See Be Do Get – Life Coaching Exercise to Give a new Perspective to Old Limiting Beliefs

This coaching exercise teaches us the reasons why we keep attracting events into our lives that we don’t want. It also teaches how to redirect our actions and responses to get the outcome we do want.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by asking yourself to think of something you are experiencing right now that you are not happy with.

SEE BE DO GET

1. See/Observe – What did you SEE, or observe during your experience? Explain your experience.

2. Be/Believe – As a result of what you’ve experienced, what do you now believe? Ask yourself how you are or act (how you BE) now as a result of what you experienced. What do you now believe?

3. Do/Action – This is the pattern that I developed because of this belief. Describe the pattern that you may have developed because of this belief. What do you DO now to reflect what you believe?

4. Get/Outcome – This is what keeps happening now because of my past experiences and the beliefs that caused me to develop. This is now what you GET, or your current outcome.

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Focus the session: Now reverse the process.

5. Get/Outcome – This is what I would like to experience. Ask yourself what would you like to experience now? What would you like the outcome to be now?  This will show you how to redirect your thoughts in order to GET a new desired OUTCOME.

6. Do/Action – This is the pattern that I will develop. Ask yourself, what pattern could you develop now to get your desired outcome? What would you have to DO differently? What new ACTION will you take?

7. Be/Believe – This is what I now believe. Describe your new BELIEF. How will you BE now as a result of the new action you will take?

8. See/Observe – This is what I will experience. Ask yourself, what will you experience now as a result of the new action and belief? What will you SEE and OBSERVE now?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to create the outcome you want? Write it down.

Security and Insecurity

Do you sometimes find yourself feeling overwhelmed with self-doubt and lack of confidence? Despite your accomplishments, do you feel like you haven’t gotten ahead? Do you feel that you don’t deserve lasting love and that partners will eventually leave you? Do you stay at home, afraid to venture out and meet new people because you don’t feel you have enough to offer? Do you feel overweight, boring, stupid, guilty, or ugly? These are all examples of insecurity and can be transformed once you understand what may be causing it and what you can do to overcome it.

Insecurity is a feeling of uncertainty, lack of confidence or anxiety about yourself and may produce:

  • Fear, worry, and anxiety
  • Restlessness, fatigue, and insomnia
  • Indecisiveness
  • Avoidance of others
  • Depression

Security is the state of being free from any danger or threat and may produce:

  • Boldness and a sound mind
  • Rest, peace, and joy
  • Decisiveness
  • Love, confidence, and fellowship
  • Thanksgiving and praise

If you have insecurities in your life, it may be because you are clinging to something that can easily be taken away from you whether material or a relationship.  If you are anxious, worried or fearful, then you are most likely trusting in or holding on to something that can be taken away from you.

What causes us to become insecure?

The kind of childhood you had, past traumas, recent experiences of failure or rejection, loneliness, social anxiety, negative beliefs about yourself, perfectionism, or having a critical parent or partner can all contribute to insecurity. The following are the three most common forms of insecurity and how to cope with them.

1. Insecurity Based on Recent Failure or Rejection

Recent events in our lives can greatly affect both our mood and the way we feel about ourselves. The biggest negative contributor to happiness is the ending of a relationship, followed by the death of a spouse, losing a job, and poor health. Since unhappiness also influences your self-esteem, failure and rejection can have a major effect on your confidence.

Below are some tools you can use to overcome failure or rejection:

  1. Give yourself time to heal and adapt to the new.
  2. Get out and engage with life, following your interests and curiosity.
  3. Reach out to friends and family for distraction and comfort.
  4. Get feedback from people you trust.
  5. Persevere and keep moving towards your goals.
  6. Be willing to try a different strategy if necessary.

2. Lack of Confidence and Social Anxiety

Many of us experience a lack of confidence in social situations like parties, family gatherings, interviews, and dates. The fear of being evaluated by others can lead you to feel anxious, judged and self-conscious. As a result, you may avoid social situations, experience anxiety when you anticipate social events or feel self-conscious and uncomfortable during them. Past experiences can feed your sense of not belonging, not feeling important or interesting, or just not being good enough.

Being bullied or excluded from a group of friends in middle school or high school can continue to negatively affect your confidence as an adult. If you grew up with critical parents, or parents who pressured you to be popular and successful, you may also be overly sensitive to how others perceive you. The truth is, that most of the time, people are more focused on how they are coming across than on judging others. Those who judge and exclude are often covering up insecurities of their own and so their opinions may be less than accurate and they may value superficial attributes instead of character and integrity.

Below are some tools to transform insecurity from lack of confidence and social anxiety into security:

  1. Talk back to your inner critic. Remind yourself of all the reasons that you can be interesting and fun or would be a good friend or partner.
  2. Prepare in advance. Think of some things you can talk about like current events, movies you’ve seen, hobbies, your job, or your family.
  3. Avoiding social situations just makes things worse. So go to a party or on a date even if you’re nervous or have to go alone. Your anxiety should decrease once you get engaged with others.
  4. Set yourself a smaller goal, like talking to one new person.
  5. Deliberately try to focus on others to take the focus off of you. Become the observer and notice what other people seem to be feeling and doing. Do you notice any similarities or skills you can learn from them?

3. Insecurity Caused by Perfectionism

Some of us have very high standards for everything we do. You may want the highest grades, the best job, the perfect figure, the most beautifully decorated apartment or house, perfect kids, or the ideal partner. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always turn out exactly the way we want, even if we work extra hard. There is a piece of the outcome that is at least to some degree out of our control. Bosses may be critical, jobs may be scarce, partners may resist commitment, or you may have genes that make it difficult to be skinny. If you are constantly disappointed and blaming yourself for being anything less than perfect, you will start to feel insecure and unworthy. Beating yourself up and constantly worrying about not being good enough can lead to depression and anxiety, eating disorders, or chronic fatigue.

Below are some ways to transform perfectionism into security:

  1. Try to evaluate yourself based on how much effort you put in, rather than on the outcome, which is dependent on external factors.
  2. Think about how much of a difference it would actually make if you were to work ten times harder. Would the time and energy spent be worth it?
  3. Perfectionism is often based on all or nothing thinking, so try to find the grey areas. Is there a more compassionate or understanding way to view a situation? Are you taking your circumstances into account when you evaluate yourself? Is there something you learned or achieved even if the end result wasn’t perfect?
  4. Perfectionists often have conditional self-esteem: They like themselves when they are on top and dislike themselves when things don’t go their way. Can you learn to like yourself even when you are not doing well? Focus on inner qualities like your character, sincerity, or good values, rather than just on what grades you get, how much you get paid, or how many people like you.

Relationship Coaching for Developing Communication and Listening Skills

This exercise looks at the basic laws of relationships, communication, and listening.

Relationships play a huge part in our lives and may often be brought up in a coaching session.

Relationships are what make our world go around. Whether it’s our relationship with ourselves, others, or the planet, we are always communicating in some way.

All relationships are mirrors of our relationship with ourselves. People come into our lives for three reasons…

  1. To reflect something back to us that we admire or dislike about ourselves. When we come in contact with these people, we may feel a sense of familiarity. Pay close attention to these moments, as there is usually something of great value to learn here.
  2. To give us information that will support us on our path. This may be a stranger that you are standing next to in the bookstore as they suggest that you read a certain book.
  3. To support us on our life’s journey. People that come into our lives to support us also come in three different ways: a moment, a season, or a lifetime. People that come into our lives for a moment are usually the ones who will reflect something back to us about ourselves, or they have a bit of information or insight that they can share with us. People that come into our lives for a season may be supporting us by teaching us a lesson that will add to our growth. People that are in our lives for a lifetime, such as our spouses, your children, or our parents could be there to teach us the biggest lessons that we will learn in our lives. They are all perfectly supporting us somehow.

No matter who comes and goes in your life, all people are all there to support you in some way or another. Make sure to show your gratitude and appreciation for everyone, as this will reflect back more gratitude, appreciation, and support to you in your own life.

Good communication is important

Listening is a very important part of communication. Developing good listening skills is one of life’s most important gifts. Have you ever stopped to hear the birds chirping, the wind blowing, and the earth creating? This is just a small part of our communication with the planet. Then there are our pets; do we listen to them? There are many levels of communication, most of which don’t involve using our voice to speak. With people, most communication is based on body language. Body language speaks louder than words, just as the phrase says: actions speak louder than words.

Listening to someone does not mean to do what he or she says. It just means that you heard what they said and acknowledged them, even if you didn’t agree. There is a difference between listening with our ears and listening with our hearts. If we listen with our hearts, from our place of knowing, then we will hear what they are really trying to tell us.

Sometimes, in a tough conversation, people may not know what to say, have a hard time saying it, or just don’t say anything at all. This is where we become the listener and ask questions.

There are three places that we can come from when we are communicating with others, or making decisions.

  1. Head– From this place, we may be trying to rationalize situations, use intellect, process, analyze, and react. This is great for use in business.
  2. Heart– When we are in our hearts, we are connecting, expressing love, feeling compassion, sensitivity, and sympathy. Sometimes it can be difficult to make decisions from the heart when we are too sensitive or emotional. These emotions could get in the way so it is important to think from the heart when we are completely grounded. This is great for use with loved ones.
  3. Knowing– This feeling comes from the place just below or behind our navel, our center, our gut feeling, also called our place of “chi” or our life source. This is where we go when we are seeking answers from within. Here we can only experience the truth of all things, a knowledge of who we really are, why we are here, and how we can best serve all of humanity. From here we are able to respond to situations rather than react. It’s similar to the sense of being in the present.

Our knowing is also the place where goosebumps come from during certain situations or experiences. These are actually “Truth Bumps.” We can know, that when this happens, Spirit is present.

Exercise: Pause for a moment, count to five, take a couple of deep breaths and get centered. Then ask yourself, which one of these three places are your current thoughts and decisions coming from? By doing this exercise several times throughout your day, you may find that your thoughts and decisions will start to shift more into alignment with your wants and desires.

Clear Signs

Life is continuously providing us with messages and information. When we do not listen, then the messages become lessons. When we do not learn, the lessons become problems. When we do not address the problems, they become crises. When crises are left unresolved, they create chaos in our lives. Just imagine how life would be if we learn to live on the levels of messages and lessons.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper or your journal ready for this exercise.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Throughout your day, and as you encounter different people, even your family that you see every day, look for what each person may have to offer you, or what you may have to offer to them. If someone is asking you for some guidance, look at how it may be serving you to help them. Recognize what category they fall into.

Answer the questions below. Take a few minutes on each one and explain your insight and answers. There is an example question provided for each category…

Relationship with yourself, others, and the planet

What does having a positive relationship mean to you?

Are you happy with your relationship with yourself?

How do you see your relationship with the world?

What is your relationship like with people in general?

What is your relationship like with animals?

How is your relationship with the planet?

Communication

What does good communication look like to you?

Do you practice good communication?

Do you freeze up when something triggers you and you don’t say anything at all?

Do you speak clearly?

Are you very clear about your intentions when speaking?

Listening

Are you a good listener?

Do you acknowledge others when speaking to you?

Do you catch yourself thinking of something to say while someone else is speaking to you?

Do you interrupt or talk over people?

Create an action plan: If you had to choose one thing to work on first, would it be your relationship with yourself, others, and the planet? Would it be developing better communication or would it be to become a better listener?

Prayer and Intention

Prayer is a good practice in any culture or religion. We pray to communicate to our Creator, Spirit or the forces that be that we may ask for help or just send our thanks and gratitude for what we have. Prayer raises our vibration through connecting with Source. Prayer is a thought, an intention, a dream, a desire a wish.

THE ELEVENTH INSIGHT “EXTENDING PRAYER FIELDS”
By James Redfield and The Celestine Prophecy

The Celestine Prophecy is made up of Twelve Spiritual Insights. The Eleventh Insight is the precise method through which we hold the vision. For centuries, religious scriptures, poems, and philosophies have pointed to a latent power of mind within all of us that mysteriously helps to affect what occurs in the future. It has been called faith power, positive thinking, and the power of prayer. We are now taking this power seriously enough to bring a fuller knowledge of it into public awareness. We are finding that this prayer power is a field of intention, which moves out from us and can be extended and strengthened, especially when we connect with others in a common vision. This is the power through which we hold the vision of a spiritual world and build the energy in ourselves, and in others, to make this vision a reality.

The Power of Prayer

In this level of consciousness, we become more purpose-driven and receptive to how those in the afterlife are lifting us up. We begin to comprehend the real nature of prayer and guided purpose. We realize that prayer works within the Karmic design. The more we are in alignment with the principle of giving — and our inner intuition to accurately help others — we will sense our heightened, creative power and see it working through our prayers. When we use this power for uplifting the spiritual consciousness of others, we draw more powerful people into our lives to uplift us. The key is discovering that affirmative prayer, practiced with the emotion of gratitude (it WILL happen), establishes the strongest faith validity.

Ancient Texts

There is an ancient language and a field of energy that connects us to that field through thought, emotion and feeling, not speaking.

  1. The feeling is the prayer
  2. We must feel as if our prayers have already been answered

When you make the two “Thought” and “Emotion” one, you will say to the mountain “mountain move away” and the mountain will move away. If the two (thought and emotion) make peace with each other in this one house (you) the mountain will move away. When you can marry your thought and your emotion into one single potent force, that is when you have the power to speak to the world. When you make the two become one in your heart, you create the feelings in our body.

So how do we do this? Have you ever heard “ask and you shall receive?” The asking is not done with the voice. To ask we must speak to the field (the divine matrix) in the language that the field recognizes. The field doesn’t recognize our voice, it recognizes the power in our hearts. Our hearts create magnetic electrical waves. that’s what the field recognizes.

Ask without hidden motive and judgment and you will be surrounded by your answer. Be enveloped by your desire that your gladness be full. Feel as if you already have what you want or what you want to experience has already happened.

Create the feeling in your heart as if the prayer is already answered.

You must make a future dream a present fact by assuming a feeling of your wish fulfilled to come from a place that has already happened.

Gratitude will also help create this feeling.

A Morning Gratitude Prayer by Rebekah Simpson

Thank you, Creator, for this new day. Another day to live. Thank you for a good night’s sleep, a warm bed, and this house that is provided for me.

Thank you for My family, please continue to protect them.

Thank you for my protection and for guiding me through signs in nature.

Thank you for all that I will experience today, may it bring me peace and happiness.

Thank you for any opportunities that I may have today to lift others up, to empower them and bring peace and joy into their lives.

When to Pray?

Anytime is a good time to pray. You don’t have to say your prayer out loud. A silent inner prayer is just as effective as a prayer said out loud. But when you have the opportunity, prayers are always best said so others can hear them.

Prayer is powerful and is amplified when praying in groups. You can pray for others to heal or get the guidance they need.

What do you Need Right Now?

This coaching exercise is designed to help you see what you may need right now in your life. Sometimes we can get overwhelmed and lose track of what we need to do in the present moment. This tool will help you prioritize your life and get back on the right track. Sometimes we tend to “put the cart before the horse” and often miss important steps that we need to take in order to reach our desired outcome. Or sometimes we try to rush situations only to have them not work out in our favor. Taking a step back we can see what we need to prioritize in our lives to create more balance.

According to a study on human needs psychology, there are six essential human needs…

These basic needs are:

Certainty – Comfort, pleasure, avoidance of pain, and the feeling of safety and security.

Uncertainty and Variety – Challenges to our normal lives that act to exercise our emotional and physical range.

Significance – The need to feel special, important, and wanted. The need to be respected, admired and accepted by others.

Love and Connection – The need for connection with other human beings. (It is important to both love and be loved.)

Growth – If we are not growing we’re dying. It is essential to think beyond yourself, beyond your fears and limitations, in order to grow, love, and understand. Remember also that the power of freedom is the power of growth and creation. Tap into that power.

Contribution – To be fulfilled we need to contribute to others. Contribution gives meaning to life.

This session is intended to clarify what needs are not being fulfilled and what may be blocking you from fulfilling those needs. Do you need to communicate more effectively, forgive yourself or others, remove fears of guilt, or to adjust your behavior to match what your needs are?

Self-coaching Exercise:

Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin by asking yourself, what do you need right now?

Do you need a particular person to behave in a certain way?

What would it look like if you had it right now? Give yourself a moment to really feel this one.

What else do you need right now? Are you showing that to others?

How could you show others what you need right now?

Are you willing to start right now?

How could you take action?

What may be stopping you or blocking you?

Focus the session: What do you call your higher power? Center yourself and call on them to help you with this. Ask, what would they tell you right now if they were to give you their best advice. Listen closely.

If you could do that right now what would you gain?

Are you whole and complete in your life right now?

What would you need to be whole and complete right now?

Do you really understand what your needs are and are you willing to commit to taking baby steps to get closer to fulfilling your needs?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it in your journal.

Akashic Records

The akashic records are a collection of memories and events that has ever happened in our lives. Imagine a huge filing cabinet of all of your past events and experiences written in full detail. Even though you may not remember everything consciously, somewhere in your memory you already know all of this. Through an akashic record reading, you can access lost information to help you understand something that has happened in the past. You can also access information about past lives, masters, teachers, loved ones and ancestors.

Think of something that is out of balance in your life right now, then imagine being able to identify the connection to something has happened in the past. Once you fully are able to understand and remember the truth, it will set you free.

Journaling

Journaling is a powerful way to record and measure a person’s progress. It can also help us understand why certain things have happened in our lives by reviewing past events. Journaling is also a good way to remind us of the progress we have already made.

Here are a few examples of what types of journal you can keep:

  1. Simple writing – Every night before you go to bed make a few notes about the highlights of your day. This doesn’t need to be a long story; it could just be notes about things like people, feelings, colors, events, etc.
  2. Gratitude Journal – Every night before you go to bed, write at least three things you are grateful for. Example: I’m so grateful for my family, I am grateful for the ability to go to work today, I’m grateful for my health. Of course, more significant things may happen, but it’s okay to note the smaller things too.
  3. Dream Journal – Keep your journal near your bed and as soon as you wake up note your dreams, even if they don’t make any sense. You may look back at them later and understand their meaning.
  4. Worry Journal – Write your fears, worries, frustrations, anxieties, and all unwanted emotions down, describe your feelings. Then write what you would like to happen, or how you want to feel instead.

Automatic Writing: You can also use another form of journaling for finding answers to questions. Take any question that you need to be answered and just start writing about it. Write down the thoughts as quickly as they come to you. Just keep writing and writing. Pay attention to these thoughts, sometimes they come in the form of solutions. If you feel guided and find solutions, take action on them as quickly as possible.

Preparation: Purchase a personal journal.

Begin the Session: Choose one of the journaling methods listed above. Begin to implement this on a daily basis for three days then come back to this exercise and continue.

After three days: Once you have practiced the exercise for at least three days ask yourself these questions:

  • What was the most significant part of this exercise?
  • Did I learn anything new about myself or my situation?
  • What else would I like to get out of this exercise?
  • Does this exercise work for me and do I want to continue to journal?

Create an action plan:

According to what you’ve learned about this exercise, what action steps would you be willing to take? Hold yourself accountable and commit to the plan.

Healthy Boundaries

Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships. A person who always keeps others at a distance (whether emotionally, physically, or otherwise) is said to have rigid boundaries. Alternatively, someone who tends to get too involved with others has poor boundaries. Also, keep in mind that having poor boundaries is also a form of giving your power away.

Healthy Boundaries:

  • Values own opinions.
  • Doesn’t compromise values for others.
  • Shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not over or under share).
  • Knows personal wants and needs, and can communicate them.
  • Accepting when others say “no” to them.

Poor Boundaries:

  • Overshares personal information.
  • Difficulty saying “no” to the requests of others.
  • Over-involved with other’s problems.
  • Dependent on the opinions of others.
  • Accepting of abuse or disrespect.
  • Fears rejection if they do not comply with others.

Rigid Boundaries:

  • Avoids intimacy and close relationships.
  • Unlikely to ask for help.
  • Has few close relationships.
  • Very protective of personal information.
  • May seem detached, even with romantic partners.
  • Keeps others at a distance to avoid the possibility of rejection.

Most people have a mix of different boundary types. For example, someone could have healthy boundaries at work, poor boundaries in romantic relationships, and a mix of all three types with their family. The appropriateness of boundaries depends on the setting. What’s appropriate to say when you’re out with friends might not be appropriate when you’re at work. Some cultures have very different expectations when it comes to boundaries. For example, in some cultures, it’s considered wildly inappropriate to express emotions publicly. In other cultures, emotional expression is encouraged.

Self-coaching exercise:

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Ask yourself the following questions…

Think about a person with whom you struggle to set healthy boundaries. This could mean that your boundaries are too rigid (you keep your distance), too poor (you open up too much), or there’s some other problem that isn’t so easily labeled. Who do you struggle to set healthy boundaries with?

Boundary Categories: What categories would you choose to describe your relationship with this person you listed above?

  • Physical Boundaries
  • Intellectual Boundaries
  • Emotional Boundaries
  • Sexual Boundaries
  • Material Boundaries
  • Time Boundaries

Take a moment to imagine what it will be like when you begin to establish healthy boundaries with this person.

  1. What are some specific actions you can take to improve your boundaries with this person?
  2. How do you think they will respond to these changes?
  3. How do you think your life will be different once you’ve established healthy boundaries with this person?

Focus the session: What was the most significant part about this session?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to have better boundaries? Write it down.

E+R=O Event + Response = Outcome

This exercise helps us understand why we keep experiencing the events we don’t want. It also shows us how to redirect our actions and responses to get the outcome we do want.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by looking at the old response…

Think of an event in your life that keeps happening that makes you feel uncomfortable. Explain this event and describe what keeps happening that makes you feel uncomfortable. This could be something that you really want to change but feel like you have no idea how.

Event: Think of a person, place, situation or thing that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Response: Now ask yourself how you previously reacted or responded to the event. How could you have responded to the event differently?

Outcome: What was the outcome or result of the way you previously responded to the event?

Now let’s look at the new response…

New Response: How you will respond to the event now?

Remember, if you don’t like the outcome you previously got, then you have to change the way you respond to the event. If you change your response, you have to get a different outcome.

Desired Outcome: What do you expect the new outcome to be with your new response? What would you like the outcome to be? How could you respond to the event differently?

“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.” -W. Clement Stone.

Focus the session: Take a moment to visualize the new outcome.

Action Plan: What one thing are you willing to commit to? When will you do it? Why will you do it

Wheel of Balance

The wheel of balance is a powerful coaching exercise that can help you prioritize and balance a few main areas of your life.

These areas include Friends and Family, Money and Finances, Health, Physical Environment, Fun and Recreation, Career and Life Purpose, Personal Growth, and Relationships. By looking at each section individually, we can learn where to begin to balance them all.

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Preparation: Draw a circle on a sheet of paper. Divide it into eight sections (the same way you would cut a pie). Label them 1 through 8.

  1. Friends and Family

  2. Money and Finances

  3. Health

  4. Physical Environment

  5. Fun and Recreation

  6. Career and Life Purpose

  7. Personal Growth

  8. Intimate Relationship

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session:

For each section, ask yourself…

On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 means needs improvement and 10 means very satisfied), where do you feel you are right now compared to where you want to be? Fill in this section of the pie from the inside out until it reaches your number. Explain why you choose that number and what would it take to bring it to a 10? Take notes. Now continue filling in all the sections for each category.

Once the wheel is completed, look at it and ask, if you had one section you would choose to work on for this session, what would it be? Focus the rest of the session around it.

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to better that section of your life? Write it down.

Dreams Visions and Déjà Vu

Everyone dreams, but not everyone remembers their dreams. Those who could remember their dreams were held in high regard to kings and queens and in some North American Indigenous cultures if you had a dream and remembered it, you were to share it with the chief. Some dreams would foretell prophecy of events to come and the chief needed to know this so he could make preparations.

There are dreams and there are visions. We dream when we are asleep and we have visions when we are awake.

Sleeping Dreams

Our dreams are always trying to show us something that we need to change, work on, let go of, or take some action on. Often times owls and lizards are the messengers that remind us to pay attention to our dreams. One of the ways we can do this is to keep a dream journal.

Keep your journal near your bed and as soon as you wake up note your dreams, even if they don’t make any sense. Most dreams are forgotten within ten minutes of waking so it is essential to record them as soon as you wake up. Write down specific details and events that occur in the dream including time, dates, places, people, objects, actions, and other symbols that you think are important. By piecing together the different parts of a dream, you will be able to start interpreting the individual contents of your dream and the dream as a whole. You may look back at them later and understand their meaning.

Nightmares are dreams that create a lot of fear in us. It is said that in order to move past some chapter in our lives, we have to face some fear. Sometimes this is too hard for us to face in waking life so our guides will play it out in our dreams. So when you have a nightmare, say thank you to your guides for helping you to process this in the dream state rather than in real life. Nightmares can also mean that we are running from something in our lives that we need to stop and face in waking life.

One of the founding fathers of dream interpretations was the psychologist Carl Jung. Jung believed that dreams were a window into the unconscious mind. He believed that while the dreamer is sleeping, their unconscious mind is working on finding solutions to problems they face in their conscious mind.

Dream dictionaries are also a good reference tool to use when trying to figure out the meaning of the dream.

Visions

Sometimes we have visions when we are least expecting them. Then there are those who intentionally go on a vision quest to receive a vision. This is usually because they need some major guidance in their lives.

We can also have visions during meditation, prayer, shamanic journeying, or just sitting and gazing out the window. This could also be called day-dreaming. A vision is a glimpse of some event happening in the future.

Déjà Vu

The term Déjà Vu is French and literally means, “already seen.” Those who have experienced the feeling describe it as an overwhelming sense of familiarity with something that shouldn’t be familiar at all. Have you ever had Deja Vu? Deja Vu is the subconscious mind recalling a dream that our conscious minds did not recall. It seems highly possible that Deja Vu could be a prediction from a dream that you don’t remember having or a lost prediction.

Whether you have a night-dream or a vision, Spirit is trying to get your attention.

Dream interpretation is the process of assigning meaning to dreams. In many ancient societies, such as those of Egypt and Greece, dreaming was considered a supernatural communication or a means of divine intervention, whose message could be interpreted by people with these associated spiritual powers.

The dream is a series of images, which are apparently contradictory and nonsensical but arise in reality from psychological material which yields a clear meaning.” – Carl Jung