question provided for each category…

Relationship with yourself, others, and the planet

What does having a positive relationship mean to you?

Are you happy with your relationship with yourself?

How do you see your relationship with the world?

What is your relationship like with people in general?

What is your relationship like with animals?

How is your relationship with the planet?


What does good communication look like to you?

Do you practice good communication?

Do you freeze up when something triggers you and you don’t say anything at all?

Do you speak clearly?

Are you very clear about your intentions when speaking?


Are you a good listener?

Do you acknowledge others when speaking to you?

Do you catch yourself thinking of something to say while someone else is speaking to you?

Do you interrupt or talk over people?

Create an action plan: If you had to choose one thing to work on first, would it be your relationship with yourself, others, and the planet? Would it be developing better communication or would it be to become a better listener?

Relationship Coaching for Couples and Families

This exercise is for those who are interested in developing better relationships with their partners, children or family.

Everyone we see in the world reflects different parts of ourselves. The traits we see most clearly in others are the ones that are strongest in ourselves. This is called the mirror of relationship and is a powerful tool for emotional freedom.

When we have a strong negative reaction to someone, we see that this person reflects traits that we also possess but have been unwilling to acknowledge or embrace. We might spend so much time denying that we have a dark side that we end up projecting these denied qualities onto other people. For the same reason, we are attracted to certain people because they have the same traits that we have, positive or negative. This exercise will help you embrace the coexistence of opposites within yourself.

To build a better relationship with others, we must first build a better relationship with ourselves. When we are happy and at peace with ourselves, it will reflect in our relationships. If we are not happy with ourselves or any part of our life, that also will be reflected in our relationships.

If we want to understand more about our relationships, we then have to look at our emotions. How often do we tell our partner or others how we really feel about something? Do we hold it in and hope it just goes away in fear of creating a confrontation? Do we look at the truth and address what’s really going on or do we just burst into an emotional ball of confusion and stay stuck in the past?

The following relationship skills and main causes of troubled relationships are examples of topics you can use when coaching your client…

Relationship Skills:

  1. Heartfelt understanding – when you really listen to what your partner needs and understanding why they need it.
  2. Giving your partner what they really need – once we know what our partner needs, we can begin to offer it to them to the best of our abilities.
  3. Creating and building trust and respect.
  4. Reigniting playfulness, presence, and passion.
  5. Harnessing courage and embracing honesty.
  6. Uncovering and creating alignment.
  7. Live consciously- lead by example by being present in everyday life.

The main causes of troubled relationships:

  1. Lack of communication
  2. Money issues
  3. Disagreements regarding children
  4. Distrust/Jealousy

Do you spend quality time with your partner? Do you spend quality time with your children? What does quality time mean to you?

Love is the most effective way to build a better relationship with your children. How often do you express love, appreciation, and gratitude for them?

Parents are role models for their children. Be who you want your children to be. You can tell them how you want them to be, but they will learn the most from your actions.

Coaching Exercises for Couples:

Blind Date – This exercise helps build trust in a relationship. Each person takes turns being blindfolded and their partner walks them around in a park. After each person has had a turn, sit down as a group and discuss what each person felt.

Date Night – Choose one night per week to spend quality time together. Stick to it!

Put yourself in their shoes – Ask your partner to share with you all of their concerns, feelings, struggles, weaknesses, strengths, needs, expectations, responsibilities, fears and dreams. Your part is to be completely silent and take notes as they speak. Then it’s your turn.

More or Less  – Discover what you would like more of and what you would like less of in the relationship. The More or Less tool is also great to use with your children.

Look for the Good – Each of you will sit down and write down everything that you love about each other.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper or your journal ready for this exercise.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Answer each question. Take your time and be as honest with yourself as possible.

Step One: Think about someone you find attractive. On the left side of a piece of paper, list ten or more qualities that you love about that person. Write quickly. The secret is to not give your conscious mind time to edit your thoughts. You can put down as many qualities as you wish, but don’t stop until you have at least ten.

Step Two: Now focus on somebody who totally irritates you, annoys you or makes you uncomfortable in some way. Why does this person infuriate you so much? On the right side of the paper, list ten or more of their undesirable qualities.

Step Three: Look at your list for the person you find attractive and circle the three qualities that you find most appealing about him or her. Then look at the list on the right side of the paper and circle the three qualities you find most repulsive. Now read the six words you circled out loud. You are all of these qualities. Once you see yourself in others, you will find it much easier to connect with them and maintain emotional well being.

Focus the session:

If you had to choose to work on one relationship right now, who would it be with?

What kind of relationship would you like to have with this person?

Why do you want this type of relationship?

What would it look like if you already had that relationship?

What might be stopping you from having it now?

What could you do differently?

Are you willing to commit to that?

When will you begin?

Continue asking yourself these kinds of questions, continuing to answer from a totally honest and centered place.

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it down.

Prayer and Intention

Prayer is a good practice in any culture or religion. We pray to communicate to our Creator, Spirit or the forces that be that we may ask for help or just send our thanks and gratitude for what we have. Prayer raises our vibration through connecting with Source. Prayer is a thought, an intention, a dream, a desire a wish.

By James Redfield and The Celestine Prophecy

The Celestine Prophecy is made up of Twelve Spiritual Insights. The Eleventh Insight is the precise method through which we hold the vision. For centuries, religious scriptures, poems, and philosophies have pointed to a latent power of mind within all of us that mysteriously helps to affect what occurs in the future. It has been called faith power, positive thinking, and the power of prayer. We are now taking this power seriously enough to bring a fuller knowledge of it into public awareness. We are finding that this prayer power is a field of intention, which moves out from us and can be extended and strengthened, especially when we connect with others in a common vision. This is the power through which we hold the vision of a spiritual world and build the energy in ourselves, and in others, to make this vision a reality.

The Power of Prayer

In this level of consciousness, we become more purpose-driven and receptive to how those in the afterlife are lifting us up. We begin to comprehend the real nature of prayer and guided purpose. We realize that prayer works within the Karmic design. The more we are in alignment with the principle of giving — and our inner intuition to accurately help others — we will sense our heightened, creative power and see it working through our prayers. When we use this power for uplifting the spiritual consciousness of others, we draw more powerful people into our lives to uplift us. The key is discovering that affirmative prayer, practiced with the emotion of gratitude (it WILL happen), establishes the strongest faith validity.

Ancient Texts

There is an ancient language and a field of energy that connects us to that field through thought, emotion and feeling, not speaking.

  1. The feeling is the prayer
  2. We must feel as if our prayers have already been answered

When you make the two “Thought” and “Emotion” one, you will say to the mountain “mountain move away” and the mountain will move away. If the two (thought and emotion) make peace with each other in this one house (you) the mountain will move away. When you can marry your thought and your emotion into one single potent force, that is when you have the power to speak to the world. When you make the two become one in your heart, you create the feelings in our body.

So how do we do this? Have you ever heard “ask and you shall receive?” The asking is not done with the voice. To ask we must speak to the field (the divine matrix) in the language that the field recognizes. The field doesn’t recognize our voice, it recognizes the power in our hearts. Our hearts create magnetic electrical waves. that’s what the field recognizes.

Ask without hidden motive and judgment and you will be surrounded by your answer. Be enveloped by your desire that your gladness be full. Feel as if you already have what you want or what you want to experience has already happened.

Create the feeling in your heart as if the prayer is already answered.

You must make a future dream a present fact by assuming a feeling of your wish fulfilled to come from a place that has already happened.

Gratitude will also help create this feeling.

A Morning Gratitude Prayer by Rebekah Simpson

Thank you, Creator, for this new day. Another day to live. Thank you for a good night’s sleep, a warm bed, and this house that is provided for me.

Thank you for My family, please continue to protect them.

Thank you for my protection and for guiding me through signs in nature.

Thank you for all that I will experience today, may it bring me peace and happiness.

Thank you for any opportunities that I may have today to lift others up, to empower them and bring peace and joy into their lives.

When to Pray?

Anytime is a good time to pray. You don’t have to say your prayer out loud. A silent inner prayer is just as effective as a prayer said out loud. But when you have the opportunity, prayers are always best said so others can hear them.

Prayer is powerful and is amplified when praying in groups. You can pray for others to heal or get the guidance they need.

What do you Need Right Now?

This coaching exercise is designed to help you see what you may need right now in your life. Sometimes we can get overwhelmed and lose track of what we need to do in the present moment. This tool will help you prioritize your life and get back on the right track. Sometimes we tend to “put the cart before the horse” and often miss important steps that we need to take in order to reach our desired outcome. Or sometimes we try to rush situations only to have them not work out in our favor. Taking a step back we can see what we need to prioritize in our lives to create more balance.

According to a study on human needs psychology, there are six essential human needs…

These basic needs are:

Certainty – Comfort, pleasure, avoidance of pain, and the feeling of safety and security.

Uncertainty and Variety – Challenges to our normal lives that act to exercise our emotional and physical range.

Significance – The need to feel special, important, and wanted. The need to be respected, admired and accepted by others.

Love and Connection – The need for connection with other human beings. (It is important to both love and be loved.)

Growth – If we are not growing we’re dying. It is essential to think beyond yourself, beyond your fears and limitations, in order to grow, love, and understand. Remember also that the power of freedom is the power of growth and creation. Tap into that power.

Contribution – To be fulfilled we need to contribute to others. Contribution gives meaning to life.

This session is intended to clarify what needs are not being fulfilled and what may be blocking you from fulfilling those needs. Do you need to communicate more effectively, forgive yourself or others, remove fears of guilt, or to adjust your behavior to match what your needs are?

Self-coaching Exercise:

Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin by asking yourself, what do you need right now?

Do you need a particular person to behave in a certain way?

What would it look like if you had it right now? Give yourself a moment to really feel this one.

What else do you need right now? Are you showing that to others?

How could you show others what you need right now?

Are you willing to start right now?

How could you take action?

What may be stopping you or blocking you?

Focus the session: What do you call your higher power? Center yourself and call on them to help you with this. Ask, what would they tell you right now if they were to give you their best advice. Listen closely.

If you could do that right now what would you gain?

Are you whole and complete in your life right now?

What would you need to be whole and complete right now?

Do you really understand what your needs are and are you willing to commit to taking baby steps to get closer to fulfilling your needs?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it in your journal.

Happy Full Corn Moon September 20th 2021

Having healthy boundaries is always a good thing but this moon helps us dissolve fear-based boundaries that separate us from others, encouraging us to let our guard down and release our ego. In this vulnerable state, you can feel things more deeply, causing your level of sensitivity and empathy to rise. This full moon has the power to help you feel what someone else is feeling, helping you become a more loving and intuitive person. It opens us up to more compassion and understanding. As we move into fall, the equinox happening in just two days, take time to reflect on everything you are grateful for this past year. Reflect on your accomplishments and in preparation for the wintertime where we spend more time going within, we can dream up what we would like to accomplish in the future.

Akashic Records

The akashic records are a collection of memories and events that has ever happened in our lives. Imagine a huge filing cabinet of all of your past events and experiences written in full detail. Even though you may not remember everything consciously, somewhere in your memory you already know all of this. Through an akashic record reading, you can access lost information to help you understand something that has happened in the past. You can also access information about past lives, masters, teachers, loved ones and ancestors.

Think of something that is out of balance in your life right now, then imagine being able to identify the connection to something has happened in the past. Once you fully are able to understand and remember the truth, it will set you free.

Dark Night of the Soul

The term originated from a 16th-century priest who wanted his congregation to follow Christ in a different way and they rejected him and threw him in a dark hole. While he was in there he wrote a poem titled, “dark night of the soul.” Eventually, the congregation ended up taking him out of the hole and canonizing him as a saint.

Dark night of the soul represents a feeling that you’ve lost everything and you don’t even know how you are anymore.

You might be experiencing a dark night of the soul if you are experiencing any of these:

Addictions (alcohol, gambling, sex, prescription meds, etc.)
Apathy (lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern)
Anger and hatred toward self and/or others
Blocked memory
Confusion or lack of direction
Emotionally unavailable or withdrawn
Guilt or shame
Lack of motivation to live life or suicidal thoughts
Lack of purpose
Negative beliefs (Example: everybody lies, people are stupid or I’m not good enough)
Physical pain
PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Unable to receive or give love
Weight gain

Situations that can cause dark night of the soul:

An accident
Divorce or separation
Extreme fear
Job loss
Lack of understanding
Loss of a loved one
Negative influence
Neglected as a child
Prolonged Stress

Once we are able to identify that we are in fact experiencing some type of dark night of the soul then we can begin to understand why it’s happening and what we need to do to heal from it.

Soul retrieval is an emotional healing technique that can help you heal from a dark night experience… learn more about soul retrieval.

New beginnings always follow a dark night of the soul moment. We grow, heal or learn something from the experience. Shead the ego. Spiritual awakening. Become our true authentic selves.


Journaling is a powerful way to record and measure a person’s progress. It can also help us understand why certain things have happened in our lives by reviewing past events. Journaling is also a good way to remind us of the progress we have already made.

Here are a few examples of what types of journal you can keep:

  1. Simple writing – Every night before you go to bed make a few notes about the highlights of your day. This doesn’t need to be a long story; it could just be notes about things like people, feelings, colors, events, etc.
  2. Gratitude Journal – Every night before you go to bed, write at least three things you are grateful for. Example: I’m so grateful for my family, I am grateful for the ability to go to work today, I’m grateful for my health. Of course, more significant things may happen, but it’s okay to note the smaller things too.
  3. Dream Journal – Keep your journal near your bed and as soon as you wake up note your dreams, even if they don’t make any sense. You may look back at them later and understand their meaning.
  4. Worry Journal – Write your fears, worries, frustrations, anxieties, and all unwanted emotions down, describe your feelings. Then write what you would like to happen, or how you want to feel instead.

Automatic Writing: You can also use another form of journaling for finding answers to questions. Take any question that you need to be answered and just start writing about it. Write down the thoughts as quickly as they come to you. Just keep writing and writing. Pay attention to these thoughts, sometimes they come in the form of solutions. If you feel guided and find solutions, take action on them as quickly as possible.

Preparation: Purchase a personal journal.

Begin the Session: Choose one of the journaling methods listed above. Begin to implement this on a daily basis for three days then come back to this exercise and continue.

After three days: Once you have practiced the exercise for at least three days ask yourself these questions:

  • What was the most significant part of this exercise?
  • Did I learn anything new about myself or my situation?
  • What else would I like to get out of this exercise?
  • Does this exercise work for me and do I want to continue to journal?

Create an action plan:

According to what you’ve learned about this exercise, what action steps would you be willing to take? Hold yourself accountable and commit to the plan.

Healthy Boundaries

Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships. A person who always keeps others at a distance (whether emotionally, physically, or otherwise) is said to have rigid boundaries. Alternatively, someone who tends to get too involved with others has poor boundaries. Also, keep in mind that having poor boundaries is also a form of giving your power away.

Healthy Boundaries:

  • Values own opinions.
  • Doesn’t compromise values for others.
  • Shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not over or under share).
  • Knows personal wants and needs, and can communicate them.
  • Accepting when others say “no” to them.

Poor Boundaries:

  • Overshares personal information.
  • Difficulty saying “no” to the requests of others.
  • Over-involved with other’s problems.
  • Dependent on the opinions of others.
  • Accepting of abuse or disrespect.
  • Fears rejection if they do not comply with others.

Rigid Boundaries:

  • Avoids intimacy and close relationships.
  • Unlikely to ask for help.
  • Has few close relationships.
  • Very protective of personal information.
  • May seem detached, even with romantic partners.
  • Keeps others at a distance to avoid the possibility of rejection.

Most people have a mix of different boundary types. For example, someone could have healthy boundaries at work, poor boundaries in romantic relationships, and a mix of all three types with their family. The appropriateness of boundaries depends on the setting. What’s appropriate to say when you’re out with friends might not be appropriate when you’re at work. Some cultures have very different expectations when it comes to boundaries. For example, in some cultures, it’s considered wildly inappropriate to express emotions publicly. In other cultures, emotional expression is encouraged.

Self-coaching exercise:

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Ask yourself the following questions…

Think about a person with whom you struggle to set healthy boundaries. This could mean that your boundaries are too rigid (you keep your distance), too poor (you open up too much), or there’s some other problem that isn’t so easily labeled. Who do you struggle to set healthy boundaries with?

Boundary Categories: What categories would you choose to describe your relationship with this person you listed above?

  • Physical Boundaries
  • Intellectual Boundaries
  • Emotional Boundaries
  • Sexual Boundaries
  • Material Boundaries
  • Time Boundaries

Take a moment to imagine what it will be like when you begin to establish healthy boundaries with this person.

  1. What are some specific actions you can take to improve your boundaries with this person?
  2. How do you think they will respond to these changes?
  3. How do you think your life will be different once you’ve established healthy boundaries with this person?

Focus the session: What was the most significant part about this session?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to have better boundaries? Write it down.

Mindful Money Management

The Money Management exercise can help us gain better control over finances and developed a better money mindset. This exercise is for those who would like to sharpen their money management skills and develop a more mindful relationship with their money.

Financial success starts in the mind. We have to decide first what we want to add to our lives with the money we make. Next, we have to believe that we deserve what we want and know that it is possible to achieve. Once we decide that it is worth the energy and attention, we need to visualize it as if it were already ours. Then, so long as we are willing to pay the price to get it, we will see our rewards with perseverance and time. It is important to be mindful and go through the conscious stages of gaining wealth. Without mindfulness, it can be easy to get caught up in the mind thinking we cannot or will not gain what we deserve.

The first steps to becoming wealthy are to identify and replace any negative beliefs we may have about money. It’s odd to think that anybody has negative beliefs about wealth but in many cases, people do. These kinds of beliefs may have been programmed into our subconscious minds. You may have heard: “Money doesn’t grow on trees. “, “Money is the root of all evil.” or “You have to have money to make money.” These messages, heard from early childhood, are wrong and can actually sabotage us later in our financial success.

Example: Here are three steps that can help us turn around our limiting beliefs about money:

Write down all your limiting beliefs about money…

Example: Money is the root of all evil.
Challenge, make fun of and argue with your limiting beliefs.

Example: Money is the root of awesome vacations!
Create a positive turnaround statement.

Example: Money can help create more fun in my life

Use the power of releasing to accelerate your millionaire mindset. Whenever you have a negative thought about money, use the following exercise to release it.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Answer the following questions…

  1. What am I feeling right now? Focus on the feeling that arises as you experience your negative limiting belief.
  2. Do I want to welcome and allow this feeling? Experience the feeling whole-heartedly, acknowledge it and let it be. Our tendency is to ignore negative thoughts and feelings, but doing so tends to keep them around even longer.
  3. Can I let this feeling go? Ask yourself this question, yes and no are acceptable answers.
  4. Will I let it go? Ask yourself if you are willing to let this go. Would you rather have this feeling or would you rather be free from it?
  5. When will I let it go? This is the last invitation to let it go now. Remember that letting go is a decision that you can make any time you choose.

Keep using this exercise every time you have a negative or limiting tough about money until you feel free of that particular feeling.

Visualize what you want as if you already have it. Take the time each day to see all of your financial goals as already being accomplished. Visualize images that affirm your desired outcome. See the check you want with whatever big numbers you want on it. See the people handing you the cash! Visualize what you want your bank statement to look like. Finally, remember to always include the feeling of gratitude and appreciation for having any financial abundance. This feeling will attract more abundance to you.

Become aware of your spending. Most people aren’t aware of what they spend in a month. The following exercise can help us become more aware of what we spend per month.

Get a journal or notepad and write down how much you earn per month. What is your total monthly income?

Now make a list of all of your monthly expenses such as your mortgage or rent, car payment, insurance, electricity, gas, water, sewer, phone, internet, cable, food, fuel, etc. Average the amount spent on each of these things each month. Keep a detailed record of spending for the whole of the month then compare to your estimates and adjust accordingly.

Make a note of everything you spent money on.

Now put a star next to your needs. These are the things you have to have.

Put a question mark next to the things that were more of a want than a need. These are the things that you have more of a choice on.

How much money did you have left over? Did you put any in savings?

Is there something you would like to buy or do?

How much money would you have to save for it?

How much money could you put in savings, if you saved over time, each month?

Realistically, if you saved this much per month, when could you buy or do it?

Are you willing to use this exercise and keep track of your spending per month?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it down.

More or Less Life Coaching Exercise

The More or Less exercise can easily help you prioritize your current situation by looking at what you would like more of and less of in your life.

Preparation: In your journal or on a piece of paper, draw a line down the center. On one side write MORE and the other side write LESS.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin by looking at the two columns and ask yourself what would you like more of or less of in your life. Make notes in the appropriate column.

Keep asking yourself this question until both columns have a good amount of information.

Focus the session: Ask yourself, if you had to choose one thing to work on from either column, what would it be? Focus the rest of the session around that subject.

Now ask yourself, by working on this one area, do you think it would help in any other areas listed?

In most cases, by working on one particular issue it will create a ripple effect that will fix many other things in the process.

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it down.

Self-Healing Soul Retrieval Meditation

This is a ten-minute soul retrieval meditation designed to help you heal anything emotional, learn how its been affecting your life and where it originated from. Of course, you will get more out of a personal session but this can possibly help you understand more about your situation. Enjoy!


There’s about to be a great shift in your life. One that will bring you many blessings. There’s nothing you have to do. to prepare for this. You’ve already been through enough.

Finding Answers from Within

This coaching exercise is designed to help you learn to trust your inner guide and intuition. After all, tapping into that is the underlying foundation of Life Coaching. A Life Coach knows that the client has the answers within them. A Coaches job is to help the client bring those answers to the surface by using powerful questions and coaching exercises.

According to an ancient legend, there was a time when ordinary people had all the access to the knowledge of the gods. Yet, even with this access, time and again they ignored this wisdom. One day the gods grew tired of so freely giving this unused gift to the people that they decided to hide this precious wisdom where only the most committed of seekers would discover it. They believed that if people had to work to find this wisdom, they would use it more carefully. One of the gods suggested they bury it deep within the earth. “No,” the other said, “too many people could easily dig down and find it.” Then another one of the gods suggested, “Let’s put it in the deepest ocean,” but that idea was also rejected. They knew that people would one day learn to dive and thus would find it too easily. One of the gods then suggested hiding it on the highest mountaintop, but it was quickly agreed that people could climb mountains. Finally, one of the wisest gods suggested hiding it deep inside the people themselves. They’ll never think to look there. And so it came to be.

Trust Your Intuition

Intuition is the ability to trust what you feel without having proof or evedence.

For most of us, our childhood conditioning trained us to look outside of ourselves for answers and solutions to everything. Few of us learned how to look inside and trust our intuition and gut feeling. Everyone was born with an intuition and has at one time experienced it. Have you ever thought of someone and the phone rings and it’s them? Have you ever had a thought and it came true almost instantly? That’s your intuition at work. Most of us just dismiss it as coincidence, but if we begin to look and acknowledge it more, we can use it to achieve great levels of success.

“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap of consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you, and you don’t know how or why.” –Albert Einstein

How to develop your intuition

Meditation is one of the most popular and effective ways to develop your intuition. When we allow the mind to become still and quiet, we make space for answers to emerge from within us. Regular meditation can help clear out distractions and allow creative solutions to spontaneously come into our awareness. This is best practiced in nature, by a stream or in another quiet and relaxing place.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Form a Question…

Begin by closing your eyes and taking several deep breaths……………………… Breathing in peace and clarity…………………….. and breathing out stress………………………… Breathing in calmness and quietness…………………….. and breathing out stress and worry.

Now focus your attention on the questions that you need answers to. Your intuition can provide you with the answers to anything you need to know. Form a specific question in your mind and once you are clear about the question, open your eyes and write it down. Take your time with this. Also, try not to ask a question that can be answered with yes or no. For example, you can begin your question with, “How do I…?” or, “What should I do about…?” or “What can I do…?”

Listen for the answers

Allow the answers to spontaneously come into your awareness. Still your mind and do not force any desired or wanted answers to come. With time and patience, they will come on their own.

Write them down

Write down the answers that come to you immediately. These visions can quickly evaporate so make sure to capture them in writing as soon as possible. Keep writing as answers come into your awareness. It may be a simple answer that doesn’t have a long explanation, or it may be a more complex solution that requires some understanding. Seek answers and translations if an image seems to need a deeper explanation.

Take immediate action

Pay attention to the answers you receive and act on the information as quickly as possible. When you act on the information, you will receive what you need. If you learn to take action right after you receive the answers, you will begin to live in the flow. Eventually, it will become easy and effortless to let the wisdom come to you. When you begin to see the benefits of acting on found answers, you will learn more and more to trust yourself and your intuition until it eventually becomes automatic.

What was the most significant part about this exercise?

What answers came to you?

Create an action plan: How could you take action on this guidance?

Example Life Coaching Session

Business people shaking hands, finishing up a meeting.

Coach: Hi Amy, thank you for always showing up on time for our sessions. How are you today?

Client: Hey Nick, I’m good but I’m really having a hard time staying motivated at work. I’ve been there for about three years now and sometimes the challenges are so hard that I just wish I could leave.

Coach: Okay, is that what you would like to focus our coaching session on today? (Note when your client has something stuck on their mind: it may be a good practice to choose this to focus the session around. If not, ask the client what they would like to focus their session on that day)

Client: Yes, actually because I feel like it also affecting me in other areas of my life. I’ve been having problems at home, with my kids, my partner, and also have been having difficulty taking care of my own health.

Coach: Okay, I understand your concerns. Would you like to take a minute to just breathe and calm our minds before we begin?

Client: Yes, that sounds good.

Coach: Good then, let’s take a few slow deep breaths and feel our awareness of the present moment being fully integrated into our body. Take your time and let me know when you feel calm and relaxed.

Client: Wow, I feel better already.

Coach: Good, are you ready to begin the session now?

Client: Yes.

Coach: Okay, great. So what I heard you say was that you are having a hard time staying motivated at work and having challenges. Is that correct?

Client: Yes.

Coach: Okay, can you describe some of the challenges you are having?

Client: Sure, sometimes it seems like I can’t do anything right in the eyes of my boss and peers and they are always correcting me or questioning me. I can also feel their frustration and hear them talking about me.

Coach: Okay, can you share a specific example of something that happened recently?

Client: Well, just today my boss came in and told me that I needed to be following the exact protocol of the sales procedure and that everything listed on it was very important.

Coach: Okay, have you been following it as they describe?

Client: Well I thought I was but apparently not.

Coach: Did you explain this and ask your boss to be more specific?

Client: No, I just said okay and went back to work. I could feel the frustration and upset in his voice and I didn’t want to go there. Actually I didn’t even think to question him.

Coach: Okay, so when you started working there, did you get proper training on how to follow the protocol?

Client: Yes, but the person who trained me (my old boss) left about three months ago and we had a great relationship. She just let me do it how I wanted to as long as I made the sale.

Coach: Okay, so does it seem like the new boss has a different approach?

Client: Yes, he seems very strict on doing everything by the book. I think it’s annoying and ever since he got here I feel like I’ve been watched over like a hawk.

Coach: Did he have a proper meeting with you to get to know you and to explain how he wanted things to be?

Client: No, he just talks with others about me and it makes me uncomfortable.

Coach: Understandable. Now, would you be willing to ask your boss for a meeting so that you could get to know each other better and understand what is expected of you?

Client: Well, I guess I could but the thought of it makes me feel uncomfortable.

Coach: Sure, but do you think it might help resolve your issue?

Client: Yes.

Coach: Okay great. Would you be willing to get out of your comfort zone to do this knowing that it could have a huge impact on your life?

Client: Yes, I do believe that if things were better at work it would make me happier at home and in the rest of my life.

Coach: Great observation. So when are you going to ask him for a meeting?

Client: I could do it on Monday.

Coach: Okay great. Now would you be open to a guided visualization to see how you would like the meeting to go?

Client: Sure.

Coach: Okay, close your eyes and see yourself walking into work Monday morning all dressed up and ready for the day. Now you are walking with confidence to your boss’s office to ask him for the meeting. He sees you and smiles and offers you to have a seat. You feel completely balanced and calm as you begin to explain your feeling with him. As he listens to you he realizes that he really likes you as a person and appreciates all you do. He actually apologizes for not being clearer about how he wants things to change and asks you to join him at the next managers meeting to share your insight. He feels like you could help them better understand what they need to do to make things run more smoothly in the future. After all you are one of the leading sales associates in the company. You accept with gratitude and thank him for his time and meeting with you. Now see yourself walking out of his office and down the hall with a huge smile and a new boost of confidence. When you are ready go ahead and open your eyes keeping this feeling with you.

Client: Wow that was great. I hope it really goes like that in real life.

Coach: Well, do you think it is possible?

Client: Yes, it could be.

Coach: Okay great. Would you be willing to follow-up with me after the meeting to let me know how it went?

Client: Sure! I look forward to it.

Coach: Great, now on a scale of one to ten, ten being very satisfied with this session, how would you rate our session today?

Client: I would say a ten. Thank you!

Coach: Great, and you are most welcome. Thank you again for your time and willingness to meet with me today and I look forward to hearing from you.

Client: You’re welcome, have a great weekend.

Another variation of this would be to go deeper into her problem of not being able to do anything right in the eyes of her boss and peers and they are always correcting her or questioning her. The reason this keeps happening is that she has had some type of trauma even mild trauma from her childhood that created this pattern. It could be that her mother or older sister for example may have always ridiculed her and told her she will never do anything right by always correcting her. In this case, your client would most likely benefit from a soul retrieval.

E+R=O Event + Response = Outcome

This exercise helps us understand why we keep experiencing the events we don’t want. It also shows us how to redirect our actions and responses to get the outcome we do want.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by looking at the old response…

Think of an event in your life that keeps happening that makes you feel uncomfortable. Explain this event and describe what keeps happening that makes you feel uncomfortable. This could be something that you really want to change but feel like you have no idea how.

Event: Think of a person, place, situation or thing that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Response: Now ask yourself how you previously reacted or responded to the event. How could you have responded to the event differently?

Outcome: What was the outcome or result of the way you previously responded to the event?

Now let’s look at the new response…

New Response: How you will respond to the event now?

Remember, if you don’t like the outcome you previously got, then you have to change the way you respond to the event. If you change your response, you have to get a different outcome.

Desired Outcome: What do you expect the new outcome to be with your new response? What would you like the outcome to be? How could you respond to the event differently?

“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.” -W. Clement Stone.

Focus the session: Take a moment to visualize the new outcome.

Action Plan: What one thing are you willing to commit to? When will you do it? Why will you do it

Wheel of Balance

The wheel of balance is a powerful coaching exercise that can help you prioritize and balance a few main areas of your life.

These areas include Friends and Family, Money and Finances, Health, Physical Environment, Fun and Recreation, Career and Life Purpose, Personal Growth, and Relationships. By looking at each section individually, we can learn where to begin to balance them all.


Preparation: Draw a circle on a sheet of paper. Divide it into eight sections (the same way you would cut a pie). Label them 1 through 8.

  1. Friends and Family

  2. Money and Finances

  3. Health

  4. Physical Environment

  5. Fun and Recreation

  6. Career and Life Purpose

  7. Personal Growth

  8. Intimate Relationship

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session:

For each section, ask yourself…

On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 means needs improvement and 10 means very satisfied), where do you feel you are right now compared to where you want to be? Fill in this section of the pie from the inside out until it reaches your number. Explain why you choose that number and what would it take to bring it to a 10? Take notes. Now continue filling in all the sections for each category.

Once the wheel is completed, look at it and ask, if you had one section you would choose to work on for this session, what would it be? Focus the rest of the session around it.

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to better that section of your life? Write it down.

Seven Step Breakthrough

The Seven Step Breakthrough is a powerful coaching exercise that can help us visualize what we want, show us how we have responded to it in the past, realize what may have been blocking us from achieving it, and create an action plan for how to change that.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready or your journal to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Complete the next six steps, the seventh will come later.


Introduction to the Seven Step Breakthrough

This is a simple yet empowering exercise that can help you get from where you are to where you want to be by using powerful Life Coaching techniques. The Seven Step Breakthrough can help to find answers or clarity in any situation and can also help with making decisions that you may be presented with at this time. This coaching exercise can be used every time you need answers or clarification and can be reused multiple times after. The motivation behind this breakthrough process is that “you have all the answers within yourself.” This seven-step process will take approximately one hour to complete, and has the most benefit when to finish completed in one session. Be prepared to take notes during this session. Journaling is very important when you are preparing to have a breakthrough! It allows you to record and measure your progress.

Step 1 The Event

An event can be a situation where you are looking for answers, direction, clarity, or insight on what action to take. Is this something that keeps happening? Is it an old pattern or habit that you would like to let go of?  Is it a new adventure that you’ve been wanting to experience? Are you interested in a new relationship or ending an old one? Is this the first time this has happened? What event will you be working on during this session? Take a moment to write down all the details about the situation and how it makes you feel. What is true about this event? Write down what emotions are associated with it and how it makes you feel.

*Take time now to journal about the event, or about questions that you are seeking answers to. Continue to the next step when you are finished.

Step 2 The Response

If this event has happened in the past, how have you previously responded to it? How will you respond to it now? In every situation, you have the power to choose your response, and in every situation, your response will determine your outcome. If you knew that you could get any outcome you wanted just as a result of how you respond, what would your response be?  How does that make you feel? Our feelings are our guide to what action we should take. Does it feel good or does it make you feel discomfort? Take a moment to journal about all the ways you could respond, write them all down.  Visualize what kind of outcome you may get for each response. Then choose the appropriate response.

“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, then you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.”

*Take time now to journal about your new response to this event. Continue to the next step when you are finished.

Step 3 The Outcome

What would you like your outcome to be? How would it make you feel if you chose this outcome?  Is it in alignment with your feelings, beliefs, and values? If you had all of the support you needed, what would you like to experience? Be very detailed about what you would like the outcome to be. Visualize yourself already experiencing it. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that are created during this visualization. These emotions and feelings are like the glue that will attract this outcome to you. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like laughing, then laugh. The only thing to remember is to allow these emotions to flow along with the feelings of already having, being, or doing what you want.

*Take time now to journal about your future experience. Continue to the next step when you are finished.

Step 4 Take Action

What steps have you already taken to move forward on this? Have you tried a different approach? Do you know the next step to take? If it’s someone you need to talk to, then schedule a time to contact him or them, or simply call them. If it’s somewhere you need to go, plan it. If you need money, expect it. If you are not sure how to do it, talk to someone who has already done it. What will you do? What action will you take? Who do you need to talk to? Where will you go? Remember, it’s not about the destination; it’s about the journey. The lessons you learn and the people you meet along the way are all a part of your journey. If you are familiar with the law of attraction, then you may have noticed that the key to manifesting what you want is to take action that is in alignment with your intention. Another clue is that the word action is within the word attraction, and the word act is within the word action. So by taking action, you can expect new opportunities to unfold, and by acting as if you already have it through visualization, new possibilities will present themselves.

*Take time now to journal about the action that you are willing to take and when you plan on taking it. Also, schedule a time each day that you will visualize the outcome you want. All you really need is five to ten minutes. Continue to the next step when you are finished.

Step 5 The Blocks

What’s stopping you or blocking you? Is there something you are waiting for? Do you try to take action and keep running into blocks or distractions?  What are those blocks or distractions? How will you respond to them if they happen again?

When you take new action in any situation, distractions may show up to throw you off track. Learn to recognize them and face them. If you take no action, you may not get the response that you want. Let go of any negative thoughts or self-judgment that you may have. Remember, the worst thing that could happen is that you learn what not to do, while the best thing that could happen is that you learn what works and what to keep doing that. Most of us stay in our comfort zone, where we feel safe and comfortable, but in order to grow and get breakthrough results, we have to step outside of the zone of familiarity and into the scarier zone of the unknown. If you are feeling discouraged, uncomfortable, depressed, procrastinated or fearful, just remember that we always have a breakdown right before we have a breakthrough.

Follow your intuition, also referred to as your gut feeling or inner knowing. These are two similar feelings that we often get confused. One is a feeling that you shouldn’t do something because your inner guide knows it is the wrong action to take or the wrong words to say. If you go against this feeling, you may experience more blocks, or things just don’t work out the way you want. The other is a feeling of fear and just plain discomfort, but you know you have to do it. This one is the feeling you get just before you stretch and grow out of your old comfort zone. By trusting this feeling and facing your fears, you may experience ease and inner peace. Things will just start working together like a puzzle. It is important to learn to differentiate when your inner guide is telling you no, and when your body is just telling you no due to experiencing something new and uncomfortable.

*Take time now to journal about the blocks that you may be experiencing, and how you will overcome them. Continue to the next step when you are finished.

Step 6 The Plan

What is the first thing you could do to take action? What do you feel like you can do right now? When will you do it? What one thing could you do to take action? Journal about what you could do to move forward with this event. Write it down as an action plan! When would be a good time or day that you will do it? Be very specific. Is it today, tomorrow, or this week? Schedule it, write it on your calendar so you can see it and schedule other events around it. Always make sure to be accountable and do it!  If you would like to have someone remind you, call a friend, family member, your coach, an accountability partner, or someone you can trust and ask them if they can remind you at a certain time right before the event. Make sure to also write on your calendar a day when you will do the follow-up session, and review your notes in your journal.

*Take time now to journal about the action that you are willing to take and when. Continue to the next step when you are finished.


Congratulations, you have completed this coaching exercise. I hope you gained more clarity or understanding around this event or situation by going through the process. Remember, if something unfavorable happens during this process, it is probably just a blessing in disguise. Within every problem, there is an opportunity to be unmasked. Everything that has happened up to this point has perfectly been supporting you on your journey. You can’t do it wrong, and you don’t make mistakes. Mistakes are just opportunities to learn from and grow from. Continue to the next step only when you are ready to review your progress after you have followed through with your action plan.

Step 7 Follow-up and Review

Write down what you did, how it went, and what the outcome was. Would you have done it the same way? Would you have done it differently?  Did you have an “aha” moment?  Did you get clarification, answers, or insight? By reviewing your progress, this helps validate the action that you have taken and helps set you up for your next action step. Measurable results are very useful in situations like these. Make sure to thank yourself for your accomplishments and willingness to move through this process. Now that you have completed the Seven Step Breakthrough program for this event, you can now use it over and over for any and all events, just start over with step 1.


The Forgiveness exercise can help you realize who or what you may need to forgive so that you can move forward in life free from emotional pain and sadness. This exercise will teach you ultimately to have a clearer conscious and subconscious mind.

Forgiveness can be the most powerful tool to release you from any emotional pain that you may have been carrying. Sometimes emotional wounds from the past hold us back and we can’t break free of the feeling of hurt or loss. Even though we may not always feel it, these feelings still lie dormant in our cell memory. Eventually, the universe gives us an opportunity where feelings resurface. When this happens we can choose to ignore them or face them. If we try to ignore them and continue to suppress them, hoping they will just go away, they will always come back. When this happens, we can allow them to come back again as problems, or we can look at them coming back as another chance for forgiveness. If we face them head-on, look them in the eyes, and tell the truth to ourselves, then we have more of a chance to remove at least the feeling associated with old emotions. After that, we can let go and finally be free of the pain.

There are several powerful ways to forgive yourself and others. It is only when you choose to do this, that you will truly be free and be more open to receiving the abundance that is waiting for you.

Preparation:  Have your journal to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by thinking about someone or something that happened to you recently or in the past that made you angry, frustrated, or upset. This could also be something you did or didn’t do. Now read each question below. Take your time answering them and take notes.

  1. Who or what made you upset?
  2. How did it make you feel?
  3. How would you want them to change?
  4. What would you change about the situation?
  5. If you were able to change the situation, how would you feel now?
  6. What needed to be different in order for you to be happy?
  7. What is it that you would want to experience instead?

Now ask yourself

  • Did I deserve this?
  • Do I deserve to be free from this?
  • Can I forgive them?
  • Can I forgive myself?
  • Do I now have the power to release this?
  • Do I deserve to be happy and move beyond this?
  • What did I learn from this person or situation?


  • Was this person mirroring something back to me that I was doing to them or to others?
  • Have I ever treated someone the way they treated me?
  • Is this something I would like to change about myself?

New response

  • In the past, I reacted to this person or situation like this…
  • Now I will respond like this…

Focus the session: Choose to forgive. Complete the sentences below.

  • I choose to forgive them for…
  • I choose to forgive myself for…
  • I now allow myself to move on from this because…
  • I am now free from this because…

Now take a moment to be with this feeling of freedom. How do you feel now? What has changed?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to change behavior and response in the future? Write it down.

Dreams Visions and Déjà Vu

Everyone dreams, but not everyone remembers their dreams. Those who could remember their dreams were held in high regard to kings and queens and in some North American Indigenous cultures if you had a dream and remembered it, you were to share it with the chief. Some dreams would foretell prophecy of events to come and the chief needed to know this so he could make preparations.

There are dreams and there are visions. We dream when we are asleep and we have visions when we are awake.

Sleeping Dreams

Our dreams are always trying to show us something that we need to change, work on, let go of, or take some action on. Often times owls and lizards are the messengers that remind us to pay attention to our dreams. One of the ways we can do this is to keep a dream journal.

Keep your journal near your bed and as soon as you wake up note your dreams, even if they don’t make any sense. Most dreams are forgotten within ten minutes of waking so it is essential to record them as soon as you wake up. Write down specific details and events that occur in the dream including time, dates, places, people, objects, actions, and other symbols that you think are important. By piecing together the different parts of a dream, you will be able to start interpreting the individual contents of your dream and the dream as a whole. You may look back at them later and understand their meaning.

Nightmares are dreams that create a lot of fear in us. It is said that in order to move past some chapter in our lives, we have to face some fear. Sometimes this is too hard for us to face in waking life so our guides will play it out in our dreams. So when you have a nightmare, say thank you to your guides for helping you to process this in the dream state rather than in real life. Nightmares can also mean that we are running from something in our lives that we need to stop and face in waking life.

One of the founding fathers of dream interpretations was the psychologist Carl Jung. Jung believed that dreams were a window into the unconscious mind. He believed that while the dreamer is sleeping, their unconscious mind is working on finding solutions to problems they face in their conscious mind.

Dream dictionaries are also a good reference tool to use when trying to figure out the meaning of the dream.


Sometimes we have visions when we are least expecting them. Then there are those who intentionally go on a vision quest to receive a vision. This is usually because they need some major guidance in their lives.

We can also have visions during meditation, prayer, shamanic journeying, or just sitting and gazing out the window. This could also be called day-dreaming. A vision is a glimpse of some event happening in the future.

Déjà Vu

The term Déjà Vu is French and literally means, “already seen.” Those who have experienced the feeling describe it as an overwhelming sense of familiarity with something that shouldn’t be familiar at all. Have you ever had Deja Vu? Deja Vu is the subconscious mind recalling a dream that our conscious minds did not recall. It seems highly possible that Deja Vu could be a prediction from a dream that you don’t remember having or a lost prediction.

Whether you have a night-dream or a vision, Spirit is trying to get your attention.

Dream interpretation is the process of assigning meaning to dreams. In many ancient societies, such as those of Egypt and Greece, dreaming was considered a supernatural communication or a means of divine intervention, whose message could be interpreted by people with these associated spiritual powers.

The dream is a series of images, which are apparently contradictory and nonsensical but arise in reality from psychological material which yields a clear meaning.” – Carl Jung

Control vs Approval?

This exercise can help us see how we may be getting in our own way by trying to control a situation. It can also show us how the need for approval can hold us back.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths, and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Answer the questions below. Take your time and explore each question to the fullest.

What is something significant that is currently happening in your life or has happened recently?

If any, what are some of the ways you seek to control this situation?

What are some of the ways you seek approval in this situation?

Now on a scale of 1-10, ten being the most honest you can get, how would you rate how honest you are with yourself? Circle one: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Now back to the thought of control vs. approval. If you had to choose, would you choose to have total control or total approval in your life?

For the purpose of this coaching exercise, which would you prefer: Being and having total control of your world and life or having everyone 100% approve of you?

What do you notice about the need for control or approval in your life?

What does it mean for you when you don’t have complete control or everyone’s approval? How does that show up in your life?

Based on your answer, what changes would you be willing to take regarding control and approval?

Now, are you ready for the BIG question? Would you be willing to give up your need for control or approval?

Imagine your life free of the need for control or approval. What would that look like and feel like?

When you think of choosing to give up the need for control or approval, does that feeling add excitement to your life or add anxiety?

One of the most significant aspects of Life Coaching is that you can make a huge difference in your life just by looking at things differently, having a new perspective and making new choices.

What will you take away from this coaching exercise?

Focus the session: What was the most significant part of this session?

Create an action plan: What is one thing that you are willing to do to support your choice? What action are you willing to take? Write it down.

Shamanic Journey into “Sacred Mountain”

This is a fun and healing journey into Sacred Mountain to meet the Animal Spirits who are guiding you on your path at this time. Then they will take you on a journey to see or experience something your soul knows you need to experience to fulfill something within you. Next you will be guided to visit one of your ancestors for a powerful message and gift. From here the animals take you back into Sacred Mountain where you will safely walk out and return to the current time and space. Most people experience seeing multiple animals and receive a good message to carry out on their earth walk. It can be fun, simple, healing, validating and powerful.

Preparation: Have your drum ready. Create a safe, comfortable and quiet place. Smudge and say an opening prayer.

Begin the journey: 

Get into a comfortable position… Now allow your eyes to close and begin by focusing your awareness on your breath… Breathing in and breathing out………………. Breathing in easily and effortlessly… Then breathing out slowly and softly… Each breath allows you to become more relaxed and comfortable… Outside sounds only allow you to go deeper inside…Remind yourself how good it is to leave the noise and stress of the outside world… Know that you are safe and in control of yourself… Journey into the quiet and peaceful space of your own inner world.

As you allow yourself to go deeper into a state of relaxation, perhaps you can remember a time when you stood before a pond or lake where it was quiet and peaceful. Imagine you tossed a pebble into the center and stood noticing the ripples spreading out, watching one ripple after another, flowing outward, farther and farther away from the point where the pebble landed. The ripples slow down, becoming farther apart until the water once again is calm and peaceful. I’m going to invite you now to imagine that your body is like that body of water. As you drop a pebble into the center of your body, you can feel waves of relaxation rippling out. Allow yourself to become more relaxed as these waves flow through your body. Through your torso, into your chest and your back and through your spine, spreading out into every muscle of your back. Through your shoulders and arms, up through your neck, your jaw, face, and scalp. Feel the ripples relax you as your muscles let go and become soft and loose. Feel the ripples of relaxation flowing down the bottom of your torso. Flowing through your abdomen and your pelvis. Down through your thighs, calves, ankles, and toes. Know that each time you drop a pebble into the center of your body you can become more relaxed.

Now that you are completely relaxed you are ready to begin your journey to Sacred Mountain to meet your animal spirit guides. Imagine yourself somewhere in nature… somewhere familiar to you, a safe place.

Now see yourself walking along a path and notice all the beauty around you, the trees, the grass, the mountains.

As you are heading toward Sacred Mountain… you begin to think about why you are going on this vision quest to seek answers, guidance and direction from the animals. This is the tradition of your ancestors and now it is your turn… sort of like a rite of passage.

As you look at the path ahead you realize how far you have gone already… Sacred Mountain is very close.  In the distance, standing at the base of the mountain, you see an animal guide there waiting for you. Get a good look at this animal as you approach. Notice how it is smiling at you…. grateful you have arrived.

This animal now begins to speak and explain to you that they are here to guide you through the entire experience, watching over you and keeping you safe. You reply with the same gratitude and appreciation.

Together you walk toward some large boulders then you see a cave-like opening into the mountain. Your animal says, “This is the way into the mountain where you will meet with one of your ancestors and the rest of the animals that will be with you on your journey.”

As you enter the mountain…. the womb of Mother Earth… it starts to become very dark. The moist, earthy smell stimulates all of your senses. You notice in random places along the walls… there are beautiful clusters of crystals and gemstones… glittering and shining brightly… lighting up the way.

Up ahead you see a clearing… it’s like a whole new earth. Everything is much more alive. You notice how much more colorful the plants and trees are… the water, the sky. In the middle of this clearing, you see an old human figure standing there to greet you. They are holding a beautifully hand-woven blanket that they made just for you. This is one of your ancestors… get a good look at them. They bow to you in gratitude that you have come. Then they through the blanket onto the ground… as it lands perfectly centered you look at the pattern woven carefully into the design.

You then look up at your ancestor in amazement and they smile and motion for you to sit on the blanket while you wait for the other animals to come. Without hesitation, you get comfortable and situated on the blanket and begin to look out into the distance. Your ancestor just stands near you as if they will be there to watch over you while you go off with the animals.

Now you call upon the animals that will come to guide you on your journey today… and one by one they begin to appear from the distance. Look at them as they come closer. What type of animal are they? You look closer and they are smiling, grateful to see you. Another appears, and another. Look at all of them… look into their eyes. Thank them for coming today to take you on this journey.

Now they motion for you to stand up and take their hand… and all together now, you walk off into the distance with them… knowing they will keep you safe. Trust that they will take you to wherever it is that you need to go… trusting that they will show you whatever it is that you need to see. You won’t be gone long… so let go and enjoy the journey.

NOW BEGIN DRUMMING (10 to 30 minutes)

Now, wherever you are on your journey… get a good look around you… take in all the images… remembering everything easily and effortlessly.

You can feel that your journey with the animals is now starting to come to completion so you begin to make your way back to the place inside Sacred Mountain. Slowly and safely you make your way back… remembering everything.

As you arrive back inside the mountain with your animals, you see the blanket still there… you see your ancestor also waiting patiently for you to return. You sit softly on the blanket and look around you at the animals that you just made this amazing journey with. You also know that your time with them is coming to an end… for now. But before they go, they want to offer you a message and a gift. What could this be? You listen closely to the important message that they have for you as you receive the gift. You reach out your hands to receive the gift and the message.

You bow to them in appreciation for this gift and thank them for the important message they shared with you. They bow back and say their good-bye’s. They also want you to know that you can call upon them and that you may return at any time. Then one by one they begin to walk off into the distance… except for the one that came into the mountain with you… this one is still by your side. You notice that you are feeling a deep sense of gratitude as you watch the last one disappear. Now you turn and look to your ancestor as they say to you, “Now you know… now you are ready… take this knowledge and this gift and go back out into the world… and live a good, long life.”

Your ancestor then picks up the blanket and drapes it over your shoulders… now motioning for you to begin your way back out of the mountain. You and your animal begin to make your way back through the dark passage until you see the light getting brighter and brighter.

When you emerge out of the cave and start on the path back home… you begin to remember everything about your journey… reflecting back on all the details.

You feel more alive, balanced, and a greater sense of gratitude for your life.

Ahead you see your home and as you open the door you begin to come back into your body. Take your time returning… wiggle your fingers and your toes… remembering your journey as you come back safely to this time and space. Slowly open your eyes and when you are ready.

Guided Imagery “Vision”

This guided imagery exercise is designed to help you clarify your vision and goals. When we are clear on our vision and goals then it is easier to take the right action.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

Turn off your cell phone and anything else that may distract you.


Get into a comfortable position… Now allow your eyes to close and begin by focusing your awareness on your breath… Breathing in and breathing out………………. Breathing in easily and effortlessly… Then breathing out slowly and softly… Each breath allows you to become more relaxed and comfortable… Outside sounds only allow you to go deeper inside…Remind yourself how good it is to leave the noise and stress of the outside world… Know that you are safe and in control of yourself… Journey into the quiet and peaceful space of your own inner world.

As you allow yourself to go deeper into a state of relaxation, perhaps you can remember a time when you stood before a pond or lake where it was quiet and peaceful. Imagine you tossed a pebble into the center and stood to notice the ripples spreading out, watching one ripple after another, flowing outward, farther and farther away from the point where the pebble landed. The ripples slow down, becoming farther apart until the water once again is calm and peaceful. I’m going to invite you now to imagine that your body is like that body of water. As you drop a pebble into the center of your body, you can feel waves of relaxation rippling out. Allow yourself to become more relaxed as these waves flow through your body. Through your torso, into your chest and your back and through your spine, spreading out into every muscle of your back. Through your shoulders and arms, up through your neck, your jaw, face, and scalp. Feel the ripples relax you as your muscles let go and become soft and loose. Feel the ripples of relaxation flowing down the bottom of your torso. Flowing through your abdomen and your pelvis. Down through your thighs, calves, ankles, and toes. Know that each time you drop a pebble into the center of your body you can become more relaxed.

Continue to keep your eyes closed and relax as you visualize the following questions…

First, we will focus on the financial areas of your life.
What would you like your annual income to be?
What does your cash flow look like?
How much money do you have in savings?
What investments did you make?
What is your total net worth?

Next, what does your dream home look like?
Where is it located?
What does the landscape look like around your home?
Notice what is inside your home… Walkthrough each room noticing the details of the furniture, who is there what is on the walls… fill in all the details.

Next, visualize what kind of car you are driving… See yourself driving that car… Notice what it feels like to drive that car… How did you buy that car?
Next, visualize your ideal job or career… Where are you working? … Do you own your own business? … What type of work are you doing? … Who do you work with? … What kind of clients or customers do you have? … What is your compensation like?

Now focus on your free time, your recreation time … What are you doing? … Who are you spending this free time with? … What are your sports or hobbies? … What kind of vacations do you take? … Where do you go? What do you do for fun?
Next, what is your ideal vision for your body and physical health? … What do you do to maintain your ideal body? … What do you do to stay healthy? …What foods do you eat? … Do you drink a lot of water?

Now visualize your ideal relationships … Is there a partner in your life? … What does your perfect partner look like? … What does this perfect relationship feel like? … What is your relationship with your family like? … Who are your friends? … What does your relationship with them look like? … Are they loving, supportive, and empowering? … What kinds of things do you do together? … What does your relationship with yourself look like? … Are you loving, nurturing, and happy with who you are? … What things do you do to take care of yourself?

What about your personal life? … Do you see yourself going back to school, getting training, attending workshops, seeking therapy for past hurt, or growing spiritually? … Do you meditate or go on spiritual retreats? … Do you want to learn to play a new instrument, or learn to sing? … Do you want to learn a new skill? … Do you want to write a book, run a marathon, or take an art class? … What things are you doing just for you?

Finally, focus on the community you live in… This is the community you have chosen… What does it look like when it is operating perfectly? … What kinds of community activities take place there? … What is your role in this community? … What is your charitable work?… What do you do to help others and make a difference? …How often do you participate in these activities? …
Who are you helping? … How does it make you feel to help others?

In a moment when you open your eyes, you will feel relaxed and excited, remembering all that you experienced, what you saw, and how you felt. Three, coming back to the present time…Two, stretching your body…One, eyes open, refreshed and alert.

Now take the time to write down the details of your experience. Pause here until you have written down everything you can remember.

Focus the session: Answer the following questions. Then choose one topic that you would like to work on for the remainder of the session.

  1. What do the financial areas of your life look like?
  2. Details of your home…
  3. Your vehicle?
  4. Career or business?
  5. Free time…
  6. Your body and health?
  7. Your relationship with your partner…
  8. Relationship with your family and friends…
  9. Relationship with yourself…
  10. Personal areas of your life?
  11. What do you do for yourself?
  12. The community you live in?
  13. Your participation in the community…

Create an action plan:

What was the most significant part of your vision?
Do you believe it is possible for you to have, be, or experience these things?
What could you do to bring your vision to life?

Guided Imagery “Future Self”

The Guided Imagery, Future Self exercise can help give you reassurance to where you will be in the near future. It can also help you receive messages and guidance from your higher self and from within.

Preparation: Make sure you have provided a safe and quiet place to conduct the session. Have a journal ready to take notes.

Before you begin, form a question about which you would really want to know the answer. Once you have the question, write it in your journal.

After the session, and before talking, journal about your experience or draw the images that you saw during the session. Take your time and be as detailed as possible.


Get into a comfortable position… Now allow your eyes to close and begin by focusing your awareness on your breath…Breathing in and breathing out… easily and effortlessly…

Each breath allows you to become more relaxed and comfortable…

Outside sounds only allow you to go deeper inside… reminding us of how good it is to leave the noise and stress of the outside world…

Know that you are safe and in control of yourself…

Journey into the peace and quiet of your own inner world…

As you allow yourself to go deeper into a state of relaxation, perhaps you can remember a time when you stood before a pond or lake where it was quiet and peaceful. Imagine you tossed a pebble into the center and stood noticing the ripples spreading out, watching one ripple after another, flowing outward, farther and farther away from the point where the pebble landed. The ripples slow down, becoming farther apart until the water once again is calm and peaceful. I’m going to invite you now to imagine that your body is like that body of water. As you drop a pebble into the center of your body, you can feel waves of relaxation rippling out. Allow yourself to become more relaxed as these waves flow through your body. Through your torso, into your chest and your back and through your spine, spreading out into every muscle of your back. Through your shoulders and arms, up through your neck, your jaw, face, and scalp. Feel the ripples relax you as your muscles let go and become soft and loose. Feel the ripples of relaxation flowing down the bottom of your torso. Flowing through your abdomen and your pelvis. Down through your thighs, calves, ankles, and toes. Know that each time you drop a pebble into the center of your body you can become more relaxed.

As you become more relaxed, you find yourself becoming more quiet and peaceful…

Now bring your attention to the spot between your eyes… the third eye.

Imagine a light there. Notice the color of the light between your eyes… Now imagine that light becoming a beam that extends out into space… Follow that beam as it leaves this building… as it travels above the city and continues out…

Now envision the space circling all around you… Keep gazing out, further and further into outer space… Notice the curvature of the earth.

As you keep going further and further out, you find yourself surrounded by the softness and quiet of space… Notice the blue-green ball below you with the white clouds whispering around it… Allow yourself to enjoy this perspective for a moment.

Now notice another beam of light very near you… a different color from the one you followed into outer space… Begin to follow the new beam of light back down to earth… This beam is taking you back to earth a number of years into the future… Keep following this beam down, noticing the geography stretched out below you.

As you come closer to the end of the beam, keep noticing where you are… This is where your future self lives, you, sometime in the future…

You might get a sense of the time frame or just know that it is sometime in the future you are visiting… Come into contact with the earth and notice where you are…Notice what dwelling and nature surround you… Now move to the dwelling of your future self…Notice what it looks like… Notice what kind of landscaping there is… Notice if there are trees and flowers… Get a good sense of this place…Notice the door to this dwelling… As you become more aware of your surroundings someone comes to the door… Identify this person as your future self… they have been waiting to greet you… you return the greeting…

Your future self… Or possibly an image that represents your higher self welcomes you into this time and place…take in this person… Notice what this image looks like and feels like… Notice how they stand… Notice what they are wearing… Get a sense of this person’s essence… Now notice the inside of this dwelling… Notice what it feels like to be in this space… Notice the colors and the energy of this place… Now move with your future self to a comfortable place for a conversation… Perhaps your future self offers you something to eat or drink… Settle in and make yourself comfortable for a talk with your future self…

There are some questions that you want to ask your future self.

Begin by asking, “What is it that you remember most about the last few years?”

Take a moment now to really listen for the answer.

Now ask your future self, “What wisdom or message do you have for me to get me from where I am now to where you are?” … “What would be most helpful?”

Really listen to what your future self has to tell you…

Good, now take a moment to ask your future self a few more important questions…

(Pause here for about thirty seconds)

Ask your future self one final question before you go… perhaps they have a gift for you to remember this experience by… Take time now to receive this gift… As you bring this visit with your future self to a close, thank them for being here with you today and for sharing so much wisdom and such a precious gift.

Now find your way back to the beam of light and journey back up the beam… watching this world of the future grow smaller and smaller as you move out into space… Again you notice the blue-green ball below you with the white clouds whispering around it. Notice that your beam of light has intersected with a different beam of light that will take you back to this year, this time, and this location… Slowly follow this beam of light back to the present time on earth… bringing back with you all that you experienced on your journey… able to recall it easily…

As you travel down this beam, notice the earth growing bigger and bigger… Moving further down the beam, notice the geography of this area, the skyline, and the landscape… Finally, come back into this room here…Good.

In a moment, when you open your eyes, please remain silent and journal everything you can remember about your journey…

Three, coming back to the present time… Two, Stretching your body…One, eyes open, refreshed and alert… Zero.

Now take quiet time now to write in your journal. (pause recording)

When using this exercise with your client: Ask a few questions…

What does your future self look like?

What were they wearing?

Where did your future self live, what did the surroundings look like, what did the inside look like?

What did you remember most about the last few years?

What wisdom or message did your future self have for you?

What gift did your future self give you?

What was the most significant part of this experience?

Describe how you felt during the journey.

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? What can you begin to do now that is in alignment with your future self? Write it down.

Guided Imagery “Facing Fear”

The “Facing Fear” Guided Imagery exercise can help guide you to work through your fears and possibly help to overcome what may be blocking you from moving forward in some situation. Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. Keep in mind that there are many different physical and emotional expressions of fear. These symptoms may include:

Physical symptoms:

Difficulty breathing
Racing or pounding heart
Chest pain or tightness
Trembling or shaking
Feeling dizzy or light-headed
A churning stomach
Hot or cold flashes including tingling sensations

Emotional symptoms:

Feeling overwhelming anxiety or panic
Feeling intense need to escape or run away
Feeling “unreal” or detached from yourself
Fear of losing control
Feeling like you’re going to die or pass out
Knowing that you’re overreacting, but feeling powerless to gain control

FEAR is Future Events Appearing Real or False Evidence Appearing Real.

“The things you fear the most are the things you need to face first.”

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” – Marie Curie

So what do we do when we are full of fear or scared in the moment? Stop and breathe! Just breathe. Then ask yourself what you are afraid of. Next, gather the courage to face the fear. By facing it, you are deciding that it has no power over you. By running from it, you are giving your power away to it and it will continue to return until you do face it.

Preparation: Pen and paper or your journal to take notes.

Begin the Session: Begin by asking yourself a few questions about your fears. Take notes.

What are some of your fears?

What did you fear most when you were a child?

Do you ever remember being scared?

What were you scared of?

What do you fear right now?

What would it be like if you didn’t have this fear?

Now read the Facing Fear guided imagery visualization provided.

After the session, journal about your experience or draw the images seen during the session.


Get into a comfortable position…

Allow your eyes to close and begin by focusing your awareness on your breath…

Breathing in and breathing out… easily and effortlessly

Remember that each breath allows you to become more and more relaxed and comfortable…

Outside sounds only allow you to go deeper inside…

Remind yourself to leave the noise and stress of the outside world…

Know that you are safe and in control of yourself…

Journey into the quiet and peaceful space of your own inner world…

Begin to imagine your fear or obstacle…

What does it look like?

It could be a giant wall keeping you from reaching your goal… or it could be a big ugly monster roaring in your face. Whatever it may be, just know that you are now safe to face it.

Notice the details of this fear and how it is blocking you from moving forward…

What words come to your mind to describe this fear?

Where do you think this fear is coming from?

What may have happened in the past that keeps you stuck in this fear?

Now take several deep breaths… Breathing in and breathing out… easily and effortlessly…

In breathing out, release all the physical and emotional tightness you may have in your body…

Now look ahead and begin to become fully aware of your goal just on the other side of this obstacle…

Look beyond this fear… This is what you would see and experience if the fear or obstacle was removed.

Who would you be? … Where would you go? … What would you do?

Know that your goal is patiently waiting for you on the other side of this obstacle.

Is there anything stopping you from moving beyond this fear or obstacle?

What would you need to do to get over this obstacle?

All you have to do is go around or go beyond it…

Maybe you have tried to overcome this fear before… if it’s a person you have to face, go up to them and tell them the truth about how you feel.

Take your time and fully be present in this moment.

Do whatever it takes to remove the obstacle…

You are in complete control …

Now, say out loud to this fear, “YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER ME.”

You now begin to see the fear become weak and powerless…

You recognize how this fear may have served you in the past…

You also recognize what this fear was trying to teach you…

You thank the fear for serving you perfectly in your effort to achieve your goal…

Now that you have faced this fear and overcome this obstacle you begin to see an opening ahead…

As you start to move forward you begin to imagine that you are on your way to your destination… you begin to experience the magnificence of having achieved your goal.

Notice all of the things around you now…

What do you see now?

How do you feel now?

In a moment, when you open your eyes, you will easily recall and remember everything about your journey…

Three, coming back to the present time… Two, stretching your body…One, eyes open, refreshed and alert…


What do you know now that you didn’t know when we began this session?

What was the most significant part of this experience?

What will you do now that you have overcome this fear?

When will you do it?

Focus the session: Focus the coaching session around the experience. Take notes. Describe how you felt during the journey.

Create an action plan: What can you begin to do now to face your fear?

What is a Vortex? Sedona AZ

What is a vortex?

Here’s my best description…

I’ve been doing vortex tours in Sedona since 2006. I have read many books and listen to several talks and lectures on the subject. I have worked for several tour companies, some large, some privately owned, all great. I have had several shamanic teachers that all gave me some insight into vortexes, Where they are, how to find them, what type of a vortex it was, etc.

When I am out on a tour, the things I get asked the most from visitors is, “Where is the vortex?” They are looking for a spiral-shaped formation that is supposed to be coming out of the ground. At least that is what they look like on the local “to do” maps. Some of the “New Age” folks in Sedona may refer to them as vortices.

The truth is, you can’t see a vortex at all, it is something you feel. It is a place where the energy is more concentrated and can easily be used to heal faster or create more of something in your life. When I was about six or seven years old we lived in Oregon and one day my mother decided to take my brother and sister and I to this place called, “The House of Mystery.” This house was built on a vortex site. After traveling for about two hours down this dirt road with huge green trees on both sides we finally arrived at this little house built on the side of this hill. I was so excited to see what the buzz was all about that I jumped out of the car before it was even stopped. An immediate disappointment and now a deeper sense of curiosity consumed me because they were closed. We did look around a bit though and I could feel some interesting things happening to my body. I literally had to walk at a slant to keep from falling over. I also noticed that some of the plants in the beautiful garden were growing funny. The leaves would grow upside down and some of them looked like they were inside out. Okay, that was strange, but my brother heard that if you pour water out in a steady stream it would fall at a slight slant to the ground, so we tried it and it did! Wish we had more water because that was fun. Shortly after that we moved back to Arizona and have never been able to return since.

They say that the veils between the physical and spiritual worlds are very thin. Because of this, we are able to find more clarity, get answers, find our purpose, get in touch with our spiritual guides and an overall clear direction in life.

Just as our bodies have energy meridian lines that connect to each of our organs, the earth has ley lines that connect to these power centers all over the planet. Yes, there are vortex “hot spots” all over the planet. Some of which I know are in Peru, Hawaii, Egypt, Stonehenge, Bermuda Triangle, and Airs mountain in Australia. These power centers could be felt by the indigenous and they know there was something special about these locations. Each one is used for similar reasons; prayer, healing, manifesting, etc.

There are 5 main vortex sites in Sedona (depending on where you get your information from). Airport Mesa is a very masculine vortex, Indian Gardens vortex is very feminine, Boynton Canyon and Cathedral are balanced and very neutral. Bell Rock is also a balanced vortex. Really all of Sedona is one big vortex and there are several hot spots that the energy is more powerful. My favorite is a balanced vortex at the Wind Tunnel Caves.

Juniper trees in the area are very sensitive to the vortex energies and tend to spiral and twist as they grow. Some say that the more twisted the juniper is, the closer you are to the hot spot. Also, within my shaman studies, they say that the Juniper is one of the highest vibrations of the tree. This must explain why they are so affected by the energy. The Juniper is also a powerful healing tree; you can pull so much energy from them. I know where four healing junipers are. One at the Wind Tunnel Caves, one at the Hopi mound in Boynton Canyon, one along Upper Loop Rd, and one at Airport Mesa. When I tell people about these trees they want to touch them and sit in them for hours.

Masculine and Femenine?
Masculine vortexes work with the physical body as feminine may work more with the non-physical, emotional self. At a balanced vortex, you may not feel anything but immediate bliss. Masculine vortexes are also magnetic, empowering, and represent strength through action. Feminine vortexes are electric, calming, relaxing, and represent the wise and intuitive inner voice.

We all have masculine and feminine energies within us. The key to understanding more about ourselves is to know how to balance these energies.

Everything is Amplified!
Yes, that is exactly what I mean, everything is amplified and everything happens much faster here in Sedona. I didn’t know why I was guided to move here until I got here.

Sacred Land
The indigenous tribes that settled in the area did not live right in the heart of Sedona which is the Telaqepaque, uptown, and West Sedona area. They all lived on the outskirts of Sedona. This is obvious because you won’t find many ruins in the main parts, but you will find several caves, pit houses, and other dwellings all around Sedona. I figure because the Shaman of the tribe was the first one to listen to the land before settling there. The shaman was the member of the tribe that could talk to the land, and was very in-tune with nature, and could bring messages from the Great Spirit. They knew that this particular part of Sedona was “Great Spirits” land and should only be used for healing, prayer, and ceremony, and they should not live there.

Today, over fifty percent of Sedona’s population resides in the exact place that the indigenous knew not to live.

Powerful energy
Living in Sedona is not easy, I know from experience. I’ve lived there off and on since February 2009 and boy has it been a roller coaster ride! I was born in Cottonwood just twenty miles from Sedona and raised in Camp Verde. Yes, I’m a local native, but I have also lived in Oregon, California, Oklahoma, Nevada, and Florida.

The people
Most of the people that live in Sedona were called to move here by a strong inner voice and not just because of it beauty. They feel a deeper calling or connection to this magical place.

Developing your Intuition

What is intuition? It is the ability to acquire knowledge without proof, evidence, or conscious reasoning, or without understanding how the knowledge was acquired. Intuition can also be described as our sixth sense, inner voice, gut feeling, and inner knowing. It is the core of inner guidance where good decision-making comes from. It can come in the form of a thought or a feeling or both. We are all born with intuition. It is a completely natural part of who we are. Why don’t we listen to it? How do we develop it and learn to trust it?

“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap of consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you, and you don’t know how or why.” –Albert Einstein

Gut Feelings
Have you ever had a strange feeling that something bad was going to happen but you couldn’t quite figure out where it was coming from or for some reason you just all of a sudden feel nauseous or sick?

Following your gut instinct is also a manner in which your intuition is trying to direct you. For example, you’re about to go to an event with a friend and something just doesn’t feel right. You’re not quite sure why but you listen to the feeling and stay home. You’re glad you did because later that night, your friend calls and says that she didn’t end up going either because she got a flat tire and spent most of the night waiting for help. It also just so happens that she was going to pick you up. Listen to that gut feeling. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. At the very least, use your gut feelings to protect and keep yourself safe. On the other hand, if you get a feeling that you shouldn’t do something and you do it anyway, it could just result in something that will set you back or create more stress.

Intuitive Insight
Our intuition also will send us quick thoughts which may sound like a voice in your head. “Slow down” or “Wait.”  These are thoughts that appear to come out of nowhere but have important information, direction, and guidance for you. With so many distractions today, it is easy to disregard your intuition, but if you can practice by paying more attention to it, then it can be a very valuable source of guidance.

Trust Your Intuition

For most of us, our childhood conditioning trained us to look outside of ourselves for answers and solutions to everything. Few of us learned how to look inside and trust our intuition and gut feeling. Everyone was born with intuition and has at one time experienced it. Have you ever thought of someone and the phone rings and it’s them? Have you ever had a thought and it came true almost instantly? That’s your intuition at work. Most of us just dismiss it as coincidence, but if we begin to look and acknowledge it more, we can use it to achieve great levels of success.

How to develop your intuition

Meditation is one of the most popular and effective ways to develop your intuition. When we allow the mind to become still and quiet, we make space for answers to emerge from within us. Regular meditation or sitting in silence can help clear out distractions and allow creative solutions to spontaneously come into our awareness. This is best practiced in nature, by a stream or in another quiet and relaxing place.

Shamanic Journey “Earth Lodge Fire Ceremony”

The Shamanic Journey Earth Lodge Fire Ceremony is a guided imagery exercise. It can heal current issues by going into your body and communicating with it from a higher level.

Preparation: Have your journal ready. Create a quiet and safe atmosphere. Drum if you have one.



Begin by getting into a relaxed position. Take a few slow deep breaths. Breathing in softly and slowly and then breathing out. As you exhale you will begin to feel more relaxed… Just focus all of your awareness on your breath. (pause here for a few moments)

Now, allow your thoughts and feelings to move toward the issue or problem that you are experiencing. It will usually be something that may be consuming all of your energy at the present time. This issue could be causing problems in several different areas of your life.

As you focus on the issue, identify whether it is a physical, emotional, or mental problem. Or is it all of them? Take a moment to visualize this problem.

Now that you are clear, aware, and focused… let’s prepare to enter the sacred earth lodge. You notice the sun just about to set on the horizon… Beautiful mountains in the distance… The air feels very comfortable and the earth is calm.

Now you look out into the distance and call upon a power animal to join you in the lodge today… As it arrives you begin to feel even safer and very grateful that they are excited to join you on this journey… Get a good look at them and thank them for being there.

Now, with your power animal, look at the earth lodge in front of you… it’s a small cozy space made up of nature… you see a small opening with the light from the fire flickering inside… behind the lodge you notice several human figures watching over you… these are your ancestors or spirit guides who have prepared the healing fire and the earth lodge for you… You look to them and thank them before you go inside.

You feel calm, relaxed, protected and grateful as you follow your power animal into the lodge… The inside seems much larger than it did from the outside… You notice the fire is in the very center so you and your power animal go around to the other side of the fire and make yourselves comfortable.

The fire does not seem too hot… this is a very special kind of fire… a magical one that was carefully made by your ancestors… This fire is safe to the touch and does not burn… There will be times during this journey that you will scoop up some of the fire in your hands use it for healing… Go ahead, play with it using your hands… See, it doesn’t burn.

Now take a moment to look into the fire… You can see the truth about your problem in the fire… Look at it… It will reveal to you everything you need to know about healing this problem… (pause here for a moment)

What did the fire reveal to you? What did you see? What is the truth about this problem and how can it be healed?

Now go to that place in your body where you have held onto this pain… Look at it… Thank it for revealing itself to you… Now ask what does it want you to know? What message does it have for you? (pause) Thank it for the message and for teaching you such a beautiful lesson. Now scoop up some of the healing fire and put it where the pain once was. It heals instantly and now you can see only beauty where this problem once was. You are healed.

Now continue through the rest of your body… Is there anywhere else you would like to go? Any other places you might be carrying pain and need healing? If so, scoop up some more of the healing flame and cover the pain with it… Ask it to reveal why it is there and what you must do. Remember to thank it for being there to teach you such a beautiful lesson.

Now that you have explored and healed those parts of you, scoop up some more of the healing flame and wash it all over your body until you can feel every cell become clean, renewed and revitalized… back to its original… perfect… state.

You sit here for a moment and feel what it feels like to be completely healed from the past issues that you may have been carrying for so long… Feel the healing… Breathe it in… Let this new healing and sense of self, become your new belief… Your new way of life… The healed you… Just breathe.

Now you notice your power animal begins to get up and move toward the opening in the lodge… Somehow it just knew that you were complete and that it was time to go… So you follow it out.

You breathe in the fresh air and stretch your body… Looking around, you notice your ancestors moving from behind the lodge closer to you… They are very honored that you have come… they bow to you then turn and one by one they go into the lodge… You feel deep gratitude that they created all of this for you and watched over you while you were healing… As the last one goes in they pull the door closed behind them.

You turn and look to your power animal… They are still there with you and want to continue to walk with you on your journey… You gratefully accept and begin walking together toward your new path.

In a moment when you open your eyes, you will feel refreshed and you will easily able to remember everything… Three, bringing your awareness back into your body… Two, stretching and wiggling your fingers and toes… One, Open your eyes and remember where you are.

Now before speaking and while the images are still fresh in your memory, begin to write or draw in your journal. Take as much time as you need.

Natural Healing from Trauma and Addiction

Rebekah specializes in helping those who are struggling with any type of trauma or addiction and for those who live with someone who has experienced any type of trauma or addiction. We offer a safe alternative approach to dealing with emotional and physical pain.

We offer alternative holistic support for those struggling with trauma or addiction through healing the emotional pain that is causing the addiction. Addiction is a coping skill used to suppress unwanted feelings from some past trauma. Emotional trauma left unresolved for long periods of time can result in addiction and even physical pain and suffering.

The good news is that all emotional pain, physical pain, and suffering can be healed. This is possible by identifying the source of the pain. Instead of suppressing the pain and emotions when they come up, we suggest an alternative approach by allowing them to come to the surface. Instead of pushing it away, we invite it in to be recognized and acknowledged. We must simply change our mindset from identifying these unwanted feelings from suffering (victim mindset) to opportunities (victor mindset).

Maybe the thought of quitting your addiction makes you feel really uncomfortable because for so long, it has been there to help you. It has been the only thing that you could connect with to help you to not feel the pain, even for just short periods of time. The thought of letting it go might make you feel scared, powerless, and uncertain. You know this because if you let go of your addiction, then you would have to feel the pain. But what if it was only for a very short moment until it was permanently healed. If this was possible, would you then give it a try? Don’t waste another day of your life living in pain.

Imagine for just a moment what it would feel like to be free of your addiction. Imagine the root cause of the pain being healed so your body, mind, and spirit can return to their natural state of integrity. What would you do with all the money you would save? How would it affect your loved ones to finally have the real you back and fully present?




Illegal drugs


Prescription medication

Sex and porn

Working too much



Apathy (lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern)

Anger and hatred toward self and/or others

Confusion or lack of direction



Guilt or shame


Not feeling good enough

Physical pain






An accident

Divorce or separation

Extreme fear

Sexual abuse

Lack of understanding

Loss of a loved one

Negative influence or environment

Neglected as a child

Prolonged Stress




Blocked memory



Emotionally unavailable or withdrawn

Lack of motivation to live life or suicidal thoughts

Lack of purpose


Negative beliefs (Example: everybody lies, people are stupid or I’m not good enough)


PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Unable to receive or give love

Weight gain

You deserve to be free! Contact Rebekah today to learn more or schedule your breakthrough soul retrieval session.

Return to Turtle Island Project

The “Return to Turtle Island” project is an ancestral educational recovery and retreat center.

The project will include replica structures and a simulation of the way our ancestors would have lived hundreds of years ago.

Turtle Island is the original name of North America according to many indigenous Native American tribes.

Discover ancestral teachings, healing, and ceremony. Retreat in a safe environment where you will reconnect with nature and learn how to get back to the basics and develop a new love for the simple things in life that matter the most. Sit around a campfire and listen to the elders speak as they share stories and wisdom from the past. You just might enjoy live storytelling a lot more than what you will find scrolling on Facebook.

No drama, no media, no government, no money, only love, community, family and building relationships and trust.

Learn indigenous crafts including how to make pottery, baskets, clothing and textiles, basic leatherwork, beadwork, weapons, hunting supplies, cooking tools and techniques, games, basic living necessities and more.

Learn basic gardening skills, hunting, gathering herbs and medicines, preparing for winter and basic shelter making. Eat live indigenous food from the area including prickly pear, agave, yucca, juniper berries, mesquite pods, corn, squash, beans and so much more!

The Return to Turtle Island project is designed specifically for those wanting to learn more about how our ancestors lived. The community is free of modern technology, electricity, electronics, drugs, and alcohol.

It’s a safe place to heal from the fast world and learn the old ways of our ancestors, a concept that returns back to a time before European settlers arrived. The idea now is to embrace all as one tribe and teach others how to live in balance with each other and all life within mother earth.


It is Rebekah’s dream, vision, purpose, and mission to create this at this time. She has felt a deep calling for many years. Every time she visits ancestral sites she stops and listens to the wind… It’s the ancestors telling her to return to the old ways. Every time she visits these ancient sites, they speak to her giving her more and more insight and information into how they lived and what we need to do now.


Why now? The world has fallen out of balance. There are many things that have caused this and it all started not too long ago. It’s not too late to return to ancestral ways. Do it for the preservation of ancestral knowledge, songs, dances, stories, and culture.


Current status of this project: Collecting donations and searching for property. (Hoping for 40 acres or more)

Location: To be announced somewhere in Northern Arizona

Facilities will include:

Main office/only building with solar power. This is where all electronics will be kept. Limited access
A few small structures for guests to stay for their retreat. Structures will include a bed, bathtub, compostable toilet, wood stove. All heat and cooking will be done on a real fire.
Indoor community room
Outdoor community area with cooking grill and fire pit
Quiet room/library/meditation (indoor)
Healing Rooms
Two Moons Lodge (main house)
Community Garden
Animal Barn/Horse corral and stables, goats, chickens
Medicine Wheel
Ceremonial Teepee


Are you interested in supporting this project? There are many ways you can help!

Donate funds, land, physical help, or any other service you can offer.

Contact Rebekah to learn how you can help!

What is a Case Study?

What is a Case Study? A case study is a detailed report about a person who is experiencing a problem in their life. This could be physical, spiritual, mental or emotional. You may ask a friend, family member, or anyone that may be open and willing to be your client for this assignment. Please let them know that their name will remain confidential. You, as the student, will learn to identify and describe the problem and symptoms the client is experiencing by gathering information that will lead you to a spiritual diagnosis, and then finally a solution. A successful case study will then result in the problem being fully resolved or healed for your client.

Case Study Outline:
1. List the problem or problems your client is experiencing. If they are experiencing more than one problem, then determine if they are related or if they could actually be separate case studies. They may have more than one problem and the problems may or may not be related.
2. List any physical, spiritual, mental or emotional symptoms your client is currently having.
3. Pinpoint when the problem started. One of the ways to do this is to ask your client to close their eyes and ask them to remember a time before this problem started. Then ask them to describe the events that happened that led up to the start of the problem.
4. If it is a physical problem, then identify the physical and emotional connection
5. Spiritually diagnose the problem
6. Find a solution and conduct appropriate healing methods, tools, and exercises
7. Create an action plan for continued healing if needed
8. Follow-up and review results

Example Case Study:
1. Client has a urinary tract infection.
2. Pain going to the bathroom and frustration that the infection is distracting them from their work.
3. Problem started about three days ago.
4. Client became very upset and frustrated with an employee that was not following direction.
5. When the client became upset with the employee they held it in and allowed it to continue to frustrate them to the point of anger instead of talking with them to find out why they were not following directions. The client unknowingly and unintentionally manifested the physical problem within themselves in the form of a urinary tract infection by holding onto the frustration and anger. At this point, the client gave their power away to the situation instead of addressing it at the moment.
6. Client has a talk with the employee to see why they were not following directions. Employee appreciates them for asking and explains that they are feeling guilt from the recent loss of their mother and felt like they couldn’t do anything right. The employee now feels better just by talking about the loss to the client. The employee also feels a new and genuine caring connection with the client that will result in the employee doing a good job at work.
7. Client continues to check in with the employee often.
8. Client’s Urinary tract infection heals because the client is no longer frustrated or holding on to their anger.

Oracle Card Reading

An oracle card reading can help you find clarity, guidance, direction or just validation and confirmation that you are on the right path using Earth Medicine and indigenous teachings. Rebekah has been reading oracle cards for others since 2005. With her LIfe Coaching and spiritual mentoring experience, she uses the cards in such a way that brings all of these modalities together. Medicine is anything that will help bring you closer to your Creator and help you feel more connected and in harmony with nature and all of life. Rebekah is dedicated to teaching the sacred path and helping others find more peace, balance, and direction on their earth walk. Readings in person and by phone or video.

Spiritual Diagnosis

A spiritual diagnosis suggests that all physical, mental, and emotional problems have a deeper spiritual meaning.

Are you experiencing any of these?

Acne: Refusing to like and accept yourself as you are
Addictions: Lack of self-love and avoiding facing your own fears
Aids: Guilt related to sex and/or sexuality
Alcoholism: Inability to accept yourself and/or your circumstances
Allergies: You or someone else is getting in between you and your own self-power
Alzheimer’s Disease: Refusing to live your own life
Ankles: Ankle pain may mean one needs more pleasure in his or her life. Take some time to pamper yourself or spice up your love life. Indulge a little bit!
Anorexia: Afraid of being rejected and lack of self-love
Anxiety: Refusing to live in the present. Anxiety is an expression of fear.
Arthritis: Lack of self-love and self-acceptance
Back Pain (Upper): Yearning for understanding. Lack of emotional support can manifest in upper back pain. Maybe one does not feel appreciated, or they are holding back feelings of affection. If one is in a relationship, maybe have a discussion about feelings. If one is single, it might be time to branch out.
Back Pain (Middle): Overpowered by guilt
Back Pain (Lower): Financially unstable. Lower back pain may signify someone has financial worries. Try to sit down and focus on managing money better or hire a financial planner. It might also be time to ask for that well-deserved raise.
Baldness: Lack of trust in life and wanting to feel in control of every single aspect of your life
Blackheads: Anger outbursts
Blood Pressure (Low): Embracing a negative attitude to life
Blood Pressure (High): Accumulation of emotional problems
Bone Problems: Rebellion towards authority
Bowel Irregularities: Not wanting to let go and/or feeling stuck in a particular situation
Breast Problems (Left): Refusing to take care and loving yourself
Breast Problems (Right): Over-protection and inability to love someone
Breathing Issues: Feeling unable to handle life
Bronchitis: Bad family environment
Bruises: A punishing attitude to oneself
Bulimia: Hating oneself
Burns: Unbearable anger
Calves: Emotional tension, stress or jealousy may be the cause of calf pain. It may be time to let go of any big stressors in one’s life or to dump the jealousy.
Cancer: Extreme hurt and/or grief possibly related to past experienced issues, not feeling good enough
Cholesterol: Inability to experiencing joy in life
Circulation (Blood): Feeling stuck and/or lacking ideas and positive emotions
Cold Sore: Not wanting to face life, problems with speaking up
Colds: Unable to handle too many things and/or issues
Cough: Feeling a deep need to make a point
Depression: Feeling hopeless
Diabetes: Yearning for something which is no more in your life
Diarrhea: Running away from someone and/or something
Dizziness: Being ungrounded and/or lack of focus
Ear Issues: Unwilling to hear
Elbow Issues: Not wanting to accept recent changes. Arm and elbow pain may mean a lack of flexibility. Maybe one is resisting the natural changes that are occurring in their lives. Try shaking things up and going with the flow. Attempting to fight change only brings trouble.
Eye Cataracts: Unable to look eagerly towards the future
Eye Issues in Children: Closing their eyes to current family problems
Fainting: Not wanting to cope with the current situation
Feet Issues: Not wanting to move forward. Depression can lead to foot pain. Try something new or adopt a pet. Find something that gives joy!
Feminine Issues: Conflict with feminine aspects of yourself
Fever: Anger
Fibroids: Feminine ego being hurt by a partner
Finger Issues (Thumb): Feeling controlled and/or always worrying
Finger Issues (Index): Going against authority and/or guardian/parent. Pointing too much at others.
Flu: Too much negativity
Gallbladder: Suppressed aggression and blockage of energy, holding on to anger and resentment.
Gas: Hidden concerns
Grey Hair: Stress
Gum Issues: Unable to make one’s mind on important life issues
Hand Issues: Unable to handle things that should be dealt with. A lack of friends or reaching out may cause pain in the hands. Try making new friends or going to lunch with work associates. Spend some time actively meeting new people.
Head: Headaches or migraines can be brought on by the stress of day to day life. If one gets chronic headaches, they need to take some time for themselves. Not just once, but daily. Relieving the body of stress may help to ease any head pain.
Headache: Criticizing oneself
Heart Attack: Focusing on material aspects in life while enjoying nothing in the process
Heartburn: Being devoured by fear and feeling unable to go with life’s flow. (See also indigestion)
Heart Issues: Dealing with life issues through anger
Hemorrhoids: Not wanting to move on
Hip Issues: Feeling unable to make important decisions. Fear of moving, change and waiting to make a big decision. Make the changes one needs and move on. Also, make a choice and stick with it!
Impotence: Anger bottled up towards a past partner and/or harnessing sexual guilt
Indigestion: Anxiety related to a recent/current/upcoming event
Infection: Anger and/or irritation about a particular situation
Jaundice: Feeling or being prejudiced
Kidney Issues: Bottled-up anger that hasn’t been dealt with
Knee Issues: Unable to be flexible with own ideas. Knee pain may also mean that one thinks too highly of themselves. Spend some time volunteering and remember that all people are mortal. No one is free of imperfections.
Leg Issues: Not wanting to move forward. (See also calves)
Leukemia: Lack of excitement in life
Lice: Something is annoying you or bothering you. Let go of pesky people or ideas in your life.
Liver Issues: Resisting change
Lung Issues: Fearing life and feeling unworthy
Menopausal Issues: Feeling unwanted
Migraine: Fears related to sex and/or letting someone into your life all the while feeling pressured by someone
Nausea: Rejecting something
Neck Issues: Forgiveness of another or forgiveness of one’s self. Also, could be refusing to see another’s point of view.
Overweight: Needing emotional support and protection due to insecurity
Pain: Guilt
PMS: Rejecting feminine aspects within yourself
Prostate Issues: Sexual guilt and/or pressure
Seizures: Wanting to run away from life
Shoulder Issues: Shoulder pain is a sign that one may be carrying a heavy emotional burden or carrying other’s issues onto you. Basically, they are shouldering everything. Try to think of ways to solve this emotional problem or share the load with trusted friends or family.
Sinus: Feeling irritable towards someone in particular
Skin Issues: Feeling threatened by someone
Slip Disk: Feeling a lack of support from those around you
Sore Throat: Inability to express your true feelings about something/someone
Snoring: Feeling unable to move on from old patterns
Stomach Issues: Feeling malnourished
Stroke: Not being allowed to deal with own emotions
Teeth Issues: Unable to think through important decisions
Thyroid Issues: Feeling humiliated and/or repressed
Tourettes or Tics: Feeling confused between your own beliefs and another
Tumors: Drowning in remorse. Feeling deep regret or guilt for a wrong committed to you or by you.
Ulcers: Feeling you are not good enough
Urinary Issues: Anger
Varicose Veins: Being in a hateful/uncomfortable situation
Vertigo: Caused by anxiety and too much stress. Could be self-induced. Surrender and let go.

Individual cases may vary. This information is suggested causes only and is not a clinical diagnosis.

Wise Leader Spirit Messages

Wise Leader ?
Earth Medicine Messages…

You are a leader, you carry wisdom and radiance that inspires others. Even if you’re not always aware of the depth of wisdom within you, it’s emerging more than ever now. This is a time to step into your power and take the role of leadership. You are ready. It’s okay if you’re not completely sure at this time but make a decision anyway and go with it, it’s what a wise leader does.

The difference between knowledge and wisdom… knowledge is knowing what to do, wisdom is doing it.

When you pass, people won’t remember you for what you said, they will remember you for what you did.

These are timeless readings which means they are not attached to any specific date. It is my intention that you are receiving this message right when you are supposed to. Are you fulfilling your leadership role to the best of your capacity? If not, what’s stopping you? If you would like a personal reading with me, I am available by phone and in-person in the Sedona Arizona area. Please like and share! ? Rebekah

Animal Totems, Power Animals and Animal Messages

When we are seeking more balance and answers in life, we may call upon the animal spirit guides as the Ancestors once did.
Have you ever wondered why a stray dog wandered into your yard, or a hawk flew past just in front of you as you were driving? Do you collect pictures or figurines of pigs, dolphins, or frogs? These are all gentle messages from the animal spirit world offering you their medicine, insight, and clarity to your daily tasks and challenges.

“In the beginning of all things, wisdom and knowledge were with the animals, for Tirawa, the One Above, did not speak directly to man. He sent certain animals to tell men that he showed himself through the beast, and that from them, and from the stars and the sun and moon should man learn.. all things tell of Tirawa.” – Eagle Chief (Letakots-Lesa) Pawnee


You are born with a Totem Animal according to the time of year you were born. A Power Animal can be your Totem Animal or it can come to you later in life. A Power Animal can be with you for a short time or your entire life. To receive an Animal Message means that this particular animal is trying to get your attention to share insight, direction, or a message with you to assist you on your path.


A power animal is one that will come and stay with you for longer than just a moment. They know you really need their help at this time in your life and they are they to see you through it. Sometimes they stay for life.

Birth Date/Totem Animal/Clan/Direction/Element/Season/Life Cycle/Color/Herb/Other

Dec 21-Jan 19 Snow Goose/Buffalo/North/Wind/Winter/Elder/White/Cedar/Mental
Jan 20-Feb 18 Otter/Buffalo/North/Wind/Winter/Elder/White/Cedar/Mental
Feb 19-Mar 20 Wolf or Cougar/Buffalo/North/Wind/Winter/Elder/White/Cedar/Mental
Mar 21-Apr 20 Hawk/Eagle/East/Fire/Spring/Infant/Yellow/Tobacco/Spiritual
Apr 21-May 20 Beaver/Eagle/East/Fire/Spring/Infant/Yellow/Tobacco/Spiritual
May 21-Jun 20 Deer/Eagle/East/Fire/Spring/Infant/Yellow/Tobacco/Spiritual
Jun 21-Jul 21 Woodpecker/Coyote/South/Earth/Summer/Child/Red/Sweetgrass/Physical
Jul 22-Aug 21 Salmon/Coyote/South/Earth/Summer/Child/Red/Sweetgrass/Physical
Aug 22-Sep 22 Bear/Coyote/South/Earth/Summer/Child/Red/Sweetgrass/Physical
Sep 23-Oct 22 Crow or Raven/Bear/West/Water/Fall/Adult/Black/Sage/Emotional
Oct 23-Nov 21 Snake/Bear/West/Water/Fall/Adult/Black/Sage/Emotional
Nov 22-Dec 20 Elk or Owl/Bear/West/Water/Fall/Adult/Black/Sage/Emotional

There may be variances depending on different tribes. We recommend you research both, then you will know which one is you! The astrological animal may not be your own personal totem animal. Use it instead as an additional helper.

Snow Goose: The large white snow goose travels great lengths, some as far as 5,000 miles, during its yearly migrations to and from its nesting grounds in the North Arctic. As a totem, Snow Goose people will often go to great lengths to make their aspirations a reality. They have clear ambitions, and their imaginative minds, strong determination, sheer energy, and bubbling enthusiasm can make the seemingly impossible become attainable for them. Their persistence and determination often make them successful at attaining long-term goals that they have set out for themselves. Snow Geese will spend hours picking insects off of each other. Snow Goose people will often do ordinary things extremely well, sometimes to the point of perfection. These perfectionists can also sometimes be nitpickers, letting small and insignificant matters bother and frustrate them. When they feel that they’re not getting their goals accomplished quickly enough, or they perceive an obstacle, even a minor one, in their path, Snow Goose people often have a tendency to become despondent and depressed. Snow geese travel in large flocks, sometimes numbering in the thousands. Like their totem, Snow Geese people are usually very social and enjoy being in the company of others.

Otter: Otters are known for their playfulness, and thus, Otter people are friendly, playful, and love to have fun. Like their totem, Otter people are usually very helpful, considerate, and compassionate towards others and are often involved in charitable activities. They are very giving and throughout their lives, they will spend a great deal of their energy working to benefit the Earth and its inhabitants. Otters have a strong sense of family and are very passionate and devoted to their loved ones, and will mourn the loss of a mate for a long time. They love being parents, and are exceptionally good at it, and are very nurturing towards their cubs. Otter cubs stay with their parents for much longer than those of most other wild animals. Just like their animal totem, Otter people are also usually very devoted and loving towards their families and may have difficulty letting go of their children when they decide to move out into the world and be on their own. Otters are great organizers and keep their living areas very neat and tidy. Otter people are just the same and will often feel ill at ease and uncomfortable if their living and working environments are not clean and orderly. Otters are intelligent, creative, and inventive. As they float in the water on their backs, they place a rock on their tummies to use as a tool to crack open their shellfish dinners. And you can bet that Otter people are just as intelligent, creative, and inventive as their totem animal.

Wolf: The Native Americans regarded the wolf as intellect in both mind and spirit, a keeper of knowledge, and a great teacher, as well as a guide to the sacred. Those born during the Big Winds Moon are most often intellectuals, like their totem, and are usually hunters of knowledge, especially with regards to philosophy, religion, and anything else that they feel might bring meaning and purpose into their lives. Like the wolf, they are often very good with handling children and make excellent teachers. Wolf people are usually quite intuitive, and can often quickly discern the intentions and attitudes of others, even when they are hidden. Both wolves and Wolf people have a need to have a well-defined territory. For Wolf people, this territory not only includes their home and workspaces but also their relationships with others. Wolves are very social animals and companionship is important to them. Usually, they partner for life. And so it is too for the people with this totem. Wolf people are usually quite sensitive and, for them, a break-up can be devastating. These people often have difficulty handling their emotions. They feel vulnerable if they express them too freely, yet become depressed when their emotions are repressed. Their emotional imbalance may cause difficulties in their relationships.

Hawk: Like the falcon, people born during this moon are fearless hunters, always in search of something new. New places, new experiences, and new ideas are their prey. These people, like their totem, have the ability to reach great heights, though sometimes, however, they can lack the patience, concentration, or persistence to be able to see things through to the end. Although they begin each new endeavor with great enthusiasm, they can easily get bored or distracted and, therefore, will quickly change directions and leap onto the next new thing that comes along, leaving the other endeavor behind never to be finished. They may have a whole trail of unfinished projects behind them. To combat their tendency towards boredom, Falcon people may have several different projects going on all at once. Even so, they may still eventually lose interest in all of them and dive into something new that piques their interest. Falcon people, therefore, are often good at starting things, but not so good at finishing them.

Beaver: People who have Beaver as a totem are hard workers. Just like a busy beaver, they keep themselves busy whether it is at work, or at home, or at play. They have no trouble keeping themselves occupied. Even when it seems that there is nothing that needs to be done, Beaver people are creative and will always find something to do, even if it is just changing, adjusting, tweaking, or rearranging things that they have already done. Keeping busy helps to make Beaver people feel comfortable and content as well as giving them a sense of security. Beaver people are also persevering and patient and so, if they have their minds set on something, they usually end up getting what they want. They are quick to learn and are readily adaptable to new things, though they also have a tendency to want to make things fit themselves rather than the other way around. Sometimes so much so, that it may get to the point where they end up reorganizing the lives of those around them. But they usually don’t do so selfishly, but rather with the intention of it benefiting all those around them as well as themselves.

Deer: Deer people are fast-movers on every level. Not only do they move fast physically, but they also talk fast, think fast, and their emotions tend to change quickly. Due to all of their fast-moving, they are likely to often bound from one topic to another, from one idea to another, and from one project to another, many times failing to accomplish what they had set out to do. They are resourceful, however, and have an eye for beauty, and so they are capable of making something beautiful out of something simple. Deer people often have a short attention span, as well as a tendency to interrupt conversations because their minds are always racing, a part of the conversation might set their thoughts off on a tangent, and then they will want to express those thoughts immediately, thereby not allowing the person who was speaking to finish what they were saying. However, they are also intuitive and sensitive and are usually compassionate and understanding of others. Deer people often have an uncontrollable wild side to them which can sometimes make it difficult for others to understand them and for them to even understand themselves. With all of their fast-moving and occasional wildness, Deer people are often unorganized and easily lose track of time.

Woodpecker: To Native Americans, the rhythmic pecking of the woodpecker reminded them of the sound of the shaman’s drum. The people who have Woodpecker as a totem also tend to be musically inclined. The Natives say that the woodpecker not only did its pecking out of necessity in the search for food but that they also pecked for the sheer joy of it. Woodpecker, then, as a totem can teach people how to feel and express joy. Woodpeckers take great care in building their nest and raising their young, and so too do those with this totem. Woodpecker people find their greatest joy in building a comfortable, harmonious, and happy home for themselves and their children. They are usually excellent parents, and sometimes have difficulty with letting go of their children when it is time for them to leave the nest. lose relationships are important to Woodpecker people, and they can become very unhappy or even bitter if they do not have someone towards whom to direct their love, energy, and devotion.

Salmon: The salmon is a symbol of strength and longevity to Native Americans. Salmon swim upstream to get to their spawning grounds so they have the strength to swim against the current and the ability to survive despite hard times, and so do those whose birth totem is Sturgeon. Salmon are very graceful swimmers, causing very little disturbance as they move through the water. Water is the element of the emotions, and so it is one of Salmons people’s life tasks to learn to master their emotions and to swim gracefully through their lives causing little friction or disturbance. Salmon people can be resistant to change which can cause them a great amount of emotional upset. Demands that are put on them by others can also be a source of emotional upset and a lot of stress for Sturgeon people.

Bear: Brown Bears are independent and self-reliant, and so too are those whose birth totem is Brown Bear. These people are usually slow in acclimating themselves to change, and will often retreat to their dens for a time, where they can feel comfortable and secure within the familiar. Brown bear people are constructive and have a knack for fixing just about anything, from repairing a broken down car to mending a torn relationship. These people are usually quite gentle, like their totem animal, and handle their relationships with much tenderness and understanding. The Native peoples regarded the Brown Bear as a dreamer. People with this totem often love to daydream and have a vivid imagination. Sometimes they can get so wrapped up in their daydream that they become unable to distinguish it from their physical reality, which may cause others to think that they are liars.

Raven: Ravens and crows like to be together in numbers. They travel together, eat together, and live together. Raven people have this trait as well, preferring the company of others to being alone and on their own. They feel the happiest and most secure when they are with others. They work best when they are in a group and are extremely loyal to any group that they are a part of, and like the Raven, they are always ready to defend it when necessary. Like the birds, these people are often cautious and wary which may make it difficult for them to make decisions. They are often indecisive and slow to make up their minds, preferring instead to remain neutral rather than to choose one side or one thing over another. However, once they have made a decision, they will act on it with conviction. Since ancient times, the Raven and Crow have been associated with magic and mystery, and have been regarded as the guardian of secrets. Almost like magic, Raven people often have an uncanny ability to turn their wants and desires into realities. They are also usually very good at being discreet and keeping secrets.

Snake: Because of its ability to periodically shed its skin, the snake represents transformation, change, and renewal. And those born with Snake as their birth totem are inclined to shed their skins by way of making dramatic, and sometimes drastic, changes in their lives from time to time, letting go of their current ties and attachments and starting again anew. They may make sudden decisions such as to quit their job, or change their occupation, or sell their house, or move to a new city, or totally reinvent themselves. Sometimes, however, they make these changes at inopportune times, thereby causing unnecessary upset and suffering to themselves as well as to others. Change isn’t necessarily always easy for Snake people, but they are adaptable to anything that is new to them. For Snake people, their lives are usually a lifelong transformation. They may start out making changes that are for purely selfish reasons. As the Snake person goes through life, their selfish changes will usually eventually transform into more constructive changes that benefit not only themselves but others as well. Snake people may also start out as insensitive and hurtful towards others, but then their ability to wound will usually turn into the ability to heal. Snake people can be especially helpful to those suffering from alcoholism or drug abuse.

Owl: Owls have large eyes and keen eyesight which enables them to see and catch their prey in the darkness of night. Owl people are very observant as well with very little escaping their attention. They have a keen eye for detail as well as a deep insight into whatever they find of interest or importance. The owl is associated with hidden wisdom and the Moon, which is the light that shines through the darkness. Owl people usually have very good intuition, and may often find that they become aware of certain things before it becomes obvious to others. Though they are drawn to the esoteric and mysterious, they are usually able to keep themselves grounded in practical reality. From time to time, Owl people may feel the urge to disappear into the darkness like their totem animal. They may become quiet and withdrawn, and may even feel the need to be alone and will thus avoid being in the company of others. They may even suddenly break away from a situation or project in which they have been deeply involved. Because of their sudden withdrawal, Owl people may appear to others as antisocial. They might be and feel misunderstood by others and, during these times, may inadvertently hurt the feelings of those around them.


The Spirit Keepers are Spirit Beings responsible for teaching us the power of their respective Directions. When we are born, the Great Spirit assigns a particular one to us, like a Guardian Angel, to Guide, Teach, Protect us, and to serve as a Team Leader. There are lessons for us to learn from ALL of the Spirit Keepers. Each animal also has its place on the Medicine Wheel…

Of the North Wind is The Sacred Buffalo (Dec 21 and Mar 20)
The Power of Buffalo is renewal and purity. It is new life enclosed in death, new growth protected in rest. The Season of Buffalo is Winter, whether that “season” is about the time of year, the time in a person’s life cycle, or the time-phase of an idea. The animal totem of Buffalo is also White Buffalo, whose Medicine is Prayer and Abundance. The color totem is White (purity, balance). The time of day represented is Night.

Of the East Fire is The Eagle (Mar 21 and Jun 20)
The Power of Eagle is illumination and wisdom. The Season of Eagle is Spring, a time of awakening from Winter rest, a time of vitality, purity-of-energy. The animal totem is Eagle, whose Medicine is Spirit. The color totems are red (vital energy) and gold (enlightenment). The time of day represented is Morning.

Of the South Earth is The Coyote (Jun 21 and Sept 22)
The Power of Coyote is growth and trust. The Season of Coyote is Summer, a time of rapid growth, maturing, testing wisdom and helping it to grow. The animal totem is Coyote, whose Medicine is Trickster.  Some believe that the South Direction animal totem is Mouse, whose Medicine is Scrutiny. The totem colors are green (growth, healing) and yellow (intelligence, natural wisdom). The time of day represented is Mid-Day.

Of the West Water is The Bear (Sep 23 and Dec 20)
Also Chief Council of all Spirit Keepers, and whose Power is strength and introspection. The Season of Bear is Autumn, a time of strength gained from knowing yourself, a time of stability. The animal totem is Grizzly Bear, who is also Chief Counsel of all Animal Totems, and whose Medicine is Introspection. The totem colors are blue (spiritual strength) and black (looking within). The time of day represented is Evening.


This usually happens when we are least expecting it. It’s when a particular animal really comes into your awareness and undividedly gets your attention. Here are some examples…

A bird is very close to you and makes some kind of noise. Or an eagle, hawk or raven are circling just above you.

Someone walks up to you with their dog of some kind of pet.

You see some kind of wild animal out in nature

A bee lands on you

A butterfly passes you

You see a skunk

You dream of a particular animal

You call upon one in a shamanic journey or one just shows up

The animals are always trying to give us guidance, direction and subtle messages. Most of the time we are too busy and not paying attention. A long time ago, it was said that we humans use to talk to the animals on a regular basis. Since then, we have become more disconnected. But some of us are remembering through our DNA memory.

There are so many different ways these animals are trying to give you a message. When you see them, stop and pay attention to them, talk to them. Ask them what message they are trying to share with you. Now just because you see a bird flyS by or an ant crawLS across the sidewalk doesn’t mean you are “getting a message.” But if the bird lands near you and looks at you, or the ant crawls on you and stings you, then you could be receiving a message. Also, some Native Americans believe that when you get bitten or stung by the animal then it is sharing its medicine with you and to say thank you.


There are a couple of ways to do a reading.

Intuitively sit with your client and trust what image or energy of an animal comes to you. Then you can describe their meaning and ask them how it applies to their life.

Do a Shamanic Journey for your client to receive a power animal.

Do a card reading using any of the Animal Medicine card decks.

Some of the best card decks are:

The Discovery of Power Through the Ways of Animals Hardcover by Jamie Sams

Messages from Your Animal Spirit Guides Oracle Cards by Steven D. Farmer

How to read the animal medicine cards for yourself and others

Get into a comfortable and quiet space, in or outdoors. Smudge and clear the energy of the cards, yourself, your client and the space around you. Ask your Spirit guides and/or your clients Spirit guides to be present for the duration of the session. Have your client shuffle the cards, then hold them to their heart and ask their spirit guides to show them the message they need to hear. Then have your client pick one to three cards, however many they feel they need to pick. Then one by one you can help them interpret the card by first asking them to describe what it means to them. Then you can read the passage from the book provided.


A quick reference guide to the messages and teachings of the animal kingdom. Animal messages are different from animal totems or power animals.

Click here for an alphabetical list of all animals

The Truth is Inside You! Look Within…

According to an ancient legend, there was a time when ordinary people had all the access to the knowledge of the gods. Yet, even with this access, time and again they ignored this wisdom. One day the gods grew tired of so freely giving this unused gift to the people that they decided to hide this precious wisdom where only the most committed of seekers would discover it. They believed that if people had to work to find this wisdom, they would use it more carefully. One of the gods suggested they bury it deep within the earth. “No,” the other said, “too many people could easily dig down and find it.” Then another one of the gods suggested, “Let’s put it in the deepest ocean,” but that idea was also rejected. They knew that people would one day learn to dive and thus would find it too easily. One of the gods then suggested hiding it on the highest mountaintop, but it was quickly agreed that people could climb mountains. Finally, one of the wisest gods suggested hiding it deep inside the people themselves. They’ll never think to look there. And so it came to be.

Hawk Animal Spirit Messages

Choose your priorities! Focus and eliminate all distractions.

Once you decide on something to give your passionate attention to, the right action will become immediately apparent.

You have everything you need to get started.

As you recognize distractions, set strong personal boundaries to protect your energy and keep your focus. Most people allow distractions to stop them from living a life of passion. There are so many distractions all around us at all times, it is up to us how we will respond to them.

You have a unique gift and service you can offer the world… and the world is waiting for you to share it!

Take a moment now to write down all the things you’ve been wanting to do. Then narrow it down to your top three. As you look at your top three, you may see how they related. Now, of the three, choose one that you can begin to give your full attention to and stay focused on that with undivided attention and passion.

Please feel free to share your number one priority!

Bullying and Standing in you Personal Power

How do you handle bullying?

Is it easier to just walk away and tell everyone else what you wanted to say to them, or tell them in the moment then walk away?

A proven formula for confronting bullying without confrontation:

  1. State what you noticed them doing to you.
  2. Let them know how it makes you feel.
  3. Ask them why they are doing it.

In this way, you are approaching the bully with concern instead of anger and you will be more likely to have a better outcome.

Anger is an expression of fear and will only create resistance.

Concern is a form of compassion and will help you be able to find resolution much faster.

Resistance or Resolution?

Victim or Victor?

If you are experiencing any type of bullying and want to learn more, I am here for you!

The Story of “Two Dogs”

You may have heard about the “Battle Between two Wolves” story, but have you heard about the story of “Two Dogs”?

There is a story they tell of two dogs, both walk into the same room at separate times. One comes out happy and wagging his tail while the other comes out angry and growling. A woman watching this goes into the room to see what could possibly make one dog so happy and the other so mad. To her surprise, she finds a room full of mirrors. The Happy dog saw a thousand happy dogs looking back at him and this made him very happy while the angry dog saw only angry dogs growling back at him.

What we see in the world around us is only a reflection of who we are. In this situation, they are only reflecting something back to us that we need to heal. Although they can reflect back to us in many other ways.

Do you or someone you know have anger issues? No one chooses to be angry. Its a form of self-protection. A coping skill that has been developed over time.

Anger is a universal problem. It is not limited to one age group, culture, race, economic level, social status, educational background, or any other classification.

Unresolved anger is one of the main contributing factors to the destruction of marriages, the breakdown of families, and the weakening of communities. It is a major cause of health problems and a lack of productivity in the workplace, and it is a common denominator among juvenile delinquents.

Anger is a serious problem. What causes it? The root cause of a spirit of anger is tension from past hurts and guilt. This mixture of pain and guilt is cumulative and it erupts in anger when new offenses remind us of past experiences.

Most people assume that hurtful events in the past will be forgotten and will have no effect on the future. That is not true. Past hurts do not just go away, nor does guilt simply disappear after a wrong response to a situation. Unless these experiences are resolved through repentance and forgiveness, we will continue to experience bouts of anger when our tension points are triggered.

Solution: A soul retrieval session can help you look at the root cause and heal it from its point of origin.

Your Attention is a Gift

If you don’t like something, just take away its only power… your attention!

Whatever we give our attention to will manifest more of in our lives. Today, pay attention to who and what you are giving your attention to. If it makes you feel empowered then you are giving your attention in the right direction, if it makes you feel disempowered then stop giving it your attention.

Do you keep repeating the same patterns over and over again?

Life is continuously providing us with messages and information. When we do not listen, then the messages become lessons. When we do not learn, the lessons become problems. When we do not address the problems, they become crises. When crises are left unresolved, they create chaos in our lives. Just imagine how life would be if we learn to live on the levels of messages and lessons.

A lesson will keep repeating itself until it is learned. Life first will send the lesson to you in the size of a pebble, if you ignore the pebble, then life will send you a brick. If you ignore the brick, life will send you a brick wall. If you ignore the brick wall, life will send you a demolition truck.

The Great Circle of Life Spirit Messages

The message of the circle of life says that all things are possible when you begin to accept all things for what they are without judging them. All parts of your journey have meaning, teachings, lessons, beauty and grace. Your dreams are coming to fruition and abundance is flowing to you. You are exactly where you are supposed to be doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing. Embrace it! Wanting to be somewhere else won’t get you there any faster. When we learn to accept, acknowledge and appreciate what we have right now, then we naturally move into the place we’ve dreamed of. This includes relationships, work, career, family, where you live, you name it. The same message applies to everything.

The Great Smoking Mirror Spirit Messages

The message of the great smoking mirror is that of reflections. This suggests that all life form is a mirror and that we all came from the original source. If we all saw each other as a unique expression of ourselves then there would be no need for judgment or war. Then we could learn a better understanding of compassion and forgiveness. Accept the light and the shadow equally. Even the shadow side of yourself will lead you through trial and error and reveal the true image of your authentic self.

Teachings of the Talking Stick Spirit Messages

Maybe this message is for you? The message of the Talking stick means to speak your truth. Communicate from your heart and share your reality without hesitation or fear of being judged or rejected. Be willing to stand before the crowd and share from your center. This isn’t the time to be shy or hesitant. It’s a time to heal through communication. You have the gift of a true leader through the way you communicate with others. You have a very important message inside you that others are just waiting to hear. Answer the call and share your message. In tribal council meetings, a talking stick would be passed around in honor of each individual‘s voice being heard. No one else was allowed to speak except for the one holding the talking stick. Imagine now that you are the one holding the talking stick. What if you now have the opportunity to share your message. What would you talk about?

Reaching Your Destination Spirit Messages

Your light is shining brightly!

All your hard work and effort is paying off. Glory triumph and success or yours. If you’ve given your power away, now is the time to reclaim it. It’s time to stand in your own light!

A destination is less of a place but more of a new way of seeing the world. Your dreams are moving to fruition. If you have any incomplete projects or unresolved relationships this is the time to complete them. This is an important part of reaching your destination. Take time to celebrate and acknowledge your successes in life.

The voyage was long and they were many adventures along the way but as your trek reaches the destination there’s a feeling of joy and celebration.

It’s important to stop and rest and congratulate yourself for who you are and for what you have done. The traveler forgives those, who on the voyage, were less than honorable release any feelings of resentment and fear and sadness that you may have gathered along the road.

You’ve reached your goal let everything else go you’re a majestic being who can bring light into the hearts of others. Celebrate and honor yourself. You are so worth it.

Ancestral and Generational Healing

Ancestral Healing is a powerful way to help you heal not only yourself but also your family.

This exercise will help you have a deeper understanding of generational curses and vows and how to heal them.

What is ancestral healing? Ancestral healing occurs when we ultimately heal some problem in our life. These problems could be caused by a generational curse or family karma.

What is a generational curse? A generational curse can be a spiritual, mental, physical or emotional problem or pattern that you and your family continue to repeat generation after generation.

Generational curses can go on for four generations but once the curse is broken, the blessings can go on for a thousand generations.

How do we inherit the curse and why does it keep happening to us? The curse can be caused by several things. These are things that your ancestors and relatives of the past including your Grandparents, your Mother, and your Father have done. The reason we are suffering from it is that it is passed down through our DNA and it is up to us to break it. Now, while you may not have committed any of the following crimes, you can still carry the vow of the curse. The top three reasons these courses affect us are:

  1. Trespass: Doing something against one’s will or without permission including them, their possessions or their land.
  2. Iniquity: A violation of Creator’s moral law, perversity and acting out really bad behavior.
  3. Sin: To knowingly act against divine law

What are some symptoms of these curses? Although there are many different curses, here are a few examples. Have you or any one of your family members experience any of these? Can you think of any others?

  • Failure, self-worth, pity, sorrow, victim
  • Poverty, lack, hunger, scarcity
  • Being very judgemental or critical of self and others, pointing fingers
  • Disease and illness
  • Premature death
  • Divorce, breaking relationships, searching from relationship to relationship and never being totally happy
  • Accidents and injuries
  • Any type of abuse, mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual
  • Addictions, sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling
  • Adultery
  • Violence
  • Abandonment
  • Betrayal
  • Loneliness

How to remove, release, break any curse in your life and the lives of your family members for good!

You can do this at any time. I prefer to do it on a new/dark moon and can expect to see the miraculous results begin to happen of the full moon.

Ask your higher power “What do I have to do to be free of ________” or “What must I do to have ________ in my life?” Then just listen for the answers.

Next, in a prayer state or you can write these down and burn it.

  1. Admit or confess what you or a family member has done wrong. Get specific. Don’t leave anything out! Even admit things you may not even know about.
  2. Ask for forgiveness for yourself and for your family members.
  3. Believe! Have faith that things will change and feel the curse being lifted.

And so it is.

Hide the Truth Deep Within Them… They’ll Never Look There

According to an ancient legend, there was a time when ordinary people had all the access to the knowledge of the gods. Yet, even with this access, time and again they ignored this wisdom. One day the gods grew tired of so freely giving this unused gift to the people that they decided to hide this precious wisdom where only the most committed of seekers would discover it. They believed that if people had to work to find this wisdom, they would use it more carefully. One of the gods suggested they bury it deep within the earth. “No,” the other said, “too many people could easily dig down and find it.” Then another one of the gods suggested, “Let’s put it in the deepest ocean,” but that idea was also rejected. They knew that people would one day learn to dive and thus would find it too easily. One of the gods then suggested hiding it on the highest mountaintop, but it was quickly agreed that people could climb mountains. Finally, one of the wisest gods suggested hiding it deep inside the people themselves. They’ll never think to look there. And so it came to be. Believe in life coaching.

Smudging and Clearing

What is smudging or what does it mean to smudge?

The most common herb for smudging is sage. When we smudge we burn the herbs in an abalone shell or something similar. We wave the smoke all over our bodies and into our hearts then out into the rest of the word to pray and give thanks. Smudging may be used for many purposes including removing negative energy from a person, place or one’s home. If you are smudging a home or building, you would start first by opening all the windows and doors, then move in a clockwise direction making sure to wave the smoke in all the corners really good. In some Ancestral traditions, they would use an eagle feather to wave the smoke. It is said that the eagle would carry our prayers to Creator because the eagle is the one who can fly highest into the sky. The story also says that the eagle could fly so high up that it burnt the tips of its wings when it touched the sun.


Put some dry loose sage in a shell and activate it with fire. Once the sage is well lit, blow out the flame and let the sage begin to create smoke. Waive it with your hand or a feather. Cup it with your hands and wash it over your head and down your body. Cup some more smoke and put it into your heart area.

There are several different types of smudging depending on what your goal is.

  • Smudging to clear negative energy. If there is any form of negative energy in a person, group, home, workplace, land or particular place, you can smudge to clear the negative energies away. When smudging a space, first open all the doors and windows so that any negative energy may escape. Start at the front door and work your way sun-wise around the space until you come back to the front door. If you smudge your home daily in the morning, you will start to feel it becoming more and more clear.
  • Smudging before ceremony. The intention of smudging before ceremony or working with a client is to enter the session with a clean, clear and open state of mind where both the client and the practitioner can become present and let go of any expectations in order to receive the best possible outcome.
  • Smudging and prayer. Also a good practice is to smudge while praying. The smoke is said to carry our prayers up to the creator.
  • Clearing your energy after working with a client. It is a good practice to clear your own energy before and after a session with your client.
  • Clearing crystals and physical objects. You can clear your crystals regularly by smudging them. Other ways of clearing crystals include laying out under the full moon for three nights. The night before, the night of, and the night after. You can also run water over them or bathe them in a stream. Laying them out in full sunlight is also a common practice. You can also smudge to clear physical objects whether they are new or used. This is just a safe practice to clear any possible negative energies that were previously attached to the item.


Cedar: Used for protection

Copal or Pine Sap: Copal is actually a resin but very commonly used in the purification lodge.

Deer Tongue: Burned to inspire luck and love.

Lavender: Promotes spiritual healing, tranquility, higher consciousness, release energy blocks, release tension, calming. Lavender is also used for purification and promoting love.

Palo Santo: Palo Santo also know as “Holy Wood” is a native tree of Mexico and the Yucatán Peninsula to Peru and Venezuela that inhabits South America. It is also found in Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, Colombia, Ecuador, Peru and on the Galápagos Islands. Palo santo may be burned, similar to incense. In Peru, a shaman, or medicine man, reportedly lights palo santo sticks and the rising smoke will enter the “energy field” of ritual participants to “clear misfortune, negative thought-prints, and bad spirits.

Sage: Used for prayer and purification. Clearing energy.

Sweetgrass: Invites the good spirits to come. Also burned when something good happens to show gratitude to the good spirits. Sweetgrass braids are known to attract positive energy. Many Native tribes use sweetgrass in prayer, smudging or purifying ceremonies and consider it a sacred plant. Just as sage is used to clear negativity, to cleanse, sweetgrass is used to bring positivity.
Sweetgrass represents positivity, strength, connection to the Creator and all our relations.
The scent when burned dry is sweet, reminiscent of our ancestors. When braided, sweetgrass represents love, peace and harmony or mind, body and spirit.

Special Mixes:

  • The Manifestation Mix: Sage, sweetgrass, deer tongue and cedar create an energizing atmosphere. Used to promote prayer in manifesting your desires.


To clear yourself:

  • Briefly immerse yourself in cold water.
  • Scoop up any negative energy with your hands and toss it into the sun.