Becoming the Hollow Bone

As the facilitator/practitioner, it is very important for you to remain neutral and unattached to the clients’ story. It is extremely important to avoid becoming emotionally involved no matter how bad or traumatizing the story may be. When facilitating this exercise for a friend or family member, this is also very important and I would recommend explaining to them that even though you are my “mom, husband, son, etc”, just let go of the attachment of that just for the purposes of this moment/session and allow me to be a neutral guide. This allows your client to build trust with you. If you become emotionally involved with your client’s story then they will begin to lose trust. Ancient teachings call this technique, “becoming the hollow bone.”

Frank Fools Crow was a revered Lakota Holy Man who taught that you must become like a “hollow bone” to be a great healer. He believed that to become a conduit for the source of all creation fulfills the destiny of the human spirit to sustain the order of existence. According to Fools Crow, “We are called to become hollow bones for our people. We are not supposed to seek power for our personal use and honor. What we bones really become is the pipeline that connects Wakan Tanka, the helpers and the community together.” In his becoming a hollow bone, Fools Crow believed that he went through four stages:

First, he called in Wakan Tanka (Great Mystery) to rid himself of anything that would impede him in any way, such as doubt, questions or reluctance.

Then he recognized himself as a clean tube, ready to be filled with hope, possibilities, and power.

He experienced the power as it comes surging into him.

Finally, giving the power away to others, knowing that as he is emptied out, the Higher Powers will keep filling him with even greater power to be given away.

Hollow bone meditation

Close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply seven times. Inhale for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and then exhale for a count of four. Focus on the breath as it enters the nose and fills your lungs, and then gently exhale any tension you might feel, clearing the energy channels of your body. Release all of your worldly concerns, doubts, and fears, allowing them to drift off on the air of the wind, on the breath of life. Feel yourself relaxing with each breath.

When you are fully relaxed, ask the “Higher Powers” to remove any blockages that prevent you from functioning as a hollow bone. Repeat the affirmation, “I choose to be a clean, hollow bone.” Visualize yourself as a hollow bone or tube that is all shiny on the inside and empty. The cleaner the bone, the more energy you can channel through it, and the faster it will flow.

If you have a drum, begin drumming a steady tempo of about 3 beats per second and imagine the power of spirit flowing through you. You may feel it, see it, sense it, or simply imagine it. As you focus on it, it will occur, for all energy follows thought. If your mind wanders, bring the focus of your attention back to the beat of the drum. Drumming opens portals to the spirit world, draws spirit in, and opens you up to receive it.

Then as you become full begin to share it with your client. This exercise is a great way to start any session.

Also, when you become the hollow bone, it allows for you to become fully present to those you are working with.

The Empath

Being an empath can be a lonely journey. It’s full of heartache and poor boundaries. Learn to transform empathy into compassion. You don’t have to feel the pain and suffering of another. It’s not your responsibility to take on the pain of another. It’s okay to hold space and express care and concern but it is enabling to try and rob someone of the experience their soul came here to feel.

What is intuition? It is the ability to acquire knowledge without proof, evidence, or conscious reasoning, or without understanding how the knowledge was acquired. Intuition can also be described as our sixth sense, inner voice, gut feeling, and inner knowing. It is the core of inner guidance where good decision-making comes from. It can come in the form of a thought or a feeling or both. We are all born with intuition. It is a completely natural part of who we are. Why don’t we listen to it? How do we develop it and learn to trust it?

“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap of consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you, and you don’t know how or why.” –Albert Einstein