Vision Quest

A vision quest is a solo journey that takes place in nature. It is a time to step back and withdraw and remove ourselves from our personal confusion. Our inner truth emerges from stillness and retreat. This is a time when we are “seeking a vision.”

The vision quest is one of the oldest methods used by tribal people to seek direction in life. Usually, under the guidance of a medicine person, the seeker is sent to a remote location to fast and pray for several days.

The vision quest is a time for us to ask assistance from our spirit allies and ancestors so that our choices will be reinforced by their wisdom. Keep in mind when you are seeking answers that you stay open and accepting of the guidance you receive.

The Lakota Sioux word for Vision Quest is Hembleciya (ham-blay-che-ya). The word Hembleciya means “Crying for a Dream.” Sometimes this ceremony is called “going up on the hill,” because people would often go to a nearby mountain to carry out their Vision Quest.

This is a time to get guidance, clarity and direction on life’s larger questions. These are questions like…

  • Who am I?
  • What am I meant to do with my life?
  • What is my life’s mission?
  • What is my purpose in life?
  • Is it time for me to change careers?
  • What must I do with my relationship?
  • What can I do about my health?

Questions like these are often answered on a vision quest when we leave the business of our lives behind for a moment.

Even if you don’t have a burning question, it’s still a good idea to go on a vision quest to explore the depths of your soul. Your soul knows the truth and if we take the time to sit in this quietude, then the answers to all of our questions will become clear. But we first must become still to receive these messages.

Exercise: Schedule at least one day and/or one night where you will take time away from people and situations (around the full moon is best). Bring your cell phone but keep it on silent and put it away. You only have it at this point for emergencies. Create a sacred circle of stones or surround a small area with sage or cedar for protection. Simply become one with nature, be still, watch for the signs, and open your heart to receive the messages from your higher power. Try to stay awake throughout the night but if you do fall asleep, try and remember your dreams. Then you can journal about your experience.

Items to bring: Drum, sage, and any other ceremonial items that you believe may help you.

*Always let someone know where you will be and what time you intend to return.

*Bring plenty of water

The High Priestess

The origin of the High Priestess II

The High Priestess is the second Major Arcana card in traditional Tarot decks. The High Priestess is identified as the female indwelling presence of the divine. She wears plain blue robes and sits with her hands in her lap. She has a lunar crescent at her feet, and wears a horned diadem on her head, with a globe in the middle. She is seated between the white and black pillars ‘J’ and ‘B’ for Jachin and Boaz of the mystic Temple of Solomon. The veil of the Temple is behind her, it is embroidered with palm leaves (male) and pomegranates (female). The High Priestess is a card of mystery, stillness, and passivity. This card suggests that it is time to retreat and reflect upon the situation and trust your inner instincts to guide you through it. Things around you are not what they appear to be right now. The card upright represents hidden talents, Intuition, Mystery, spiritual insight, and things yet to be revealed. The card reversed represents information withheld, inner voice blocked, self-awareness has already happened, no more meditation is needed, lack of personal harmony, and secrets. She represents the element of water and her ruling planet is the moon. It is also believed that her divine counterpart would be the hierophant. The Hierophant represents tradition and commitment and is considered one of the marriage cards of the tarot. Together they represent the most powerful couple coming together yet remaining individuals.


A time to search for one’s inner self. A time of reflection. Intuition can at times, be more powerful than logic. Answers lie deep within and require much thought and soul searching.

Knows her value and her worth

Guided by Intuition



Spiritual wisdom

Higher power

Feminine divinity

Ask Powerful Questions

A Life Coach knows that asking questions is the most effective way to get to the core of a coaching session. Questions are your most useful tool. Some clients may be used to being told what to do and how to do it, while others feel they are expected to already know everything on their own. When it comes to figuring out things for themselves, clients like these may not know how to and this may cause them to remain co-dependent or lost. This is a very common learned behavior. Asking powerful questions will begin to help your client to start thinking for themselves, and will really get their wheels turning. The coach will also know when to ask deeper questions in search of the truth.

Imagine your client just said, “When I think of being out on my own, I feel scared.” This is a great opportunity to ask deeper questions like, “Why do you think that makes you feel scared?”

Imagine your client says, “I get so angry when he tells me what to do all the time.” Here you could say, “Why do you get so angry?”

As a coach, it is important to feel confident enough to keep asking deeper questions. The more you do this, the faster you will get to the root of the problem and onto a solution and action plan.

When forming a question, use a strategy that will help them dig deeper. Always look for a deeper meaning. Keep asking questions until you get to the source, and there are no questions left to ask.

7 Most Powerful Questions

There are 7 basic questions in conducting a successful Life Coaching session…

What do you want?

Why do you want it?

What have you done so far?

What would it look like if you already had it?

What may be stopping you?

What could you do?

When will you do it?

In addition to the seven basic questions below, here are some other great sample questions that start with who, what, why, where, when and how…

Who do you need to forgive?

Who was there?

What are your thoughts about the situation?

What was going on then?

What do you need to heal?

What’s blocking you?

What are you afraid of?

What could you do differently?

Why do you think they said that?

Why do you think that happened?

Why would you do it that way?

Where do you want to be in five years?

Where do you think that belief came from?

Where do you see this going?

When was the first time you remember feeling that?

When did that begin to show up in your life?

When do you think you will start doing that?

How do you think that happened?

How do you think you could you got to this place in your life?

How can you change that?

Should vs Could

Try to avoid the word “should” and replace it with “could.” Maybe you have heard the term, “don’t should on yourself.” Sometimes your client will say something like, “I should have known better.” This is a form of self-punishment and is not healthy. Instead, remind them that they are always just doing the best they can.

Never be afraid to ask a question that comes from your heart

Trust your intuition. That is probably the question your client needs to be asked at that time.

Becoming the Hollow Bone

As the facilitator/practitioner, it is very important for you to remain neutral and unattached to the clients’ story. It is extremely important to avoid becoming emotionally involved no matter how bad or traumatizing the story may be. When facilitating this exercise for a friend or family member, this is also very important and I would recommend explaining to them that even though you are my “mom, husband, son, etc”, just let go of the attachment of that just for the purposes of this moment/session and allow me to be a neutral guide. This allows your client to build trust with you. If you become emotionally involved with your client’s story then they will begin to lose trust. Ancient teachings call this technique, “becoming the hollow bone.”

In some traditions and practice, the facilitator would use a hollow bone during a soul retrieval to actually blow the missing part of the soul back into the body through the chest.

Frank Fools Crow was a revered Lakota Holy Man who taught that you must become like a “hollow bone” to be a great healer. He believed that to become a conduit for the source of all creation fulfills the destiny of the human spirit to sustain the order of existence. According to Fools Crow, “We are called to become hollow bones for our people. We are not supposed to seek power for our personal use and honor. What we bones really become is the pipeline that connects Wakan Tanka, the helpers and the community together.” In his becoming a hollow bone, Fools Crow believed that he went through four stages:

First, he called in Wakan Tanka (Great Mystery) to rid himself of anything that would impede him in any way, such as doubt, questions or reluctance.

Then he recognized himself as a clean tube, ready to be filled with hope, possibilities, and power.

He experienced the power as it comes surging into him.

Finally, giving the power away to others, knowing that as he is emptied out, the Higher Powers will keep filling him with even greater power to be given away.

Hollow Bone Meditation

Close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply seven times. Inhale for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and then exhale for a count of four. Focus on the breath as it enters the nose and fills your lungs, and then gently exhale any tension you might feel, clearing the energy channels of your body. Release all of your worldly concerns, doubts, and fears, allowing them to drift off on the air of the wind, on the breath of life. Feel yourself relaxing with each breath.

When you are fully relaxed, ask the “Higher Powers” to remove any blockages that prevent you from functioning as a hollow bone. Repeat the affirmation, “I choose to be a clean, hollow bone.” Visualize yourself as a hollow bone or tube that is all shiny on the inside and empty. The cleaner the bone, the more energy you can channel through it, and the faster it will flow.

If you have a drum, begin drumming a steady tempo of about 3 beats per second and imagine the power of spirit flowing through you. You may feel it, see it, sense it, or simply imagine it. As you focus on it, it will occur, for all energy follows thought. If your mind wanders, bring the focus of your attention back to the beat of the drum. Drumming opens portals to the spirit world, draws spirit in, and opens you up to receive it.

Then as you become full begin to share it with your client. This exercise is a great way to start any session.

Also, when you become the hollow bone, it allows for you to become fully present to those you are working with.

The Empath

Being an empath can be a lonely journey. It’s full of heartache and poor boundaries. Learn to transform empathy into compassion. You don’t have to feel the pain and suffering of another. It’s not your responsibility to take on the pain of another. It’s okay to hold space and express care and concern but it is enabling to try and rob someone of the experience their soul came here to feel.


What is intuition? It is the ability to acquire knowledge without proof, evidence, or conscious reasoning, or without understanding how the knowledge was acquired. Intuition can also be described as our sixth sense, inner voice, gut feeling, and inner knowing. It is the core of inner guidance where good decision-making comes from. It can come in the form of a thought or a feeling or both. We are all born with intuition. It is a completely natural part of who we are. Why don’t we listen to it? How do we develop it and learn to trust it?

“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap of consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you, and you don’t know how or why.” –Albert Einstein

Prayer and Intention

Prayer is a good practice in any culture or religion. We pray to communicate to our Creator, Spirit or the forces that be that we may ask for help or just send our thanks and gratitude for what we have. Prayer raises our vibration through connecting with Source. Prayer is a thought, an intention, a dream, a desire a wish.

By James Redfield and The Celestine Prophecy

The Celestine Prophecy is made up of Twelve Spiritual Insights. The Eleventh Insight is the precise method through which we hold the vision. For centuries, religious scriptures, poems, and philosophies have pointed to a latent power of mind within all of us that mysteriously helps to affect what occurs in the future. It has been called faith power, positive thinking, and the power of prayer. We are now taking this power seriously enough to bring a fuller knowledge of it into public awareness. We are finding that this prayer power is a field of intention, which moves out from us and can be extended and strengthened, especially when we connect with others in a common vision. This is the power through which we hold the vision of a spiritual world and build the energy in ourselves, and in others, to make this vision a reality.

The Power of Prayer

In this level of consciousness, we become more purpose-driven and receptive to how those in the afterlife are lifting us up. We begin to comprehend the real nature of prayer and guided purpose. We realize that prayer works within the Karmic design. The more we are in alignment with the principle of giving — and our inner intuition to accurately help others — we will sense our heightened, creative power and see it working through our prayers. When we use this power for uplifting the spiritual consciousness of others, we draw more powerful people into our lives to uplift us. The key is discovering that affirmative prayer, practiced with the emotion of gratitude (it WILL happen), establishes the strongest faith validity.

Ancient Texts

There is an ancient language and a field of energy that connects us to that field through thought, emotion and feeling, not speaking.

  1. The feeling is the prayer
  2. We must feel as if our prayers have already been answered

When you make the two “Thought” and “Emotion” one, you will say to the mountain “mountain move away” and the mountain will move away. If the two (thought and emotion) make peace with each other in this one house (you) the mountain will move away. When you can marry your thought and your emotion into one single potent force, that is when you have the power to speak to the world. When you make the two become one in your heart, you create the feelings in our body.

So how do we do this? Have you ever heard “ask and you shall receive?” The asking is not done with the voice. To ask we must speak to the field (the divine matrix) in the language that the field recognizes. The field doesn’t recognize our voice, it recognizes the power in our hearts. Our hearts create magnetic electrical waves. that’s what the field recognizes.

Ask without hidden motive and judgment and you will be surrounded by your answer. Be enveloped by your desire that your gladness be full. Feel as if you already have what you want or what you want to experience has already happened.

Create the feeling in your heart as if the prayer is already answered.

You must make a future dream a present fact by assuming a feeling of your wish fulfilled to come from a place that has already happened.

Gratitude will also help create this feeling.

A Morning Gratitude Prayer by Rebekah Simpson

Thank you, Creator, for this new day. Another day to live. Thank you for a good night’s sleep, a warm bed, and this house that is provided for me.

Thank you for My family, please continue to protect them.

Thank you for my protection and for guiding me through signs in nature.

Thank you for all that I will experience today, may it bring me peace and happiness.

Thank you for any opportunities that I may have today to lift others up, to empower them and bring peace and joy into their lives.

When to Pray?

Anytime is a good time to pray. You don’t have to say your prayer out loud. A silent inner prayer is just as effective as a prayer said out loud. But when you have the opportunity, prayers are always best said so others can hear them.

Prayer is powerful and is amplified when praying in groups. You can pray for others to heal or get the guidance they need.

Happy Full Corn Moon September 20th 2021

Having healthy boundaries is always a good thing but this moon helps us dissolve fear-based boundaries that separate us from others, encouraging us to let our guard down and release our ego. In this vulnerable state, you can feel things more deeply, causing your level of sensitivity and empathy to rise. This full moon has the power to help you feel what someone else is feeling, helping you become a more loving and intuitive person. It opens us up to more compassion and understanding. As we move into fall, the equinox happening in just two days, take time to reflect on everything you are grateful for this past year. Reflect on your accomplishments and in preparation for the wintertime where we spend more time going within, we can dream up what we would like to accomplish in the future.

Dark Night of the Soul

The term originated from a 16th-century priest who wanted his congregation to follow Christ in a different way and they rejected him and threw him in a dark hole. While he was in there he wrote a poem titled, “dark night of the soul.” Eventually, the congregation ended up taking him out of the hole and canonizing him as a saint.

Dark night of the soul represents a feeling that you’ve lost everything and you don’t even know how you are anymore.

You might be experiencing a dark night of the soul if you are experiencing any of these:

Addictions (alcohol, gambling, sex, prescription meds, etc.)
Apathy (lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern)
Anger and hatred toward self and/or others
Blocked memory
Confusion or lack of direction
Emotionally unavailable or withdrawn
Guilt or shame
Lack of motivation to live life or suicidal thoughts
Lack of purpose
Negative beliefs (Example: everybody lies, people are stupid or I’m not good enough)
Physical pain
PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Unable to receive or give love
Weight gain

Situations that can cause dark night of the soul:

An accident
Divorce or separation
Extreme fear
Job loss
Lack of understanding
Loss of a loved one
Negative influence
Neglected as a child
Prolonged Stress

Once we are able to identify that we are in fact experiencing some type of dark night of the soul then we can begin to understand why it’s happening and what we need to do to heal from it.

Soul retrieval is an emotional healing technique that can help you heal from a dark night experience… learn more about soul retrieval.

New beginnings always follow a dark night of the soul moment. We grow, heal or learn something from the experience. Shead the ego. Spiritual awakening. Become our true authentic selves.

Mindful Money Management

The Money Management exercise can help us gain better control over finances and developed a better money mindset. This exercise is for those who would like to sharpen their money management skills and develop a more mindful relationship with their money.

Financial success starts in the mind. We have to decide first what we want to add to our lives with the money we make. Next, we have to believe that we deserve what we want and know that it is possible to achieve. Once we decide that it is worth the energy and attention, we need to visualize it as if it were already ours. Then, so long as we are willing to pay the price to get it, we will see our rewards with perseverance and time. It is important to be mindful and go through the conscious stages of gaining wealth. Without mindfulness, it can be easy to get caught up in the mind thinking we cannot or will not gain what we deserve.

The first steps to becoming wealthy are to identify and replace any negative beliefs we may have about money. It’s odd to think that anybody has negative beliefs about wealth but in many cases, people do. These kinds of beliefs may have been programmed into our subconscious minds. You may have heard: “Money doesn’t grow on trees. “, “Money is the root of all evil.” or “You have to have money to make money.” These messages, heard from early childhood, are wrong and can actually sabotage us later in our financial success.

Example: Here are three steps that can help us turn around our limiting beliefs about money:

Write down all your limiting beliefs about money…

Example: Money is the root of all evil.
Challenge, make fun of and argue with your limiting beliefs.

Example: Money is the root of awesome vacations!
Create a positive turnaround statement.

Example: Money can help create more fun in my life

Use the power of releasing to accelerate your millionaire mindset. Whenever you have a negative thought about money, use the following exercise to release it.

Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Answer the following questions…

  1. What am I feeling right now? Focus on the feeling that arises as you experience your negative limiting belief.
  2. Do I want to welcome and allow this feeling? Experience the feeling whole-heartedly, acknowledge it and let it be. Our tendency is to ignore negative thoughts and feelings, but doing so tends to keep them around even longer.
  3. Can I let this feeling go? Ask yourself this question, yes and no are acceptable answers.
  4. Will I let it go? Ask yourself if you are willing to let this go. Would you rather have this feeling or would you rather be free from it?
  5. When will I let it go? This is the last invitation to let it go now. Remember that letting go is a decision that you can make any time you choose.

Keep using this exercise every time you have a negative or limiting tough about money until you feel free of that particular feeling.

Visualize what you want as if you already have it. Take the time each day to see all of your financial goals as already being accomplished. Visualize images that affirm your desired outcome. See the check you want with whatever big numbers you want on it. See the people handing you the cash! Visualize what you want your bank statement to look like. Finally, remember to always include the feeling of gratitude and appreciation for having any financial abundance. This feeling will attract more abundance to you.

Become aware of your spending. Most people aren’t aware of what they spend in a month. The following exercise can help us become more aware of what we spend per month.

Get a journal or notepad and write down how much you earn per month. What is your total monthly income?

Now make a list of all of your monthly expenses such as your mortgage or rent, car payment, insurance, electricity, gas, water, sewer, phone, internet, cable, food, fuel, etc. Average the amount spent on each of these things each month. Keep a detailed record of spending for the whole of the month then compare to your estimates and adjust accordingly.

Make a note of everything you spent money on.

Now put a star next to your needs. These are the things you have to have.

Put a question mark next to the things that were more of a want than a need. These are the things that you have more of a choice on.

How much money did you have left over? Did you put any in savings?

Is there something you would like to buy or do?

How much money would you have to save for it?

How much money could you put in savings, if you saved over time, each month?

Realistically, if you saved this much per month, when could you buy or do it?

Are you willing to use this exercise and keep track of your spending per month?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it down.